My first time getting rejected and it feels horrible

[Dayum itz jee]

So i was at the park after a few games of ball i noticed this HB7.5 and i had to go and was in a rush.. so i approached her and i said:

Me: Hey whats your name?
Her: *Smiles, I'm <Name> (dont wanna blow up her spot.)
Me: I gotta go right now but i'll like to talk to you again give me a number i can reach you at.
Her: *Continues smiling* Uhmm.... No =\
Me: Oh alright, bye

What i did wrong:

- I did not introduce myself
- I also didn't really say it loud enough and my confidence level was at 65% which shoulda been at 100%

This is my first time getting rejected, i have done this lots of times and it always works.. Oh well.. I'm still the man and life goes on...

 

[Sean O]

Well, if you weren't as confident as you could have been, that's probably the reason why it didn't work. But, as you said, life goes on. One rejection from one girl out of millions isn't the end of the world.

 

[pooparu]

So i was at the park after a few games of ball i noticed this HB7.5 and i had to go and was in a rush.. so i approached her and i said:

Me: Hey whats your name?
Her: *Smiles, I'm <Name> (dont wanna blow up her spot.)
Me: I gotta go right now but i'll like to talk to you again give me a number i can reach you at.
Her: *Continues smiling* Uhmm.... No =\
Me: Oh alright, bye

What i did wrong:

- I did not introduce myself
- I also didn't really say it loud enough and my confidence level was at 65% which shoulda been at 100%

This is my first time getting rejected, i have done this lots of times and it always works.. Oh well.. I'm still the man and life goes on...

Good job on approaching, I'm not gonna really criticize I just wanna laugh at the fact that you're confidence as at 65%.

How in the hell do you calculate confidence percentage? Lol, that just seemed funny to me.

 

[Bvbidd]

lol

How the hell can a random chick sense your percentage of confidence? If you went up there and said it cleary and she still rejected you I would say it's because she either does not like the way you look, or has a boyfriend, or just felt it was awkward because you only said one sentence to her without even saying who you were. Probally the last one.

 

[Dayum itz jee]

^^^.. Well i did see a guy with her and i saw his arm around her when they were sitting down... but i thought he was just a friend and he's just another AFC chump. I'm pretty sure its her first time getting approached by a guy.

How in the hell do you calculate confidence percentage? Lol, that just seemed funny to me.

I was just feeling a lil shakey inside for some reason im never like that... and my confidence level was at 65% thats what i ment..

 

[pooparu]

I sitll don't understand how you judge 65% of confidence lol.

But for some real advice, yo man, everyone gets rejected, at least you didnt pass up some opportunties like I have (don't make me tell lol), so just laugh it off.

 

[DonJuanForever]

lol, well you approached huh, lol.

No seriously, no sexual state bro. You might have the masculine part done, if not, you need it, then just add the sexual state. You won't get every girl, you can't. But when you are in the "state" you notice you have a particular flow and you really just fly into meeting people without really thinking about it.

Out of 10 folks, bout 6 become numbas, and out of the 6 numbas, 2 fvcks. Not bad for about an hour of just licking your lips and grabbing your dyck.

DJF

 

[Krassus]

Honestly, the whole thing just sounded really unnatural and rehearsed. Here's how i woulda played it. Oh, but before i get to that, the first and most important thing you have to remember is: STATE! What state of mind are you approaching with? This is TEN TIMES more important than the actual words you say! Are you approaching as a GIVER or as a USER? What do i mean? Alright, are you approaching because you love yourself, your life and your reality and have so much to offer that you just want to SHARE IT WITH THE WORLD, or are you approaching because "you need a girl"? Work on this. I kid you not, once you get the inner game right, the mindset, it doesn't even matter what the hell you say anymore! You could walk up her and make the pigeon noice (gooor gooor) with a huge grin, then stretch out your hand and say "Hey, i'm Jake! Alright, i'm not USUALLY this weird, so i guess its just your luck that you caught me on one of those nights Listen, i wanna be honest with you... i was walking by you and just... You know when you see someone and you just KNOW that you should talk to them? Its really hard to describe, but i just felt like i would really regret it afterwards if i didn't walk up to you and said something! I'm usually kinda shy, but there was just SOMETHING ABOUT YOU and it almost PULLED me towards you! So yea, hi " And just roll from there. See how all of that came out really NATURAL AND SPONTANEOUS? Definitely NOT rehearsed? How it just FLOWED? That's how you should play it. In order to do this, you have to learn to clear your mind ("A mind still, like water") and approach with a completely empty head. Empty of NEED that is. Think of chimpunks on cocaine, or alcoholic clowns, or a little boy yelling at his dad on the street: "You can't touch me, you're not my priest!" Haha you get the idea. Think of anything BUT the kind of needy, desperate crap that guys who never get laid usually think about.

 

[Krassus]

i did see a guy with her and i saw his arm around her when they were sitting down... but i thought he was just a friend and he's just another AFC chump.

Way to go! This is the PERFECT mindset to have!

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

lol
because you only said one sentence to her without even saying who you were.

Bingo.

 

[Dayum itz jee]

Good **** Krassus I guess it does sound pretty rehearsed

 

[Dayum itz jee]

Honestly, the whole thing just sounded really unnatural and rehearsed. Here's how i woulda played it. Oh, but before i get to that, the first and most important thing you have to remember is: STATE! What state of mind are you approaching with? This is TEN TIMES more important than the actual words you say! Are you approaching as a GIVER or as a USER? What do i mean? Alright, are you approaching because you love yourself, your life and your reality and have so much to offer that you just want to SHARE IT WITH THE WORLD, or are you approaching because "you need a girl"? Work on this. I kid you not, once you get the inner game right, the mindset, it doesn't even matter what the hell you say anymore! You could walk up her and make the pigeon noice (gooor gooor) with a huge grin, then stretch out your hand and say "Hey, i'm Jake! Alright, i'm not USUALLY this weird, so i guess its just your luck that you caught me on one of those nights Listen, i wanna be honest with you... i was walking by you and just... You know when you see someone and you just KNOW that you should talk to them? Its really hard to describe, but i just felt like i would really regret it afterwards if i didn't walk up to you and said something! I'm usually kinda shy, but there was just SOMETHING ABOUT YOU and it almost PULLED me towards you! So yea, hi " And just roll from there. See how all of that came out really NATURAL AND SPONTANEOUS? Definitely NOT rehearsed? How it just FLOWED? That's how you should play it. In order to do this, you have to learn to clear your mind ("A mind still, like water") and approach with a completely empty head. Empty of NEED that is. Think of chimpunks on cocaine, or alcoholic clowns, or a little boy yelling at his dad on the street: "You can't touch me, you're not my priest!" Haha you get the idea. Think of anything BUT the kind of needy, desperate crap that guys who never get laid usually think about.

How long have you been DJing till you got this mindset, and all this just comes from deep within without thinking?

 

[Distant Light]

This is my first time getting rejected, i have done this lots of times and it always works.. Oh well.. I'm still the man and life goes on...

???

How many girls have you approached, and are you telling me you've layed, kissed or day2ed every girl that you've approached so far. Its hard to believe, but ya nice to see you approached, you basically just tried to get a number that was it, there was no attraction and no rapport/connection. You basically just said your opener and blew yourself out the set.

 

[Local Celebrity]

The thing about getting rejected is you always get experience from it, now you know what not to do. And atleast you had the balls to approach, alot of people in your place would've walked right past her. Don't sweat it.

 

[Dayum itz jee]

how do you get it to come out naturally? without thinking and just say it and have to come out so smooth? I alway have to think about it first..

 

[Krassus]

How long have you been DJing till you got this mindset, and all this just comes from deep within without thinking?

Anything worthwhile takes time. It takes years to really MASTER your social life, just as it takes years to master your finances, your body, etc. Remember, what we're after here are EXTRAORDINARY results (being able to pick out any chick in sight and get her is pretty damn extraordinary as far as society is concerned), so that's the amount of effort this'll take. Don't let that worry you - all you have to be concerned about it TODAY. How will you use TODAY as a building block in the wall of your castle? With enough bricks, the castle will eventually be built - there's just NO other alternative! Just make sure that you make YOURSELF the focus of this journey, and not chicks. You'll notice that the more you improve yourself, the more your social skills will improve "on their own." People who spend all their time studying seduction end up getting nowhere. Make sure that your FOCUS is YOU.

 

[Krassus]

how do you get it to come out naturally? without thinking and just say it and have to come out so smooth? I alway have to think about it first..

Practice With time, you'll be able to control your mind and make it do quite literally whatever the hell you want it to. But remember, you can't achieve this by only focusing on women. You have to work on your life (your body, money, etc), read (philosophy, psycology, etc) and then it'll come.

 

[Dayum itz jee]

Thanks alot!!! ^^^ really appreciated the help

 

[BOWIE]

You first and only mistake is that you are still thinking about it. You obviously lacktrue confidence if you ponder a rejection. 65%??? You're thinking WAY to hard bro!! If anything, it says that she has standards and she isn't just giving numbers to random guys, she might have a boyfriend who she truly loves, she might be devoutly religious, or you might just be a turd. There's a time to be ponderous and there's a time to STFU and keep on truckin' buddy.

 

[blinkwatt]

Practice With time, you'll be able to control your mind and make it do quite literally whatever the hell you want it to.

How true this is....

Example;I used to be one that argueed back with trouble makers/drama queens. Now I have learned they aren't worth your time and aren't going to help advance you in life. There is always something in my heads that just "clicks" everytime now when you know you shouldn't "stoop" to others' level. It didn't come in a day,it took me a half a year,so practice.

But remember, you can't achieve this by only focusing on women. You have to work on your life (your body, money, etc), read (philosophy, psycology, etc) and then it'll come.

.......GREAT POINT!

When I started to get me life straight,focusing on work and a career,only then did everything feel in line. I then joined a gym with the money I earned from working. I weighted 130,5 8',and was semi-cut when I joined around Christmas 05',I just hit 152 the other day. Those 22 pounds didn't come easily,I haven't missed a day on my routine(4 days a week) in 8 months. The result though of my working out shot my self esteem and confidence THROUGH THE ROOF! There isn't anything I can't do anymore. You have to understand that ANYTHING CAN BE DONE,ITS UP TO YOU TO DO IT!

With my new career,Real Estate Agent/Loan Officer, I think my confidence became most evident. My broker said "You are what I'm looking for, confident,sharp dressed, professional looking people who have the drive to do what they want."

Confidence is easily the most important key to success!