My first Thread, about a girl at work...

[KS123]

Ok, so I've been talkin to this girl at work. I dont know if she likes me or not. We've gotten lunch a couple of times and the last time, when I asked if she wanted to go, she said she wasnt hungry but she'd go with me anyway.

She laughs at the **** I say, even if its not really funny. But she has trouble keeping eye contact. She looks down after a few seconds.

Shes either shy, or she doesnt like me. I ask her questions and she gives me short answers, she doesn't elaborate much. and its really annoying. I'm gonna ask her straight up is shes just shy or if she hates me. She didnt even say bye to me when she left... What the ****.

 

[Don 'Ron]

Okay... so let's review:

(1) You ask her out to lunch. She's not hungry, but she goes anyway;

(2) She laughs at stuff you say, even when it's not all that funny;

(3) She loses eye contact every few seconds.

Here's the deal:

(1) She doesn't want to eat but wants to spend time with you because she LIKES you;

(2) She laughs at stuff that may or may not be funny because you're making her feel giddy and happy inside, indicating that she LIKES you;

(3) She likes looking at you, but doesn't want to give the appearance that she's gazing at you since she's not sure how you feel... BECAUSE SHE LIKES YOU.

"But what if she's shy?" you ask. So what?? Why you would assume she hates you is beyond me, especially if she's going out of her way to spend time with you (and believe me, if she's going to lunch with you and not eating, she's DEFINATELY going out of her way!). However, the LAST THING you want to do to someone who is shy is call them out on it. She's knows she's shy, you know she's shy - so what? That just makes it YOUR job to make her comfortable around you until she comes out of her shell.

But, in short, don't overthink this whole thing, man, or you'll end up cutting off your own foot with this one. She likes you, she's shy, and the best thing you could do is keep asking her places and getting to know her.

 

[KS123]

alright, so I guess I shouldnt call her out on the shy thing.

I just gotta get her somewhere out of work.

 

[AmIAFC]

Originally posted by KS123
alright, so I guess I shouldnt call her out on the shy thing.

I just gotta get her somewhere out of work.

Does she ever ask you what you're doing for the weekend or after work?

 

[KS123]

Originally posted by AmIAFC
Does she ever ask you what you're doing for the weekend or after work?

mmmmmm... nope, she never really asks me anything. She did mention what she did the night before a couple of times. But she really doesnt initiate conversations with me. She wont even really come over to say hi. thats why I dont really get her.

And, I asked her friend out in the summer and got denied. So thats why u havent asked her out yet.

 

[KS123]

bump?

 

[KS123]

Minor update.

Went to get lunch with her again saturday, but... her friend came with us, the one I asked out in the summer. Didn't have a chance to get her number, whatever, i'll definatly get it next week. And I know exactly what i'm gonna say.

 

[The Juan and only]

Something about this entire situition has me worried. Read plenty of articles from the DJ bible before you go out.