"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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My first successful Pickup!

Spade

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Hey guys, my names Spade and im new to the forum.

Recently, i had my first successful pickup which was like 4 days ago while i was still in Costa Rica. Our school had taken us there for community service(i'm in grade 11 btw) and at night we were free to hit the clubs but we had to be back by 12:30. So basically me and 3 of my buddies enter this club called Zi lounge and when we get there i head to the bar to get a drink and after a few minutes 2 of my buddies hit the dance floor. I join them right after im done with my drink and im going through the crowd looking for them when i see them talking to two hot girls one blonde and the other with black hair(the one i wana go for), so i join them and i ask them their names. I shake hands with the blonde and when i shake hands with my target i just slowly pull her in towards me and do that swirl thing to her(so were still on the dance floor but away from the set). So now ive isolated her and we start talking, we chat a little to get to know each other and we're kinda dancing slowly at the same time. So after some smalltalk i kinda sense she might get a little bored so i take her hand and tell her "Lets spice things up a bit" and we do the grind thing. After that she comes face to face with me and were close to each other. She asks me how old i am, so i tell her 17 and she says "oh im 19". I respond by saying "You're too young for me"(a neg) and she laughs but in a way that you can feel she's into you. So i put my right arm around her and pull my self towards her n whisper in her ear "I gtg meet some friends but how about a kiss before i leave". So after whispering in her ear, still in that position, i kiss her on her right cheek but like a really short and quick one and i pull away slowly. Then our eyes meet and she leans in, eyes closed, head tilted, and we kiss for a few seconds. Afterwards i whisper in her ear, asking her to write her full name down on a piece of paper so i can add her on fb (there was no point in getting her number cuz we couldnt contact each other). And after she finishes writing down her name i hug her and tell her to take care she says the same thing back to me, and then i leave.

So thats it guys and it all came to me naturally....and later when i met my buddies they told me that one of them had basically ruined the set cuz he opened with "im a terrible dancer" and while they were in that awkward mood i came in and i picked up that 19 year old chick leaving with a kiss, they were really amazed.

I'd really appreciate it if you'd comment and tell me how i could've taken my game a step further like to the making out stage.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Cassanova_Child

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first off, great name. "Spade". I like it. Can't believe it hasnt been thought of on this site before.

in my opinion, when she leaned in you could have made out with her.

so you're new..... have you read the stuff? like DJ Bible, Pook's and other senior members of this sites posts? that would be a good place to start with improving your game.

Happy Hunting,
Cas
 

EvilAgenda

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What I LOVE about your actions:
You sensed the situation,,went with your gut about her liking you,,and were correct. You may be a natural.

What I LIKE about your actions:
You were bold and you communicated through an excellent use of body language,,and were able to kiss close.

What you could IMPROVE on:
You didn't take advantage of her. See,,girls WANT to be taken advantage of,,they just don't want to be perceived as slvts.
 

Daddy The Pimp

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Man sorry that im being honest.

That was a weak weak game. You just got lucky my friend.

The biggest mistake you did is that you asked for a kiss in the cheek. Are you fvcking kidding me ? That was a BIG DLV .Would a cool guy that has chicks lined up ask for a kiss in the cheek ?

Start being a man and getting what you want without needing permission.
You could have get laid in the bathroom of that club if you have gone for it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Spade

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Daddy The Pimp said:
Man sorry that im being honest.

That was a weak weak game. You just got lucky my friend.

The biggest mistake you did is that you asked for a kiss in the cheek. Are you fvcking kidding me ? That was a BIG DLV .Would a cool guy that has chicks lined up ask for a kiss in the cheek ?

Start being a man and getting what you want without needing permission.
You could have get laid in the bathroom of that club if you have gone for it.
Thx for being honest bro n i appreciate your point of view, but i want you to understand that this was my first pickup, my first attempt to isolate a girl and actually start something. No ones perfect on the first try bro, n thats why ive joined this forum. To improve my game.

To be honest, when i asked her i kinda felt it might demonstrate lower value ...but common when uve isolated a cute girl n ur in that head space u wanna get some action, who doesn't?:D
 

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For a first pickup, you did one hell of a job. I bet that costa rican chic was maddd hot!

But, Daddy_The_Pimp is right, that was a pretty pathetic and weak move asking for a kiss on the cheek. I mean no offense, but imo kisses on the cheek are pointless and completely pathetic. If your gonna kiss a girl, grow a pair of balls, pull her in to you, and just go for it. No asking for a kiss on the cheek.
 

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For a first pickup, you did one hell of a job. I bet that costa rican chic was maddd hot!

But, Daddy_The_Pimp is right, that was a pretty pathetic and weak move asking for a kiss on the cheek. I mean no offense, but imo kisses on the cheek are pointless and completely pathetic. If your gonna kiss a girl, grow a pair of balls, pull her in to you, and just go for it. No asking for a kiss on the cheek.
haha dude uve misunderstood something...we had a real kiss afterwards, lip to lip...the one on the cheek was done to build comfort.
Btw im not that afc to ask for a kiss on the cheek lol.
 

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For a first pickup, you did one hell of a job. I bet that costa rican chic was maddd hot!

But, Daddy_The_Pimp is right, that was a pretty pathetic and weak move asking for a kiss on the cheek. I mean no offense, but imo kisses on the cheek are pointless and completely pathetic. If your gonna kiss a girl, grow a pair of balls, pull her in to you, and just go for it. No asking for a kiss on the cheek.
haha dude uve misunderstood something...we had a real kiss afterwards, lip to lip...the one on the cheek was done to build comfort.
Btw im not that afc to ask for a kiss on the cheek lol.
 

frisco

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You built enough attraction that asking for the kiss on the cheek even though it was wrong didnt stop her from still being attracted, She even liked you enough to give you a second chance at the oppurtunity by offering a kiss on the lips. But even then you still somewhat failed you asked for her FB which instantly sets the frame for a nother meeting, But logisticaly you couldnt you had to leave so there is no failure.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Spade

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You built enough attraction that asking for the kiss on the cheek even though it was wrong didnt stop her from still being attracted, She even liked you enough to give you a second chance at the oppurtunity by offering a kiss on the lips. But even then you still somewhat failed you asked for her FB which instantly sets the frame for a nother meeting, But logisticaly you couldnt you had to leave so there is no failure.
First of all dude, i appreciate your point of view but i didnt ask her for a kiss on the cheek she knew wat i meant by the kiss(lip to lip). That was, like i said, a little peck on the cheek just to intesify her comfort levels. Anyways bro this was my first attempt and i feel it went well for my first time, of course ive got flaws in my game, im new to this. But one day ill get there and enjoy the PUA lifestyle hehe:D
 
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