My first "relationship"

[Luke Skywalker]

Luke,

It's a good thing you can post anonymously online, because if people in your community found out about this person you've become online, it'd be pretty damn hilarious.

I don't understand why you feel the need for this self-imposed contract. Who told you you had to make that? You've created all these regulations that you have to abide by. YOU did it. That's the key word. Nobody else is enforcing this contract, YOU are the one that created it for yourself, and YOU are the one that is unhappy about it.

The reason it was made was because I decided intellectually, that this girl was 'good' for me and should not be played around with. Other guys have cheated on her before or weren't real to her.

Giving a woman a hug is not "emotionally cheating".

That is debatable. Please refer to these following links on enotalone, where emotional cheating was dicussed in great detail in my life:

http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=284295
http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=285840
http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=285476

On another thread on this site:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160558

About spinning plates while in an LTR.

If you still feel the need to 'spin plates', you're either too young, too inexperienced or just not satisfied with your current LTR.

I think personally, I'm way too inexperienced, despite my head-knowledge that my girlfriend may be good for me or have a satisfactory interest level.

This either translate that I'm too immature to get into a relationship with anyone and would still want variety or can not be satisfied fully in this LTR because I'm underestimating how important looks are to me in a relationship.

So, can I really be 'emotionally cheating', assuming such a concept is recognized here, or is it just my 'immaturity' bubbling out.

Humans are wired for physical contact, and if you can't even give someone a HUG, you're just flat out weird.

But if you like the person then what?

Where do you draw the line, Luke? Is giving a handshake emotionally cheating too?

Anything that doesn't raise an ire is not cheating. A handshake doesn't raise any ire. A hug where you enjoyed it does in some circles.

What happens when you're with you're woman and she sees an old friend (a male friend *gasp*) and gives him a hug? Are you going to Hulk out and put him in a sleeper hold? Actually, my guess is that you'll come to this forum and ask us what you should do about a cheating (hugging) GF.

That is not relevant here. Personally, I may not feel very comfortable with it if she's obsessing over that hug, relishing it, or talking about him all the time, saying that I don't hug as great as that guy, or how she enjoyed her breasts against her cheast as it made her wet and that she wants to fvck him -- but if it's just one hug then whatever she's my girl anyway, too bad for the other guy.

The fact that you've described her as a "ug4-hb5" says that you think she's less than average, and can do better. There is no Law of the Universe that tells you you can't keep shopping around if you aren't satisfied.

I don't know if I can find a fully compatable girl that looks better than that. In a sence I recognize beggars can not be choosers in life, and if my own life-situation is not up to par with a normal guy within my age-range, then I also know I can't afford to be too picky if I'm serious about getting into a relationship.

 

[Alle_Gory]

I don't know if I can find a fully compatable girl that looks better than that. In a sence I recognize beggars can not be choosers in life, and if my own life-situation is not up to par with a normal guy within my age-range, then I also know I can't afford to be too picky if I'm serious about getting into a relationship.

Pretty much.

 

[Cabal]

"I can not, and will not EVER cheat or tell a lie in this current relationship"

But...you wrote the hit online blog/book How To Successfully Cheat On My Girlfriend!

 

[DonGorgon]

"I can not, and will not EVER cheat or tell a lie in this current relationship"

But...you wrote the hit online blog/book How To Successfully Cheat On My Girlfriend!

lol.. he is being very normal.. cheating then lying about cheating are human nature.

 

[Darth]

Way back from 2007:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=122104

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Way back from 2007:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=122104

I remember Call_Me_Daddy. He's left this forum a while ago.

He used to reply to allot of my threads and make threads about me.

You know what's really funny? As much as I may not physically like my girlfriend 100%, I STILL have a girlfriend who loves me and is willing to have sex with me. Despite all the negativity that was expressed on the board by skip, Call_Me_Daddy, and other people on there saying that I will never get someone because of my living situation. The dialogue has changed from getting 'anyone', to now physical looks in a girl that I ultimately want to be with -- big difference as far as I'm concerned. I like seeing how my love life is going despite the negativity that is expressed by people such as Call_Me_Daddy. Think about this -- I have a girlfriend despite people berating my living situation -- I may not be totally satisfied with her looks (i.e. she is not a hot girl), but this still flies on the face of the naysayers on here.

So, this is your way of responding back to my arguements on the thread, eh? Unless I agree with what you are saying then I'm a troll? Fly a kite.

 

[Alle_Gory]

So did you bury your girlfriend's body yet?

 

[Luke Skywalker]

So did you bury your girlfriend's body yet?

You mean like your mother?

 

[CaptainJ]

I remember Call_Me_Daddy. He's left this forum a while ago.

He used to reply to allot of my threads and make threads about me.

You know what's really funny? As much as I may not physically like my girlfriend 100%, I STILL have a girlfriend who loves me and is willing to have sex with me. Despite all the negativity that was expressed on the board by skip, Call_Me_Daddy, and other people on there saying that I will never get someone because of my living situation. The dialogue has changed from getting 'anyone', to now physical looks in a girl that I ultimately want to be with -- big difference as far as I'm concerned. I like seeing how my love life is going despite the negativity that is expressed by people such as Call_Me_Daddy. Think about this -- I have a girlfriend despite people berating my living situation -- I may not be totally satisfied with her looks (i.e. she is not a hot girl), but this still flies on the face of the naysayers on here.

So, this is your way of responding back to my arguements on the thread, eh? Unless I agree with what you are saying then I'm a troll? Fly a kite.

You're leaving the part out about how it took you 15 years to get a low quality ug who is probably just as desparate as you are, and you are in an LDR. You bring this up as a positive to your life, but I just see it as a negative. You used to be a lonely mentally handicapped momma's boy, but now you're a deluded lonely mentally handicapped momma's boy.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

You're leaving the part out about how it took you 15 years to get a low quality ug who is probably just as desparate as you are, and you are in an LDR. You bring this up as a positive to your life, but I just see it as a negative. You used to be a lonely mentally handicapped momma's boy, but now you're a deluded lonely mentally handicapped momma's boy.

Right, it looks like there are more trolls on here trying to say anything negative.

There are much more negative threads on here about people who have no luck getting ANY woman and have to resort to think about using an escort, or their only sexual experience has been at a gutter level, yet you don't see any berating sort of posts like there is with my threads. You wonder why. Or, how about the many threads of guys who see their gf's cheating, breaking-up on them, or girls flaking and playing games with them that are attractive and hot? I'm saying, rubbish, if you want to call a girl low-quality because she is not hot-looking then you are a real key-board jockey and don't know what's out there.

So, I don't think I'm leaving any part out here. My girlfriend is not low-quality. She has a career as a teacher and has allot of character strength from what she has been through and is flexible and giving.

Now, I suggest that you go on and enjoy the many other threads that contain pity-parties and sad stories of the many, many beautiful and attractive gutter hors and low-quality skanks that are out there that play games with people.

This is so funny. So, unless you have an ideal hot babe that wants you have no accomplishment. Roll over and die - people like you are haters and pounce down on people who make baby steps along the road to getting where they want with women.

 

[Alle_Gory]

So, I don't think I'm leaving any part out here. My girlfriend is not low-quality. She has a career as a teacher and has allot of character strength from what she has been through and is flexible and giving.

I had some teachers that were complete soul sucking losers. Just because she's a teacher doesn't mean sh*t. Teachers are people and therefore are the same as people.

Your girl is low quality because YOU are low quality. Not hating, just stating the truth.


BTW, question for you. Being a virgin, and attempting to follow the bible. Doesn't it bother you that your girl has been railed by many, many men before you? Don't you think its best to have sex with some women before even thinking about marriage?

 

[Luke Skywalker]

I had some teachers that were complete soul sucking losers. Just because she's a teacher doesn't mean sh*t. Teachers are people and therefore are the same as people.

Well, you were still their student and therefore lower in status to them.

Whatever. Like I said, I've got the best deal here. She has a career, she can send me money if I need it, she is guaranteed loyal, and even offered to spend money on me to make me happy and take me around the world, to Australia, or wheverelse I want to go. The only cost is I just have to take a hit on looks, but whatever, nothing is free. If she had looks then I'd probably have to take a hit on crap and grief.

I ain't answering any further questions because you are just too toxic. I'm going to put you on my ignore list from hence forth. Astal la-vista.

 

[mothballs]

lol Looks and intelligence have absolutely no correlation. I've met really ugly people that were dumber than a box of rocks, and I know 10's who are absolutely brilliant.