"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Gan

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Hello my fellow DJs! Just wanted to take some time to introduce myself. I first discovered SoSuave in 2014, and after reading many, many articles on here, I figured it was time to see what the forums were all about. All I can say is, I'm definitely going to be here for the long run. Can't believe I didn't take a look in here sooner! I feel like I've missed out on so much, but whatever. Better late than never huh? Anyways, here's a little something about me:

I’ve never had a girlfriend. I got zero game (maybe some?). I've had girls approach me. I've been given signals. I've been in several situations where I could've gotten the girl, but I get too nervous and end up messing things up by showering them with attention and being the "nice guy" that I am. I know I'm good looking, well groomed, tall, slim, muscular, but I always, ALWAYS, say the wrong things OR don’t take the chance when it’s right in my face. And when I don’t take the chances, I always beat myself up after realizing that all I had to do was say this or do that. I’m not a very good conversationalist when it comes to people I barely know, especially with women (this seems to be my #1 problem). I don’t hold up my end, and I usually end the convo with a grunt or a fake (nervous?) laugh. I get this nervous, edgy feeling around me that’s kind of hard to shake off. However, ever since finding this site, and thanks to all of you here on SoSuave with your endless tips and advice, I’ve gotten a bit more confident. I’m 21, still single and always have been, never hooked up with a girl, but this doesn’t bother me as much as it used to. There’s so much room for improvement and I’m excited to learn!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Good mindset to have. There's some wisdom to be had on the forum. Read through the dj bible, and work on yourself and your approach with women.
 
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