Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Im just out of a long relationship. im ready to date, and im great with girls. im hott, funny, smart, etc... i have a problem with anxiety after being engaged so long. ive read many articles and posts. this is my first. i cant just walk up and start a conversation. im uncomfortable aproaching new people now. i start a new job tomorrow working on a college campus. this is a great time to start. just need minor advice.
whats a good ego boost before an approach?
what are some good conversation starters?
and whats your mindset when you approach.

i dont want conflicting advice, so no noob posts please. thanks
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Welcome to the forums Bran.

You ask all the questions that a usual first time poster would. It's good to see that you're looking to improve, though. The first thing I see in your post that you might want to change is the following statement : "I'm ready to date".

Don't take offense to anything I say, as you'll find I'm one of those blunt types on the forums. I'll tell you like it is, whether you believe it or not. You just got out of a LTR? I doubt you're ready "to date". Your mind might be telling you this because you're so used to being in a relationship, but it's not healthy. This is what I call jumping from one unhealthy relationship into another. It NEVER works.

You shouldn't be thinking you're ready to date another girl. You're much better off doing what a lot of us call "spinning plates" aka talking to plenty of women. Get back into the single life, have some fun, and don't limit yourself. You'll find that when you're single, you'll really find out who you are inside and make your BIGGEST improvements. Instead of concentrating on approaches or lines, work to improve yourself. What you say to a woman is the LEAST of your worries. It's HOW you say it and what confidence you have when you say it to her. We always say women have a sixth sense when it comes to men. You can say the right things, but if she senses that YOU'RE not confident about yourself, she will flake.

What's my mindset when I approach? If anything, it's SIMPLE. The last thing you want to do is over think. A simple smile and Hi my name is ____ will always work if you say it with confidence. As for continuing conversation, well that's something you'll have to learn through trial and error on your own.

Again to recap- have fun being single for awhile, make some new friends, improve yourself physically and mentally, and don't "look" for a new relationship. Things will come when they are meant to come. Usually you find things when you're NOT looking for them. You'd be surprised. best of luck in the future
 

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BRaN said:
Im just out of a long relationship. im ready to date, and im great with girls. im hott, funny, smart, etc... i have a problem with anxiety after being engaged so long. ive read many articles and posts. this is my first. i cant just walk up and start a conversation. im uncomfortable aproaching new people now. i start a new job tomorrow working on a college campus. this is a great time to start. just need minor advice.
whats a good ego boost before an approach?
what are some good conversation starters?
and whats your mindset when you approach.

i dont want conflicting advice, so no noob posts please. thanks
The thing that struck me about this post was the thing about the ego boost. LOSE THE EGO....it will hinder you ,particularly when you get rejected, but alo when you have success.

I would say this; approach only when you are 100% secure in yourself and happy with your life....it will show in your interactions, give you more positive results and you will just laugh rejection off.

As for what to say, how to say it etc, read the DJ bible....simple. :D
 
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