"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Im just out of a long relationship. im ready to date, and im great with girls. im hott, funny, smart, etc... i have a problem with anxiety after being engaged so long. ive read many articles and posts. this is my first. i cant just walk up and start a conversation. im uncomfortable aproaching new people now. i start a new job tomorrow working on a college campus. this is a great time to start. just need minor advice.
whats a good ego boost before an approach?
what are some good conversation starters?
and whats your mindset when you approach.

i dont want conflicting advice, so no noob posts please. thanks
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Welcome to the forums Bran.

You ask all the questions that a usual first time poster would. It's good to see that you're looking to improve, though. The first thing I see in your post that you might want to change is the following statement : "I'm ready to date".

Don't take offense to anything I say, as you'll find I'm one of those blunt types on the forums. I'll tell you like it is, whether you believe it or not. You just got out of a LTR? I doubt you're ready "to date". Your mind might be telling you this because you're so used to being in a relationship, but it's not healthy. This is what I call jumping from one unhealthy relationship into another. It NEVER works.

You shouldn't be thinking you're ready to date another girl. You're much better off doing what a lot of us call "spinning plates" aka talking to plenty of women. Get back into the single life, have some fun, and don't limit yourself. You'll find that when you're single, you'll really find out who you are inside and make your BIGGEST improvements. Instead of concentrating on approaches or lines, work to improve yourself. What you say to a woman is the LEAST of your worries. It's HOW you say it and what confidence you have when you say it to her. We always say women have a sixth sense when it comes to men. You can say the right things, but if she senses that YOU'RE not confident about yourself, she will flake.

What's my mindset when I approach? If anything, it's SIMPLE. The last thing you want to do is over think. A simple smile and Hi my name is ____ will always work if you say it with confidence. As for continuing conversation, well that's something you'll have to learn through trial and error on your own.

Again to recap- have fun being single for awhile, make some new friends, improve yourself physically and mentally, and don't "look" for a new relationship. Things will come when they are meant to come. Usually you find things when you're NOT looking for them. You'd be surprised. best of luck in the future
 

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BRaN said:
Im just out of a long relationship. im ready to date, and im great with girls. im hott, funny, smart, etc... i have a problem with anxiety after being engaged so long. ive read many articles and posts. this is my first. i cant just walk up and start a conversation. im uncomfortable aproaching new people now. i start a new job tomorrow working on a college campus. this is a great time to start. just need minor advice.
whats a good ego boost before an approach?
what are some good conversation starters?
and whats your mindset when you approach.

i dont want conflicting advice, so no noob posts please. thanks
The thing that struck me about this post was the thing about the ego boost. LOSE THE EGO....it will hinder you ,particularly when you get rejected, but alo when you have success.

I would say this; approach only when you are 100% secure in yourself and happy with your life....it will show in your interactions, give you more positive results and you will just laugh rejection off.

As for what to say, how to say it etc, read the DJ bible....simple. :D
 
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