"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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My first post. Question on LTR stuff. Also, please make an LTR section!

jancarlo000

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This is my first post/thread in this forum. Been reading a lot of stuff for quite a while. I've learned how to create attraction from David D's stuff. I've read others such as Ross jeffries, Mystery, and etc, but I seem to like David Deangelo's stuff more because it's natural, and he really works into engraving the mindsets into your brain.

Anyways, I am really good at getting women attracted to me. I get offered sex the first few minutes I meet her (i'm in college, and chicks i hit on are in college (maybe because college chicks are just horny) (BUT I BLOW THEM OFF!! which I now regret. I was too scared, because I've never had sex before)

Been practicing these stuff for about a year. Was a total AFC before, a total band geek, and educ. nerd. I was clingy and nerdy. I'm 18 as of right now btw.

So far, here's what I learned about creating attraction--
--be fun, be outgoing, be loud, be the leader - lead the conversation
---at first, the ratio is 90:10, so you must lead and move the convo.
--never take **** from them-- threaten them that you're leaving
---if they messed up your name for example, threaten them that you'll leave, and act out as if you're really leaving, such as turning your back on them, standing up, and walking away. they'll chase you and ask for forgiveness as if she has committed something really big. It's also an indicator if she's interested in you, or not
--seems that voice clarity, and tone is the most important
--eye contact is important
---when talking to her, give her the squint eye from time to time.
--mess with her, bust her balls, and etc
--i'm too tired from reading all the posts here for hours searching for quality info, so i'll get to my purpose, and talk about what i learned over the time next time

I have never been on a REAL relationship, never kissed girl with passion, and most unfortunately, never had sex. I am more into LTR because I guess I have a mindset of respecting women so much that to not have sex with her, except if i really loved her.

I am good at the ATTRACTION PHASE, but not the COMFORT PHASE. It seems that I pursue the teasing and busting balls too much, and don't know where to stop, and how to act in the comfort phase without acting like a wuss.

I need some advices on how to start a REAL relationship, with trust and friendship, but spiced with attraction.

I really am requesting an LTR section, and some advices to all you excellent people out there.

thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You've passed the test on paper. Now go out in the field and use what you learned!
 

jancarlo000

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girlsarecrazy said:
You've passed the test on paper. Now go out in the field and use what you learned!
no, dude, i've been on the field, and have no problem on getting a chick attracted and really interested enough to follow me like i'm mother goose, but my problem is what to do AFTER i get them attracted - that is... the comfort phase of the whole equation, where you show your genuine self, you start caring, and etc.

I have NO clue on how to do that without turning into a wishy washy wussy *****.

I have my eyes on a potential LTR who was so attracted to me that she's the one that basically asked me out on dates in her expense and really be all over me.

But the thing is, I started showing and hinting my feelings for her, and contacting her almost every single day that I somehow believe that her attraction for me is dissipating. I don't want to lose her though, because she really is close to "the one," so I try connecting more with her.

I'm scared that I really might lose her. I still bust her balls, tease her, and she likes them because she laughs and etc, but what about the CONNECTING part of the equation. The TRUST. The ones that's supposed to show LOVE, and etc.

The thing is, by playing games, she might believe that there are other women in my life (i don't), but at the same time, shouldn't we always have other women in our life to show that we're not obsessed (i fake it)

Aren't those AFC ****? She's 21, I'm 18.

I need some kind of Instructions Manual for LTR because I seem to have lost the value of True and genuine love, if you guys know what I mean.

Should I be a nice guy, but one who doesn't take **** and have a backbone, but still a nice guy?

Is there some kind of guru regarding LTR stuff - something about how to keep attraction on LTR, how to act, and etc? Or can anyone here give me advices?

Thanks.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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