"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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My first date with my dream girl - but will there be a second?

Electro67

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Mike32ct said:
In my experience, sending the post-date "I had a great time" text NEVER works. I lost every female I tried it on.

I dropped that like a bad habit lol.
Understood, but do you wait a day and then send a message? Two days? Never? Maybe I'm old-school but I think that going totally no-contact after a date is risky.

So anyway... The good news is that after fretting over her for days, I finally got fed up, manned up and sent her a very direct message: I want to see you again. Soon. She replied: OK, when? That was last night, and I'm going to wait till this afternoon to write back.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Electro67

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I know it's been a while but I thought I'd come back and post a followup.

So, as mentioned above, I got my courage up and asked for a second date. We made plans for dinner that weekend and after a short, playful exchange, I left her alone. I figured there was no point in pushing my luck and seeming "too interested" once the date had been made. I was doing everything right as far as I could tell, just going about my business, not paying any special attention to her. In fact, I didn't even log on to FB at all on the day before our date. But the morning came and there was a message from her, cancelling our dinner. This wasn't totally unexpected because of some issues with her schedule that I was already aware of, but her cancellation did not include an offer to reschedule. We all know what that means.

That was over a week ago and we've had very minimal interaction since. All signs indicate that my chance with her has come and gone. I'm sad about it - after all, I've had a crush on her for a long time and her interest level was high for a little while, and I'll never really know for sure why things turned out the way they did. But this has been a learning experience and a wake-up call for me. If another "golden opportunity" ever presents itself, whether it's with her or someone else, I'll be ready for it.
 
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