"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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My first cold approach!!!

qstorm501

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Ok Im so exited and proud of myself.Just happened 20 mins ago As I type this :) Heres a lil FR and some things I learned. So I felt like really sarging today after lurking on here for a few weeks I figured I was ready to test the waters. None of my buds wanted to hit the bars tonight so I figured Id hit up wal-mart and a copule drug and grocery stores since i needed some things anyways. At rite-aid as I was checking out, seen a drop dead hb9 biracial/indian? Made eye contact with each other she goes straight to the back. After checking out I freeze:( My inner head is racing with negative thoughts. So I figure Id go out to my car and wait for her to come out.BAD IDEA. Shes parked right by the door and im parked a lil away by the time she comes out and i compose myself shes already in her car and pulling out. NOW I KNOW WHY THERES A 3 SEC RULE! You wait you lose.
So after beating myself up Im determined to approach someone before i go home.Anyway to be short heres goes my first sucessfull cold approach since coming to this site.

Seen a hb8 at local grocery store.

Purposely walk down her isle and asks how shes doing, Decent amount of customers so im still nervous about my game in front of people. By the time im composed shes checking out, I go to check out and i beat her,wait in my car for her to come out, see her putting the cart back, get outta my car and go or it

me: so how you doing
hb8: oh you scared me .. ..."it was dark out"
me: sorry bout that i just noticed you in the store and had to introduce myself
hb8: oh thx
Me: you from around here ?
hb8: im local
me: are you single
hb:8 umm yea... ' but now smiling'
me: fluff talk yada yada so would you like to hang out sometime yada yada can i call you sometime.
hb8; sure calls out #
me:thx fluff talk about the holidays and her convertible mustang and me scaring her lol
hb8: now laughing and smiling.... ' i got a decent vibe from her at the end of the conversation''

What i learned THE 3 SEC RULE IS FOR A GOOD REASON.. i must overcome my fear of approaching when other people are around.. ..Not a good idea to approach girls when its dark and they are alone..

Overall i can see myself really improving with practice..Cant wait to see how many hbs i can meet and lay :)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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trojanman88

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Oh my god that was terrible...but good since it was your first time...lol

me: so how you doing
hb8: oh you scared me .. ..."it was dark out" (never approach from behind, no matter what time of day)
me: sorry bout that i just noticed you in the store and had to introduce myself ( good but you should have false time constrainted, with a for a second at the end of the sentence. like "sorry bout that i just noticed you in the store and had to introduce myself, for a second")
hb8: oh thx
Me: you from around here ? ( a big no-no and never ask a boring question like where you from, it sends pick up vibes and it makes her work for you too soon)(Better is " lol you are...the cutest...scaredy cat ive met in the last 2 seconds)
hb8: im local
me: are you single ( here is defineatley your worst move... if you ar picking up a girl you don't want the girl to think that you are picking them up. By asking obvious pick up questions like this. WHy? because that triggers girls to put up their gaurd. YOu just want to be a fun guy that, is having fun teasing her you want to ask questions or say things that are fun, not just fun for her but for you too. Do you think that question was fun for you or her.)
hb:8 umm yea... ' but now smiling' (akward)
me: fluff talk yada yada so would you like to hang out sometime yada yada can i call you sometime.
hb8; sure calls out #
me:thx fluff talk about the holidays and her convertible mustang and me scaring her lol
hb8: now laughing and smiling.... ' i got a decent vibe from her at the end of the conversation''

" are you single" is where you lost the set...but yeah if she hooked thats great but I would still work on the basics cuz harder targetstypically would have gave you a fake number and have been happy they got oughta there with there life (why cuz she was alone and scared, thats why I don't pick up on alone girls typically, unless she is fire)
 

Crazy Asian

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and i've made it a rule to never say "sorry".
just say "my bad" or something. because sorry is seeking approval.

the only time i'd use it is if i'm joking... like if ur playing video games: "sorry i'm just so awesome video games, i really do try to hold back a little for you :)"
 
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