"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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My first bout with H.I.T... thoughts inside

DJ Girevik

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Today, I did:

1 set of bench press, managed 13 reps of 135 (max is 180) before failure. Spotter helped me back up very slowly on failed rep.

2 sets of military press, 95 lbs (max is 125-130). About 15 reps the first time, but managed only 2 the second time.

1 set assisted chins, about 70 pounds on the other side. Only managed 7-10, because my upper body was taxed already. (max is my own bw, 230)

1 set of squats, managed only about 10 cuz my form failed, due to upper body being taxed. 205 lbs, max is around 270. Back isn't as strong as legs, so I'm going to eschew squats for awhile and focus on deadlifts and probably BB hacksquats too.

2 sets of deadlifts, didn't go quite to failure. Due to tension, my forearms were half taxed already (especially from the chins), so these MURDERED my forearms. Didn't work anything else very much. Managed about 25 reps with 198 lbs, and about 10 with 220 (stopped early cuz the class ended). (max is 319)

Lesson learned, next time deadlifts are the FIRST thing I'm doing so my forearms can keep up with the rest of my body. I like HIT a lot. Sore, but not too sore, in my arms and legs, with most of it being in my shoulders and forearms. Probably my most memorable workout ever. Final verdict: H.I.T. ME BABY, ONE MORE TIME! I have baseball camp in July, so the continued gripwork that I will get from deads, chins and tension should give my swing monster power.

I'm going to do high rep 16 lb kettlebell workouts on Wednesday (mostly keeping it to snatch routines), and one more H.I.T. day Friday (with Deads first!!!). From there I have four workout days next week so I'll plan accordingly.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Lesson learned, next time deadlifts are the FIRST thing I'm doing
You might want to separate muscle groups into different days instead of doing so many the same day. Especially with HIT because it's so stressful on the body. You're going to overtrain if you do the same exercises every day or every other day - remember that you gain muscle with rest. Working out just tears up your muscles.
 

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I considered that, but I'm seperating days into high intensity and low intensity, doing 1 or 2 HIT days per week, while keeping the rest to either kettlebell work or working on my form for the olympic lifts with relatively light weight.
 

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Girevik, I always assumed you were a powerlifter by trade man. If this is so, then HIT is not for you. It's cool for bodybuilding, but not for explosive power.
 

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I was a wannabe PL, but doing 5 rep PL routines, while neglecting kettlebells and BB endurance, has damaged my overall athleticism. I want to be more of an all around athlete, possibly a strong-man competitor if I can get myself strong enough and build enough endurance. Whether I gain size or not I don't care, although gaining muscle and losing fat is a bonus.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I DO want to work my forearms, I just want them not to be 2 miles behind the rest of my body. Anyways. soreness today is in my shoulders and lats the most.
 
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