"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My first approach... need some advice

thedoc

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Whatsup guys,

So today, I'm finally completely recovered from some virus and I decided enough reading up on all of this, lets try something. So I decided to take 2 friends and go to the mall. Please note, I've never tried approaching random women nor am I too familiar with picking up girls.

I get to the mall, and I was in shock. There were NO girls, AT all. After an hour I saw one cute girl with her mom and I wasn't ready for that. There was one girl waiting around which I tried approaching but she gave me the coldest shoulder I've ever seen. I tried making eye contact, she avoided it completely. When I was right in front of her she basically makes a 180 degree turn with her upper body, and avoids me. I ***** out on her.

Anyway, ffter another hour, on my way out, I decide to check Hollister one last time. I get in, and I see 2 girls (finally!) waiting around doing nothing. I was really nervous but I just thought to my self (fvck it, I'll regret this if I don't go up). I take 2 shirts, one was alright one was (imo) disgusting.

Me: Hey, would you girls mind helping me out. Which of these shirts do you think look better? Which would match my eyes?
Girl(s): *Laugh*Um, well what do you need it for?
Me: Well I'm going to a beach party later.
Girl(s): This one. And pick one. (they picked the ugly one)
Me: Really? I think it looks kinda cheesy.
Girl: Oh. *turns around asks her friend*
Me: Eh, I don't like it, it matches your shirt though. *Big smile*
Girls: *Laugh A LOT*

Okay, from here, is was a major fail on my part. I had NO IDEA, where to go next. I had a few closers in mind but it was too soon, and I had no clue how to transfer from this to that.

I was only nervous before, I (at least I don't think) was very confident and smiley during the first part.

So any advice on how to start a conversation out of the blue? I have to go like right now I'll come back and add a few more details later.

Thanks a lot guys.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It's-Me

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Keep approaching :)
It's a numbers game, the more approach, the better you get, the more success you get.
 

thedoc

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But any ideas?? Even a canned transition or two would be really helpful. :)

Looking back, there was a lot of stuff I could have said. But hindsight is always 20/20.

Thanks.
 

eaglez1177

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Try to relax and be comfortable, being uptight and nervous will just make it harder for you to think of something to say.

And canned lines never work, you need to just become comfortable enough that you can say whatever you want and whatever comes to your mind.

As for your approach, dont let the girl's laughing get to you (if it bothers you). They could be laughing for a million different reasons, so just play it off as nothing.

I would suggest reading the bible and reading up on "the art of conversation" by Pulse. That will help you out alot, but you should really read the entire bible.

And getting better at this is all about practice. Practice makes perfect, the more you go out and approach, the better you will get.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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