Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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My Favorite Pickup Strategy

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Prerequisites (She shows buying signals):

1) She must make eye contact.
2) She must smile or say hello.

Your Pickup Line:

1) "What is your name?" (you hold eye contact while asking this).
2) (She tells you her name). This is guaranteed.
3) Pause.
4) At this point she WILL ask your name if she is interested. If she doesn't ask your name, don't volunteer it. She is 90% not interested (yet) and she will only forget it anyway.

(Assuming she asks your name, you are 50% toward getting a date, proceed).

5) (You tell her your name).
6) (Ideally) she will extend her hand (you do not extend yours first). If she extends her hand you are 75% there. Take the opportunity to hold her hand for a moment and hold eye contact, repeating her name ("Nice to meet you Sally"). They want a firm handshake. Don't crush it, but take it strongly enough that if she fell you would catch her.

(You can proceed either way but hopefully she extended and you shook her hand).

7) Ask her things about herself (How long have you worked here, where are you from, etc).
8) She should ask you things about yourself. If she does you are 85% there.
9) (Optional) Pay her a small compliment. You like her shirt, etc. Nothing sexual.
10) If she pays you a compliment you are 99% there. Now it is safe to ask her to get together (you may want to wait until the subsequent visit if she is a bartender or someone you can see again, but you have established repore).
11) I usually ask "Are you single?" at this point, but your favorite line works here.

You really can't get rejected this way, but you definitely can show your boldness. I was 4 for 4 with this strategy yesterday (mostly bartenders and store clerks in NYC where I don't really know anyone).

Try this and let me know how it works.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Swampcamel said:
Favorite pickup strategy: regular conversation.
This is about how to go from here to there.

We need to get it down to a science at some point.
 

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Scientists don't get laid. (often)

Imagining a progress bar.... 25%....50%....75%....Connection complete, panties unlocked.
 

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"Are you single?"

I never ask that. All women are single if you're high valued enough (unless she's married).

My strategy is false time constraint, negging, qualifier question for her, open questions that make an emotional impact, then going in for the kill (phone number or kiss close).
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well if you ask and she says she is single you are in like Flynn. But when she is attracted to you it doesn't matter what you say. Just let your romantic interest be known. But what do I know?

Anyhow, I just went back to the grocer in Queens where I met one of the four girls yesterday in line. The shop owner said "That girl told me she really liked you. Do you want her phone number?" The woman was gorgeous.

Scientists who are in shape do indeed get laid.
 

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Cant rep til spread more, but bigneil you are a stud. excellent stuff.
 

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bigneil said:
Prerequisites (She shows buying signals):

1) She must make eye contact.
2) She must smile or say hello.

Your Pickup Line:

1) "What is your name?" (you hold eye contact while asking this).
2) (She tells you her name). This is guaranteed.
3) Pause.
4) At this point she WILL ask your name if she is interested. If she doesn't ask your name, don't volunteer it. She is 90% not interested (yet) and she will only forget it anyway.

(Assuming she asks your name, you are 50% toward getting a date, proceed).

5) (You tell her your name).
6) (Ideally) she will extend her hand (you do not extend yours first). If she extends her hand you are 75% there. Take the opportunity to hold her hand for a moment and hold eye contact, repeating her name ("Nice to meet you Sally"). They want a firm handshake. Don't crush it, but take it strongly enough that if she fell you would catch her.

(You can proceed either way but hopefully she extended and you shook her hand).

7) Ask her things about herself (How long have you worked here, where are you from, etc).
8) She should ask you things about yourself. If she does you are 85% there.
9) (Optional) Pay her a small compliment. You like her shirt, etc. Nothing sexual.
10) If she pays you a compliment you are 99% there. Now it is safe to ask her to get together (you may want to wait until the subsequent visit if she is a bartender or someone you can see again, but you have established repore).
11) I usually ask "Are you single?" at this point, but your favorite line works here.

You really can't get rejected this way, but you definitely can show your boldness. I was 4 for 4 with this strategy yesterday (mostly bartenders and store clerks in NYC where I don't really know anyone).

Try this and let me know how it works.

Different strokes different folks....if she thinks you are attractive and not a weirdo it doesn't matter what the order is and if you extend your hand or not...you can tell by looking in her eyes if she is interested or not and if she is my strategy is balls to the wall escalate from there...and literally sweep her off her feet right then and there...

Your way is how i proceed with a girl who i believe is not that initially attracted to me...and i have done that a lot...but that being a quality number is very hit or miss...simply getting a number means absolutely nothing nowadays you have to leave a lasting impression with most of them...
 

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Swampcamel said:
Favorite pickup strategy: regular conversation.
i use this.

though i find it chinge worthy when guys IN the community start trying to neg and use stupid lines and do the whole.

" you dress is ugly" ****.

dude. just say what's up. if your congruent enough and she likes what you have to offer she will pop. if not on to the next one.
 

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zinc4 said:
Different strokes different folks....if she thinks you are attractive and not a weirdo it doesn't matter what the order is and if you extend your hand or not...you can tell by looking in her eyes if she is interested or not and if she is my strategy is balls to the wall escalate from there...and literally sweep her off her feet right then and there...

Your way is how i proceed with a girl who i believe is not that initially attracted to me...and i have done that a lot...but that being a quality number is very hit or miss...simply getting a number means absolutely nothing nowadays you have to leave a lasting impression with most of them...
If she thinks you are attractive she will extend her hand first. The idea at that stage is to test her, not grope her. Furthermore, it is considered rude for a man to extend his hand first, and also effeminate. Traditionally, at her discretion, the woman gave you her hand so you could kiss it (though you don't really put your lips on her hand).

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/In_the_U...._her_hand_or_may_he_extend_his_to_shake_hands
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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