Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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My favorite Don Juan... not anyone you would expect either...

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I just wrote this in another post but I would like to give it it's own thread. I try to take after this man in all avenues of life and encourage anyone else to do the same. In my mind, he is the embodiment of a Don Juan...

"If there's one "Don Juan" I recommend you take after, it would be the late Jim Henson. Yes, the man who created the Muppets. He said "I know I drive some people crazy with what seems to be ridiculous optimism, but it has always worked out for me."

He realized that he controls his own emotions and did everything in his power to not let them boggle him down at any point in his life. He was a Don Juan in every sense of the word; exceedingly rich, successful, likable, positive towards himself and others, and yes he did date models on regular basis (after he became separated from his wife).

What did good ol' Jim have that you don't? He wasn't strikingly handsome, born to a rich family, or breathtakingly intelligent... he just had a simple and uncanny knack to make bad situations okay and good situations better. Whenever I need inspiration I become incredibly inspired by reading up on his life, his achievements and quotes he has said.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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tsmith2334 said:
He was a Don Juan in every sense of the word; exceedingly rich, successful, likable, positive towards himself and others, and yes he did date models on regular basis (after he separated his wife).

What did good ol' Jim have that you don't? He wasn't strikingly handsome, born to a rich family, or breathtakingly intelligent...
In addition to that, Wasn't he pretty overweight / border-line obese?
 

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tsmith2334 said:
"I know I drive some people crazy with what seems to be ridiculous optimism, but it has always worked out for me."
Yeah bro, I can totally relate to this quote! :up:

I've always had a confident, almost-arrogant, ultra-positive outlook on life since my early adolescent years :cool:

And ever since I can remember, the so-called postives gained from "ridiculous optimism" has far-outwieghed any of the negatives I might have experienced! :yes:
 

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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