My father is making my life hell...

[ChrizZ]

hi guys,

I can´t take it anymore. For the last 18 years my father made my life hell. Everyday I get to hear what a little piece of sh!t I am. My goal in life is to become the exact opposite of my father. My father is socially retarded, depressed and the definition of a beta male. However I´m really scared of becoming like him cuz I´m also starting to always get depressed and to become a beta male cuz my self confidence has hit rock bottom cuz he always tells me that I´m a failure. I´m getting good grades, but he points at the students that get straight A´s and asks me why I can´t be more like them. He also put me in hospital twice when I was younger. I know that I have a lot of potential, but it´s really demotivating to hear that I´m a total loser everyday. I can´t live like that anymore. I need to move out asap. Any suggestions on how to improve my situation until I can finally move out?

thanks in advance

 

[djSlvt]

Stop qualifying yourself to him, and stop taking what he says up your butt, otherwise you're just like him.... Qaulifying yourself to your father is a natural thing to do. You take his words and disapproval up your butt because you qualify yourself to him.


Other than that you can fvck your mom, that way you can tell him I fvcked your wife. j.k

 

[backbreaker]

i grew up with someone like that.. my mom. Because I didn't do what she wanted me to do, I got an earfull everyday. I used to get cursed out for not washing her dishes...when I wouldn't even eat. She grounded me one night for not coming home in time (my curfew ws midnight).. and my car had broken down on the side of the road. I got it everyday, whatever the reason may be.

anyway, shut the door, pay her no mind. However over the years I became pretty thick skinned, which is a benefit. Everytime she would go in her mode, I would just dream about getting out. It is what it is. it's just words, it's up to you to see if they have any meaning or not.


Get out, do things that make you proud of yourself... in the end, your family has the biggest impact on your life. In my case, I knew when to cut them out of it. Just because he's your blood doesn't mean he is right.