My family tried to instill scarcity mentality into me

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My family had a big discussion with me about relationships and the lifestyle I want to lead. We obviously have differing views.
My father and the rest of my family are dead-set on monogamous relationships with the first woman who treats them right, no matter what. They see that as the end game to all, and no need for what they think is meaningless sex. So as soon as you find what is a good girl that treats you right, game over.
I have a girlfriend, who, I like to hang out with. But I can do way better looks-wise, personality, lifestyle, finanically, and other things than her. And I'm still doing pick-up while in this relationship with her. My father thinks I won't find many women that will treat me like she does, and that I should consider quitting the notches game and settling down soon. I just started dating at 22(now 23), so there's no way I want to settle down. Even if "Ms. Right" came my way, I'd still want to bang other women in my life. I don't feel emotional about my gf, she's just fun to hang out with, as long as her self esteem issues don't come up. I don't want marriage and I don't want kids. I figure I'll be in this game for at least 10-15 more years.
I figure there are always going to be plenty of women around that will "love me" just as much or more as my current gf. I have a very self-centered view on life and it makes me happy.

Why would my family think there's a limited supply of women that will "love" a man for? Is there any truth to this scarcity mentality mindset that my family seems to have?

 

[SgtSplacker]

They are giving you good and bad advice. My opinion is...

First thing, is your 23 now in 15 years your gonna be 38. Women stop really being able to have children at 40. So your giving yourself two years to find the right one after your done with all the bangin you plan to do. (I made this mistake bro and seriously regret it)

Your still young, don't worry about finding the right one, but if you do don't you dare let her go for more poon.

Bang as many women as you want, but just don't turn your back on a good one. You will regret it later, as I have.

By the time you are 38 all the breakups and drama may have a psychological effect on you. Older single men tend to cry more for example...

Not to mention that at least in my case all my friends started to get married right after highschool. So by the time you are 38 most of your friends are going to be married. I am the very last person in my age group that I know that is not married...

I hate to break it to you but it's basically time to start getting serious man. Don't sweat it, enjoy the ride. But play for keeps...

And wipe your butt with that scarcity monogamy BS, you be you. But know that time is not unlimited...

 

[Iceberg]

Why would my family think there's a limited supply of women that will "love" a man for? Is there any truth to this scarcity mentality mindset that my family seems to have?

There's only truth to the scarcity mindset if you lack ambition. If you're not staying in shape. If your career prospects are limited. If you plan on living and dying in the same small town you grew up in.

Which is probably why your family is trying to sell you on the idea. I mean, I don't know your family, but the people who think that way tend to have very limited goals for themselves. They define success by graduating high school, getting a job, and buying a house. All within a 10 mile radius.

They are giving you good and bad advice. My opinion is...

First thing, is your 23 now in 15 years your gonna be 38. Women stop really being able to have children at 40. So your giving yourself two years to find the right one after your done with all the bangin you plan to do. (I made this mistake bro and seriously regret it)

Well, only if he plans on marrying a woman who's the exact same age as him. And if he's playing his cards right, at 38, he'll aim for someone 10-15 years younger.

A man can still provide viable sperm until...I don't know how long.....but I know 38 isn't the cutoff.

I hate to break it to you but it's basically time to start getting serious man. Don't sweat it, enjoy the ride. But play for keeps...

At 23? Getting serious about what? Women?

I'm not trying to crap on your post. Obviously you cared enough to reply. But when the right girl comes along, then it's right. But until then, there's no need to force yourself to start getting serious because of your age.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I dunno man. I just look back on some of the awesome relationships I let go because I only didn't feel it was time to commit. I always thought I had plenty of time, and then all of a sudden i'm practically 40 with nothing to speak of and some world class babes left crying in my wake and for what? a couple more trips to the bar or strip club? Some more gaming nights or club nights? A couple more free dinners for the psychos I called dates then? There's a couple early relationships I would have definitely kept around knowing what I do now.

Anyways I feel i'm finished here, OP has the message and the constructive criticism. You make your own decisions dude...

Go fourth and splack HOs!

 

[Serg897]

At least twice within the past few years have I found women that seem to give me everything I want in a relationship. Sex when I want, Treat me well, cook for me, buy me gifts, open to doing anything.

Both times I just haven't felt it enough to actually settle down into monogamy with these women.

Basically, you must ask yourself what you really want. If you are afflicted with "grass is always greener" syndrome and you are always asking yourself what you are missing out on by not gaming an attractive woman you see, you will not be happy settling down with one woman no matter how much you try to talk yourself into it.

I think we must remember that woman are not the end-all be-all to happiness. If you arent going to be happy with this one and you think you can do better, by all means continue as a single man - and you can even keep this one around as a casual fvck buddy once in a while.