"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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prowler13

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Hey Guys,
Ok. I had a friend refer me to the book & I can't stop reading. Now that I'm analyising what I do, I went looking on the web & found you guys, so you can imagine my enthusiasm. Anyway, one of the major questions I had, or problem I seem to keep running into is not meeting some chick & getting her number. I'm not great at it yet or anything, but I can manage to grab my balls and talk to some chick thats starring at me. Most of the time I'm bored out of my mind with the conversation, but my problem lies between the time I get her # and getting her into bed. They always seem to loose interest, loose my number, lol, or both. Since you guys have been at this longer than me.... what do you think. PS. I'm 24, so these girls are generally at bars, clubs, etc
Prowler
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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everybody is gonna tell you to read the DJ bible, and probably 'double your dating' by david deangelo as a starting point for your path to becoming a DJ

so get to it
 

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Well why is the conversation boring? Most likely because you are boring... fix that. :)
 

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Originally posted by flexion_
Well why is the conversation boring? Most likely because you are boring... fix that. :)
Uh no. Conversation between two people involves two people.
 

DonJuanMonk

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Originally posted by flexion_
Well why is the conversation boring? Most likely because you are boring... fix that. :)
Uh no. Conversation between two people involves two people to each other, about each other, and asking questions about each other.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Good conversation skills involve making the other person talk. Remember we are talking about the timeframe from when he gets her number to sex that "they" lose interest. It must be all the woman's fault each time right?
 

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these girls are generally at bars, clubs

Try approaching someplace else, and see if the women work out a little better. I don't expect much out of anyone I meet in a bar.
 
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