My experience yesterday: as vivid and precise as I can

[lokariototal]

So, yesterday there was a convention. I went there as a volunteer and found a girl i've met on campus recently. We began talking and stuff, and I kino'd her, in the arm and stuff...I tried to see if I could escalate slowly (I was conscious about kinoing her, it was something I was thinking about, I dunno if this ir "normal" tho' ) She kino'd me too. I kino'd her far more times than she kino'd me. We we're standing. Then, we went to SIT to see the show. She was sitting at my left. As we were sitting, I "called" her by touching her leg and askign her stuff... she was speaking with her friend in another language and I touched her leg and asked her on the ear.. so what language r u guys speaking! and she told me... I touched her leg like this like 3 times to say stuff to her. She responded very well, she talked in my ear and was laughing and seemed very happy. All this happened in a period of about 45 minutes. Then, This thoughts entered my mind: "In what other area can I touch her, to escalate further"? "what excuse can I use to touche her face or something else!?", "If i leave my hand on her leg for a bit more time, we'll she get scared away?". Using routines feels so lame to me! My goals were to practice kino, and try to find out how to escalate better. Cause touching legs is about as far as I can go, after that, I don't know how to proceed, or what else I can do, and many few times I get somewhere further. I feel there's no reason I could for example, touch her face or something. It would be awkward if I did. Maybe, kino is easy, as long as we follow the signals that girls send to us (I dunno is this is true tho' i have it as theory). But in this case, she was not sending any signals. I don't mean that she doesn't like me as a person, she was just not sending me any signals. What could I do in that situation??? I seem to not know how to kino escalate well.... following routines feels lame to me!

 

[Blank]

You're missing the point of kino. It's to create attraction and advance physically. The ladder goes something like hand holding, arm touching, touching the torso, the neck then the legs. But you do all this with romantic intent and usually somewhere in there is a kiss. It seems like you were just touching her to get her attention and periodically tell her stuff. You didn't create any attraction.

 

[lokariototal]

Why do u say I missed the point? I tried to create attraction! Maybe U mean i was not being direct enough?? That maybe I should tried holding her hand????

 

[lokariototal]

do u mean maybe, my kino is SO subtle, that girls are not realizing my intentions? Im not communicating that i Like them and therefore they think im just touching them normally?

 

[lokariototal]

You're missing the point of kino. It's to create attraction and advance physically. The ladder goes something like hand holding, arm touching, touching the torso, the neck then the legs. But you do all this with romantic intent and usually somewhere in there is a kiss. It seems like you were just touching her to get her attention and periodically tell her stuff. You didn't create any attraction.

Do u mean that my kino is so subtle that im not communicating my intentions well, therefore they think im just touching them normally? that i shouldbe more direct and bold?