"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My experience with a divorced Women with kids

Luis_Rancagua

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Guys,

3 weeks ago, I went on date with a single mom that has 2 kids. We hitted-off pretty well. In fact, I was able to get laid through this experience. She's an amazing woman, smart, very mature (she's not a dumb party girl). She really made me feel good.

The last time we saw ourselves, we went out for dinner. After the date, she has admitted to me that she's presently seeing another guy, but it does seem that she's getting bored. She told me that she finds me good-looking, smart, and very mature. Furthermore, she told me that she still wants to continue seeing me on the side for now.

However, very recently, she has stopped calling me. Every time I try to invite her out on a date, she's always cancelling-out by finding excuses such as: I'm going to be busy this weekend for I have to attend my son's soccer game; or I have to do work around the house. I still want to be close to her. I'm starting to develop strong feelings for this woman.

Guy's, is she screwing with my head?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Luis_Rancagua said:
Furthermore, she told me that she still wants to continue seeing me on the side for now.
I don't have much to suggest other than standing your ground when confronted with something like that. Her action of wanting to push you to the side is one thing, your allowing of it is another and possibly worse.
 

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Well she is screwing with your head. Who knows how long she has been with this other guy. I have been with girls with boyfriends, and usually they will go back to him when they sort out there problems.

I would just let this girl go go. She has 2 kids, you already nailed her. What more do you want.


When a girl that I have fvcked flakes I don't let it get to me at all. I think to myself I already fvcked her, she already blew me, I got the best of her so who cares.

The worst is when you go out on a date with a girl 2-3 times make out with her, and never see her again. This is worse I am like WTF I didn't even get to nail this braud.

Your the prize the girl has two kids. I would let it go.
 

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Divorced chicks are very flaky. Their brains are going a mile a minute cuz they have to balance all these things in the back of their brain that the ordinary chick doesn't. Still I don't think thats really an excuse. Perhaps thats the reason why they are divorced in the 1st place. Kinda flighty

Anyway, my advice would be to not get too attached. She might be doing you a favor. Try to tag her when you can but go out and have fun yourself. CHances are she'll be calling you sometime down the road anyway. They usually do when they want something (sex)
 

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Divorced Moms/Single Moms have a more rigid list of qualifications than Single women, and it's a given and no blame to them. They're looking for a daddy and unfortunately you just quite don't match the Daddy List and she just put you in the friends zone.

Guys out there mention it's baggage. Indeed it is baggage, but more baggage on her part and not yours.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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You probably didn't hit that right,i'm assuming.

Most women after a certain age just want sex like men do.
 

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She cheated on a long term boyfriend for you, now that she's got what she wanted, she is done with you.

I hate to say that you got what you deserved for messing with a girl in a relationship behind his back, but well, this is exactly what you can expect from a girl who will cheat on her boyfriend with you.
 

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The worst part about this experience is that I really started to fall in love with this woman. In the end, I got burned big time for she didn't care a rats us about me. I thought we hitted-off alright that night in the restaurent, but it was not the case at all. I'm now convinced that this chick is a real flake.
 

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ryannath said:
You "hitted-off?" That's not English.
Dude, easy. He just stutters is all.

I don't see the deal with the post. You have a fetish for older women. Your the normal All-American boy. I think you are lucky in more than one way. Just imagine if you were into thin, younger females who didn't screw on the first date. You would be a lonely fool if that was the case. So, don't worry and just find another. With a divorce rate of over 50% it shouldn't be so hard.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Luis_Rancagua said:
.... still want to be close to her. I'm starting to develop strong feelings for this woman.

Guy's, is she screwing with my head?
You should be strung/hung by your balls for such blasphemous speech and weak emotional appeal!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Get you shytt ogether - before a hor kills you by your own pleading!!!!!
 
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