"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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my experience or are black american women just forceful when chasing men?

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had to specify black american since I do not see this with black african and black latina girls at all.

I have been in my area for over a year now and we have a sizable black population. There are some things I have seen young black american women do when they are interested in a guy, especially if he is not of another race, that women of other races never do. for my situition it is kind of annoying and irritating.

- Will consistently ask you if you are into black girls or not
- Will get touchy with you early on even when you haven't shown much interest in them
- Will openly hit on you in public in front of your friends
- Will pursue you after you have rejected them
- A small number pull the race card when you say you aren't interested
- Will hit on you in front of your girlfriend when you have said you are not interested

I don't get it. Now to be fair, we don't have many classy black women in my area that you would find in places like Washington DC. but then again I have not seen this kinda of behvior from latina or white girls from lower class backgrounds, they just tend to leave you alone.

As a Brazilian I have not had much experience with black american women and I was accidentally nice to a young black girl like I am to many other girls but she took it completely the wrong way. I held the door open for her and smiled, the next day she was saying how I am her future husband right in front of everyone. I told her it isn't like that and she called me her "buuu" or whatever that means.

I have not been interested in black american women but it seems like most tend to throw themselves at men and cannot tell when a guy isn't interested in them.

would like some advice on my situation of how to deal with a girl who won't leave you alone though because I have only dealt with this from black girls.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Probably HowardDiCaprio posting under a different name. He's always talking about black women...
 

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Bro, you can't possibly expect a "Peaceful Convo" with this thread.

To be fair though, black women definitely aren't where it's at, and I'm a black dude

But brogod... your post is just ... strange.
 

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I had no other ways to word it. in op I even said that my experience has not been like this with all black women, just black american women but after being around a lot that has been my experience. Not making any of this up at all just what I have experienced and would like some help. if there was any way I could reword this thread i would.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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tbh I do like black girls from the Caribbean and some Latin american countries attractive (dania ramirez anyone?) so its not like I have anything against black girls and their appearance but I am not into black american women, just not my type. but this isn't about my preference and I didn't want this to be black women hate thread but my experience with black american girls has been a lot different than my experience with any other race and nationality of women as I described in the OP. I tried to mention exceptions but I see it did no good, urge all members to read my entire post.

would like advice on how to properly deal with girls who are very forceful and aggressive even in front of your girlfriend and I find a particular subset of black american women are like that.
 

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ChemGod said:
I read this before somewhere.. Exact same story, even the word "Buu."
yes and you even replied to the thread you were the only one

http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=216954

I should have seen the history this frum has with race discussions and been more careful about it. tried to be specific and not make it about race at all but rather culture which is why I said black american since my experience is that black african and black latina girls are not like this at all. wanted to find a way to get this thread some replies and hope that someone familiar with the type of women I am talking about would give relevant advice but I see that this forum is a bit sensitive about that topic.

sorry for wasting your time so suave.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Answering your question, considering you not a troll

However I'm still not sure

Nevertheless, if it's one thing that black American women hate, its the truth.

Whenever a black chick started getting forceful and agressive I simply, In a very, very calm manner, told them "I'm am absolutely not attracted to you by any means and you're annoying me considerably" or something of the sort.

Sure some feeling get hurt and you look like a d1ck, but it gets the job done.

Prepare to face some backlash though, black chicks don't like sh1t like that.

So in essence, TELL THE STRAIGHT UP

Or, prepare to suffer, for they will aggressively continue with the "baes", "babes", "hubbys" "boo's" as well as other ebonical terms for male/female endearment you seem not to be to fond of.
 

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SmooveMooves said:
Answering your question, considering you not a troll

However I'm still not sure

Nevertheless, if it's one thing that black American women hate, its the truth.

Whenever a black chick started getting forceful and agressive I simply, In a very, very calm manner, told them "I'm am absolutely not attracted to you by any means and you're annoying me considerably" or something of the sort.

Sure some feeling get hurt and you look like a d1ck, but it gets the job done.

Prepare to face some backlash though, black chicks don't like sh1t like that.

So in essence, TELL THE STRAIGHT UP

Or, prepare to suffer, for they will aggressively continue with the "baes", "babes", "hubbys" "boo's" as well as other ebonical terms for male/female endearment you seem not to be to fond of.
my situation is more that I did the latter and am suffering a bit for it now but your advice was the most helpful.

thread has not been received well so far as you can see and your advice seems to be the best there is so far. I tried not generalize an entire group of women but in my situation I just had no choice.
 
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