My ex

[Aka]

I was with this girl for almost a year. She cheated on me so we broke up. We haven't talked for about a month, then she contacted me online. She asked me how am I, that she is glad that we talked, bla bla. She still is with that guy. We talked then briefly, and then time passed again. She was out of town for the past week and when she came home she stared leaving me messages on a website similar to Facebook. On two different days. Then she started contacting me on IM when I was online. Before being together we were very very close friends and we used to spend a lot of time talking online.
I don;t understand this behavior. Why does she suddenly contacted me? She also said that she has been thinking about me while she was out of town. I have moved on, I suffered a lot I could say when we broke up, but now I don't think about her so much, I don't wonder where and who is she with. I'm just confused about this, with her starting to contact me again. Daily, for the past couple of days that is.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

Any girl who cheats on me no longer exists. I wouldn't get all worked up about it, honestly, who cares? Sometimes it's good to evaluate why she cheated, make an understanding out of things, to help you move on. But you say you already have moved on, so why commit any energy to trying to answer more questions about this girl?

 

[brian123]

A) She cheated on you
B) She is still with the guy

You deserve better. Move on. Green means go.

 

[Warrior74]

ignore her. Seriously. She just wants your attention while getting that guys cawk shoved in her. Or she might be a ho and want to still give you some on the side. Either way its just gonna bring more drama into your life. Let it go man, don't respond to her.

 

[WC2]

Sorry to hear that your ex cheated on you, but hey sh!t happens. I'm pretty sure it's happened to some of the guys on here (those who do talk to women), and I can sure as hell tell ya it has happened to myself.

And the outcome is always the same. Those who move on, like yourself, will most always have their ex's gradually clawing back. The motives are undoubtedly either attention, sex, or loneliness. Either way, it's bad news (barring some unemotional, animal-like sex). I hope your actions speak louder than your words and you really have moved on totally.

No reason to be confused over why she is contacting you. Like I said, it's one of those 3 reasons and none of them are good reasons to let this smut back into your life. There are much brighter pastures up ahead. And I hope you've figured out that being single is a god send.

 

[Aka]

I know, I was just wondering why the sudden change? She told me that she cheated other boyfriends before, but I thought I was special. LOL. She even told me that I was too weak and that's why she did what she did. She told about this guy who took her back after she broke up with him for another guy. Maybe she was used with being kissed in the but by all her exes, and this confused her. Anyway the best advice I got after the break-up was: Don't contact her, ignore her even if it hurts like hell. You must have your pride and dignity when it comes to girlfriends and other people. Never let others crush you, not even the person you love the most.

 

[ljm]

She is seeing how you are doing without her, they all circle back like this....wanting a sniff of what they no longer have. She is possibly trying too reel you back in and keep you there as some kind of ego boost, or setting you up as the safety net as maybe things are not what she expected too be with the new guy.

 

[KontrollerX]

I agree with Warrior and Guywhoneedshelp.

 

[Warboss Alex]

I agree with Warrior and Guywhoneedshelp.

Dude, you should be training. Slacker.

 

[K2000kidd]

It sounds like your rememvering everything you had together and forgetting SHE CHEATED
your holding onto a false sense of hope that things will be different "this time"
It's gonna eat you alive and consume you then chew you up and spit you out
the best thing you can do for yourself now is show her you moved on .

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

Girls get some sort of satisfaction when they see that their ex is not doing well. My ex can only find me driving a new car, sporting a new look, and wearing a bigger smile since we broke up. Deep down, she'd rather see the opposite. Me lonely, AFC, looking like crap, makes her self esteem rise while she feels happy that she's no longer with me.