Hey there fellow Don Juan-ers!
My ex-gf and I recently broke up, as a matter of fact, she broke up with me. The circumstances are complicated, but the basic problem was she constantly would accuse me of "gawking" at other girls. Of course, we're all human and we all look! But she would get upset and even a glance in an attractive woman's direction. That, in turn, really turned me off to sex with her. The constant accusations just made not want to have sex with her. Of course, this was a huge problem as this went on for several months. Eventually, it got to the point where I would start to kiss her or initiate sex, she would ask me, what are you doing?? That got rid of my hard on quick!!!
Consequently, she ended it because she said we weren't physical anymore and honestly, just getting to the point where sex would even cross my mind was almost a miracle being treated like a cheater for just looking at another woman. We were really great friends but this was just unacceptable to me. I cut off contact with her, for several weeks , but she still owed me some money. I should have just let that go, but we talked once and I let it slip out "I miss you" BIG MISTAKE!!! She tells me you don't miss me, you're just bored and it's all in your head. That really pissed me off and I just ended the conversation and cut off contact again.
Well...3 weeks later, i get a text...we had some bad wind here in Los Angeles, she wanted to see if everything was ok...i text back, yea, I'm fine...nothing more. 3 days later, she calls me and asks me out to lunch...against my own better judgement, i went, thinking maybe it had something to do with the money she owed me. It was a friendly lunch, no drama, no bullsh*t and at the end I just told her, I don't want to have to worry about the money you owe me, so lets just call it even? Honestly, i don't even care about the money!! This way i figure i don't have to think about it or her. Well, the next day, she texts me again....the day after that, a phone call! What gives here?? She ends it and now she's calling me 3 days in a row? I should just ignore her, but we weren't just bf/gf, we were really close friends, so it's difficult to just walk away. I know i need to, but it feels like she's trying to lure me back in by being nice, friendly, laughing and joking with me.
I'm just wondering fellow Don Juan-ers what's going here?? I know she's calling cuz she misses me, its just funny cuz she tells me I don't miss her and it's all in my head, but she obviously misses me but won't admit that to me directly. Give me your thoughts here, gentlemen!
BigNick
My ex-gf and I recently broke up, as a matter of fact, she broke up with me. The circumstances are complicated, but the basic problem was she constantly would accuse me of "gawking" at other girls. Of course, we're all human and we all look! But she would get upset and even a glance in an attractive woman's direction. That, in turn, really turned me off to sex with her. The constant accusations just made not want to have sex with her. Of course, this was a huge problem as this went on for several months. Eventually, it got to the point where I would start to kiss her or initiate sex, she would ask me, what are you doing?? That got rid of my hard on quick!!!
Consequently, she ended it because she said we weren't physical anymore and honestly, just getting to the point where sex would even cross my mind was almost a miracle being treated like a cheater for just looking at another woman. We were really great friends but this was just unacceptable to me. I cut off contact with her, for several weeks , but she still owed me some money. I should have just let that go, but we talked once and I let it slip out "I miss you" BIG MISTAKE!!! She tells me you don't miss me, you're just bored and it's all in your head. That really pissed me off and I just ended the conversation and cut off contact again.
Well...3 weeks later, i get a text...we had some bad wind here in Los Angeles, she wanted to see if everything was ok...i text back, yea, I'm fine...nothing more. 3 days later, she calls me and asks me out to lunch...against my own better judgement, i went, thinking maybe it had something to do with the money she owed me. It was a friendly lunch, no drama, no bullsh*t and at the end I just told her, I don't want to have to worry about the money you owe me, so lets just call it even? Honestly, i don't even care about the money!! This way i figure i don't have to think about it or her. Well, the next day, she texts me again....the day after that, a phone call! What gives here?? She ends it and now she's calling me 3 days in a row? I should just ignore her, but we weren't just bf/gf, we were really close friends, so it's difficult to just walk away. I know i need to, but it feels like she's trying to lure me back in by being nice, friendly, laughing and joking with me.
I'm just wondering fellow Don Juan-ers what's going here?? I know she's calling cuz she misses me, its just funny cuz she tells me I don't miss her and it's all in my head, but she obviously misses me but won't admit that to me directly. Give me your thoughts here, gentlemen!
BigNick
