"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My Ex poked me on facebook . . . How do I respond???

Roy

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Ok so I havent spoken to her (my ex) in about 2years. We broke up during the first term (semester) of my first year at university (im in my 3rd year now). She changed and become a slvt basically and started to drift apart from me (she went to a uni about 125 miles from mine) and hence we broke up and I cut all contact (including deleting her of facebook).

Now lately, I was told that a few mutual friends have been bumping into her and asking her if she has spoken to me recently. She apparently stutters when she replies saying "no i havnt spoken to 'Roy' in a while".

So obviously that must have got her thinking about me more lately. So i was quite suprised to see a poke from her i received yesterday. Im pretty sure she has a current boyfriend anyway.

My questions are:

How do I respond to this?
Can i turn her into a FB now?


Any feedback would be appreciated.

Roy

p.s. this is the thread i made on our situation (Whether to break up or stay together) 2 years ago:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=150037
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ease

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Is she at Oxford?

Impressive girl.
 

seagull

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Personally I wouldn't respond at all, if she had written to you it may be a different story. If you really have to respond, just do the minimum and 'poke' her back. She is testing you to see what type of reaction she will get and the fact you are making a big deal about this means it could end in failure.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The Mad Ghost

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Theres guys that need legitimate help and threads that need looking at, and you post this garbage of an ex 2 years prior? Not only that, but its about her poking you on Facebook, not even a pass at you (message, text, convo) a fvcking poke dude?

Fvcking slaphead.
 

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Roy said:
My questions are:

How do I respond to this?
Can i turn her into a FB now?


Any feedback would be appreciated.

Roy
Problems:
1) She has a boyfriend. This brings up moral and safety issues for you.
2) She's 125 miles away. Even if you were fvck buddies what's the likely scenario? "Hey babe wanna fvck?" "Yeah hunny, see you in 4 hours".
3) You have not spoken to her for two years. Then you get one FACEBOOK POKE and you jump right back here asking how you can get her as a FB. She does not care for you as harsh as it sounds. Maybe she was bored one day and just wanted to poke to see if you'd say anything interesting or exciting. She's just stirring the pot and you're jumping at it like a dog


Treat people how they have treated you. This girl was a virgin as you claim, and when she had the opportunity far away from you she slutted it up, got a boyfriend and didn't talk to you for two years. Then she poked you and you want to know how you can bang her and how to respond.

Don't respond. Every few months some of my exe-s try to re-add me or message me on facebook. I either outright click ignore or block them completely. Click the little X button next to the poke. I'm sure she'll get the message.
 

LuisGarcia10

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I can only speak for myself, but if it were my ex I'd poke her back, with a ****ing cattle prod.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Saddened, I am, when I see a thread like this. The overthinking is killing me, slowly... very slowly, but not as much as reading that one poster saying he wants his 30 mins back. I'm hoping it was a typo... because if it wasn't, then he's a REALLY slow reader.



Either way, the ex has already won.
The OP is WAY too excited about the prospect of sex with an ex that he has failed to see that all she is doing is trying to get his attention, and probably nothing more.

If at this point, you are wondering whether you should turn an ex who poked you on facebook into a FB... then it probably tells me that you have no other options.


How do you respond??? BY POKING OTHER WOMEN WITH YOUR MEAT STICK.
 

loveshogun

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Watch this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tu-QjTNtDz8

Sir, there is a void inside you that no woman can fill. You have to fill it yourself.

This woman is merely a symptom of your loneliness, not the cause.

Be comfortable being alone - only then will you be able to maintain an objectivity about how much benefit your partner brings to the table.
 

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Why don't you just give her a leash and ask her to walk you around like a puppy dog. Girl has got you WHIPPED
 

Chickfight

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I agree with everyone who says ignore it and get on with your life.

But alternatively, tell her to stop poking you because you think it's creepy (which it is :))
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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