My ex-oneitis

[becker]

You'll never believe this guys, but today I spoke with my ex-oneitis on the phone, the one who got engaged. I have not spoken to her in 3 months or so. She called me this morning and we talked for at least half an hour, with her keeping me on the phone most of the time. She also wanted to meet up and hang out.

I know this sounds all AFC, but believe me, I'm not pursuing her. She's definitely the most amazing girl I've ever met (not sure if that will ever change), but at the same time, in these past 3 months, I've been pursuing other women, including this HB10 at my work, so I sort of see her differently now than I did before. I'd like to keep a good relationship with this girl because I get along very well with her parents, who absolutely love me like a son. I spoke to her dad who told me that he was thinking about me and wondering what I was up to, since I cut off contact for so long.

The question is, should I ever bring this HB10 with me to see this girl? I'd personally like to do it only to see what her reaction would be.

 

[THA REALNESS]

You should let your ex go,man.I wouldn't have even have talked to her on the phone,why torture yourself?


But then again ,yeah i would probably take the other one with me.You should tell the HB10 to meet up with you guys later ,and go meet the other one and just casually bring up that your gonna bring a freind along " If you don't mind ,of course".

 

[becker]

Well, the main reason why I even talked to her on the phone was that I never really asked her out or anything, so as far as she's concerned, we've just been friends, even though there was a time where she was a bit on the confused side, and was showing interest in me while at the same time not wanting to harm her LTR. It was always an unspoken attraction between us, and if anyone had to get over it, it was me, and I did.

I guess I'm not out for revenge or anything, but I guess it never hurts to have your ego stroked.

It's a young secretary in the place that I work, and believe me, she's an HB10 easily. I'm extremely picky too (most here who know me know this), so this is saying a lot.

 

[CLOONEY]

You've moved from one oneitis to another. So are you saying that this girl you call your X isnt actually your X? Wouldnt take her along, just live your life man, no need to think about such stupid little games.

 

[Jet Jockey]

Don't do anything diffren. If you would bring the hb10 with you, to go meet up with any other friend, than bring her to meet this one (the ex) If you aren't that "in" with the hb10 yet, then don't worry about it.
Main thing here is that, you live your life like YOU wanna. I wouldn't make my new girlfriend stay away from this ex, really, just due to the fact, that I would be looking at the ex as a friend only. The ex, if she is decent at all, can wind up being a little social proof for you, which can't hurt either.

Another thing to think about is why did the ex suddenly call you out of the blue? Is she still attracted possibly? something to think about. Don't leave your hb10 for the ex tho!!! you'd be slitting your own throat there pal.

I had a ex once that did the same thing. got engaged and called up out of the blue..i miss you, how have you been doing etc, and wanted to meet up. When i went to meet up with her, it was ALL about her. She brought her new little studmuffin, who tryed to act too cool for school, and like he was almost better than me. It was ego stroking time for the ex, is what it amounted to. Trying to rub it in my face that she was engaged to "such a hot guy" (implying that the breakup was to her benefit). When my new girlfriend showed up who was about 3 points above my ex, that put the ball in my court. Her fiance, tryed flirting with my girlfriend, who promptly put him in his place....and the ex broke it off with the fiance 2 weeks later...but i stayed put with my new girlfriend. I guess it back fired on the ex! She was begging me to come back, etc etc, implying I was the best thing she ever had...which WAS the truth. got her tits in a ringer didn't she LOL.

Just do what ya wanna do, but realize the ex could have a motive here, is all i am saying. Live long and prosper!!!

 

[becker]

Clooney, agree about the games. It was my ex-oneitis, not my ex-GF. I'd say the new girl is hotter, but they're pretty much even. The only two girls I've ever met who I've said were either a 9 or 10.

 

[DEKKA]

Originally posted by becker
...I've been pursuing other women, including this HB10 at my work, so I sort of see her differently now than I did before...

theres no such things as an HB10 bro. that is all.

 

[becker]

HB10 to me is Jessica Alba. This girl is at that level.

 

[becker]

Originally posted by GigaloDJ
lol what are you talkin about?!

What's wrong with her?

 

[Starman]

hahah me and Gigalo are on the same level with this HB10 Crap

first of all..take the makeup off that HB10 , and then rate her..


I cant tell you how many times I have hooked up with a HB 8 or 9..then see her the next day without makeup..it dropped like 3-4 points

ya gotta start seeing chicks for who they are in REALITY..because when you get with them..thats what you have to deal with..your overall assesment..make-up on vs off..not just your initial assessment with globs of make up

#2 by assigning ANY woman a 10..you have just put her on a mental pedestal..because Im sure most of the guys who meet HB10's dont think more of themselves than a Guy rating at 6, 7 or 8

so if she is a HB10, and you are a mere 7..where does that put your self worth??

 

[Santos]

Originally posted by becker
You'll never believe this guys, but today I spoke with my ex-oneitis on the phone, the one who got engaged. I have not spoken to her in 3 months or so. She called me this morning and we talked for at least half an hour, with her keeping me on the phone most of the time. She also wanted to meet up and hang out.

I know this sounds all AFC, but believe me, I'm not pursuing her. She's definitely the most amazing girl I've ever met (not sure if that will ever change), but at the same time, in these past 3 months, I've been pursuing other women, including this HB10 at my work, so I sort of see her differently now than I did before. I'd like to keep a good relationship with this girl because I get along very well with her parents, who absolutely love me like a son. I spoke to her dad who told me that he was thinking about me and wondering what I was up to, since I cut off contact for so long.

The question is, should I ever bring this HB10 with me to see this girl? I'd personally like to do it only to see what her reaction would be.

Hey becker, remember me?

We both had the oneitis who got away\engaged\boyfriend what ever you want to call it. I haven't spoken to my oneitis for about a month. I broke off contact two months ago, saw her once a month ago. And that's it. Any contact we've made has been instigated by her, she even wants to "get together" some time. It's easier for me to just NOT talk to her, and make excuses because she screwed me around.

I keep being tempted to see her\call her again. But I don't in fear that I get oneitis again. It gets easier and easier, doesn't it?

Well, I hope that you really are over her and aren't bull****ting yourself. It concerns me that you want to "see how she reacts". But I guess I can understand the satisfaction you'd feel, I wish I could do that to my oneitis, but I'm still single She keeps trying to get out of me whether I'm seeing anyone else or not (she can't figure out WHY I just stopped seeing her).

Glad to hear you've moved on!
Santos

 

[DEKKA]

yeah dude. i mean look at christina aguillera w/o makeup on and you'll understand.

hb9.9 is pure natural beauty in its rawest form + a killer personality to back it all up (basically the whole shebang)

and an hb10 is just a mythical creature reserved for a future time in a world of dreams far far away. in this day and age you'll never find an hb10 because the influence of society will fvck them up even if they had a running headstart from the gene pool. -J

 

[Trogdawg]

I suggest you just stay away from your "x" one-itis. If she was a true x you wouldn't even be bothered enough to post your question. If you've truly moved on and are after your 'perfect 10'. My advice is to stay away from ex's in general. Every ex I've had was someone I really cared about (duh). So no matter how long you go without them you still have some feelings for them. You just forget. Out of sight out of mind.

Don't touch it, leave it alone, go tell an adult.

That's the best advice i can give you.

 

[becker]

Originally posted by GigaloDJ
Nothing. I mean, she's not nearly a 10 though (if there was a such thing as a 10!!!!!!!). But she is cute.

Read Starman's reply.

Holy cow, see, I don't think she wears enough makeup to say that she'd be any less if she didn't have makeup on. She seems like she'd be just as good looking without it to me. Sort of like Katie Holmes, who to me is also right up there. I have never seen an HB7 put on makeup and look like an HB10. At best she may look like an HB8, because you can tell by looking at the makeup whether she'd be hot without it.

Christina Aguilera and Britney Spears, on the other hand, I do NOT feel would look nearly as nice without the makeup. Those are examples of girls who have flaws that are obviously covered by makeup. They both have big noses. Jessica Alba's face doesn't have those obvious flaws, so to me, she's as perfect as they can come, taking into account the fact that nobody's perfect.

As for calling a HB10 an HB10, I don't put anyone on a pedestal when I say that, I'm just merely acknowledging their beauty. Beauty doesn't intimidate me, because I've never met a girl that was hot who I didn't approach and get an number from. That's really not the issue here. To me, it's more about finding those girls who would make others fade in comparison. There aren't many out there, and those are the only ones I'm chasing, hence the elusive HB10 label. As I said before, I could have a girl like Jessica Alba, call her an HB10, and be satisfied that my mission was accomplished.

 

[becker]

Originally posted by Trogdawg
I suggest you just stay away from your "x" one-itis. If she was a true x you wouldn't even be bothered enough to post your question. If you've truly moved on and are after your 'perfect 10'. My advice is to stay away from ex's in general. Every ex I've had was someone I really cared about (duh). So no matter how long you go without them you still have some feelings for them. You just forget. Out of sight out of mind.

Don't touch it, leave it alone, go tell an adult.

That's the best advice i can give you.

Thanks Trogdawg for the good and practical advice.

 

[becker]

Re: Re: My ex-oneitis

Originally posted by Santos
Hey becker, remember me?

We both had the oneitis who got away\engaged\boyfriend what ever you want to call it. I haven't spoken to my oneitis for about a month. I broke off contact two months ago, saw her once a month ago. And that's it. Any contact we've made has been instigated by her, she even wants to "get together" some time. It's easier for me to just NOT talk to her, and make excuses because she screwed me around.

I keep being tempted to see her\call her again. But I don't in fear that I get oneitis again. It gets easier and easier, doesn't it?

Well, I hope that you really are over her and aren't bull****ting yourself. It concerns me that you want to "see how she reacts". But I guess I can understand the satisfaction you'd feel, I wish I could do that to my oneitis, but I'm still single She keeps trying to get out of me whether I'm seeing anyone else or not (she can't figure out WHY I just stopped seeing her).

Glad to hear you've moved on!
Santos

Santos, of course I remember our common problems. It seems to me that the main difference between us was that you sort of got more involved with your girl than I did. I think the most important lesson that I learned from this whole thing was that there are other fish in the sea. This is a concept that one-itis certainly clouds. I was practically convinced that there WEREN'T other girls out there. However, I have to say that although there are others, it took me 3 months to find one that I was even satisfied with enough to even care about going after. I'm too picky, but it pays off.

 

[Chrispy]

Originally posted by becker
You'll never believe this guys, but today I spoke with my ex-oneitis on the phone, the one who got engaged. I have not spoken to her in 3 months or so. She called me this morning and we talked for at least half an hour, with her keeping me on the phone most of the time. She also wanted to meet up and hang out.

I know this sounds all AFC, but believe me, I'm not pursuing her. She's definitely the most amazing girl I've ever met (not sure if that will ever change), but at the same time, in these past 3 months, I've been pursuing other women, including this HB10 at my work, so I sort of see her differently now than I did before. I'd like to keep a good relationship with this girl because I get along very well with her parents, who absolutely love me like a son. I spoke to her dad who told me that he was thinking about me and wondering what I was up to, since I cut off contact for so long.

The question is, should I ever bring this HB10 with me to see this girl? I'd personally like to do it only to see what her reaction would be.

I know someone who did what you say you're about to want to do...go ahead and see her, but only as long as you keep in the back of your mind that there's no way you guys will (want to) get together again. The beauty of it is you can be really ****y to her (cuz ya don't care)...all WITHOUT bringing your HB10.

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by becker
I'd personally like to do it only to see what her reaction would be.

Are you kidding me? Dude, thats childish. NEXT this whole friggen situation. Do not talk to your ex ever again, and most certainly, do not go see her.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Can someone explain these farfetched expressions to me...

Oneitis?
HB??

I get that HB10 means rank 10 on a girl...

 

[Newbie01]

Can someone explain these farfetched expressions to me... Oneitis? HB?? I get that HB10 means rank 10 on a girl...

I'd like to know the same thing. It's obvious HBX is the rating but wtf is Oneitis?