"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My Ex Is Hunting Me Down.. again!

soulforge

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Ok so it has been just over a year since my toxic (cluster b) ex girlfriend dumped me.. this woman treated me very crappy for the most part of the relationship.

1 year later I should be over her right? Nope.. she has been sending me letters to my home, hunting me down online...

She messaged me on pof earlier today.. for the last 6 months, she has been doing everything to try and get me back..

I have ignored every single one of her hoover attempts... but it is getting hard guys.. she was a very attractive woman, also I have been alone for a year now..

I have plates, but not anything serious like a relationship. . I need strength to carry on ignoring her..


Going back to her would only continue the toxic cycle...


Altho since she has dumped me. . I have grown alot.. I have become a stronger person, who is not willing to take shiit.. I have learnt to set my boundaries. .

And I, m willing to drop a woman, the moment she gets out of hand...



What shall i do guys? I want to get over this chick? But she is in some way or another allways there..

I should be over her, but 1 year later, she is still in my mind
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You know what to do !!! Just ignore her !! She doesn't exist anymore !!
 

soulforge

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Been ignoring her, but she keeps popping up lol
 

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Don't do it brotha. I just had recycled sex with a cluster B. Like you, I avoided her like the plague. But I gave in. Started talking to her again. We hung out a couple nights ago and it lead into sex. I have yet to hear from her. I won't lie, some feelings came back and now I'm working on feeling better again. It's not as bad as the break up but can't help to feel a tad hurt. Stay the course.
 

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Watch Fatal Attraction. It will make you think twice.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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El Payaso said:
Watch Fatal Attraction. It will make you think twice.
I disagree. If Michael Douglas was 'into' Glenn Close then maybe she wouldn't have reacted that way. She felt rejected because he didn't want to be with her.

The best way to combat someone who is hunting/stalking you is showering her with affection and being needy. This reverse psychology will get her to run away from you.
 

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mikey2012 said:
I disagree. If Michael Douglas was 'into' Glenn Close then maybe she wouldn't have reacted that way. She felt rejected because he didn't want to be with her.

The best way to combat someone who is hunting/stalking you is showering her with affection and being needy. This reverse psychology will get her to run away from you.
Poor kid. You still have a lot to learn about BPD women. Showering them with attention only makes it worse. They will make your life a living hell.
 

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Believe me... I have disapeared and remained hardcore no contact with this woman for over a year... not a chance will i make any kind of contact with her now... that much I am 100% sure about...

If i was the type to give in, I would have already done it... I am just shocked and amazed by how persistant this cluster b crazy b@tch is...


I mean its been a year... and still she is trying to hoover me back..
 
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