peaceseeker
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We are both 23, and I ended the relationship with her over two months ago. There was hope in saving the relationship if she told her parents about us, because the stress and pressures of doing stuff with her behind EVERYONE's back got to me. I had to take on the pressures of the world, and it was genrally smooth sailing for her. This took a toll on me physically and mentally. She is a people pleaser, does everything others ask of her at my expense. She cannot say no to anyone but me. I took this as disrespect, because I cannot marry a girl who will not listen to me. I would have done (and did) anything she asked of me, but it was disappointing to see her again and again letting me down. She always had a perfect excuse (because parents would find out, etc.), but to me what mattered was that I was being let down over and over and over again. I love her enough I was able to deal with this for a year and a half, but it got to the point where I am burnt out. We agreed to a mutual breakup, and I thought I could finally move on in hopes of getting my body and most importantly my mind recovered.
She called me the next day after the break up and told me she missed me. I told her I missed her as well. I asked her if she would tell her mom about us so me and her can have a stress free life (her mother had even asked if someone was in her life!). She declined. I took that as no hope, and swallowed all my feelings for her and tried to move on. I am trying to be on my own this summer and be by myself so I can get over her and prepare for life, school, etc. After a month into the break up, she just bombarded me with calls, emails, texts, etc. I was totally ignoring her so I can get over her and fix myself. But she just kept calling and calling and calling. After reading her emails, it angered me. NOW she was willing to tell her mother, but a broken heart is a broken heart. It was too late for me. I replied her email in a angry fashion, asking her to leave me alone. Things were quiet after awhile.
Flash forward a month later. This last week I have been bombarded with calls, emails, texts. I have been ignoring them all. I don't think I owe her anything anymore, and I thought after the last email I sent her she would get the point. But she keeps telling me "I wont give up" over and over again. I have ignored all the messages. But yesterday, she accused me of being happy about ignoring her. She warned me that something ten times worse will happen to me. She accused me of ending the relationship even though it was mutual. She is now telling me that if I don't pick up and talk to her, then she will "go away from the planet forever." She is telling me that in order to make me happy, she will die. I am disappointed to know she thinks this of me, but I don't know what to do now. Should I hold my ground and ignore her, or give in and talk with her. If I give in, then she basically has no value for my word. Nothing I say (like always) matters. It is always her way. BUT I hate to see her in this pain. What do I do? Sorry for the long post!
She called me the next day after the break up and told me she missed me. I told her I missed her as well. I asked her if she would tell her mom about us so me and her can have a stress free life (her mother had even asked if someone was in her life!). She declined. I took that as no hope, and swallowed all my feelings for her and tried to move on. I am trying to be on my own this summer and be by myself so I can get over her and prepare for life, school, etc. After a month into the break up, she just bombarded me with calls, emails, texts, etc. I was totally ignoring her so I can get over her and fix myself. But she just kept calling and calling and calling. After reading her emails, it angered me. NOW she was willing to tell her mother, but a broken heart is a broken heart. It was too late for me. I replied her email in a angry fashion, asking her to leave me alone. Things were quiet after awhile.
Flash forward a month later. This last week I have been bombarded with calls, emails, texts. I have been ignoring them all. I don't think I owe her anything anymore, and I thought after the last email I sent her she would get the point. But she keeps telling me "I wont give up" over and over again. I have ignored all the messages. But yesterday, she accused me of being happy about ignoring her. She warned me that something ten times worse will happen to me. She accused me of ending the relationship even though it was mutual. She is now telling me that if I don't pick up and talk to her, then she will "go away from the planet forever." She is telling me that in order to make me happy, she will die. I am disappointed to know she thinks this of me, but I don't know what to do now. Should I hold my ground and ignore her, or give in and talk with her. If I give in, then she basically has no value for my word. Nothing I say (like always) matters. It is always her way. BUT I hate to see her in this pain. What do I do? Sorry for the long post!