"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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My ex gf is messing with my head and I just want it to stop.

dre007

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So this is what happened. I broke up with my gf at the end of March, we had a fight when i came to visit her at her college and i left early, which pissed her off and it really wasn't the same after that. She would ignore me and I really got pissed and called it quits over a voicemail, because it got so bad she would not talk to me at all. I wasn't gonna deal with that bullsh*t anymore.

So it went good for the rest of March and the beginning of April. I was lifting weights, hitting the gym 4-5 times a week, going out with my buds, talking to other girls. I had totally forgotten about her. i was moving on.

Then last Saturday like around midnight, she sent me a txt, and she was drunk, saying that she heard our song during a party and thought of me. This txt really f*cked with my head the next two days and then i thought maybe this girl wants to get back with me and all the feelings i had for her started coming back and then i sent her an email trying to get back with her. She ignored it because i haven't heard from her since then.

I don't know what to do anymore, because i just want her to get out of my head. I was doing fine getting over her and i had the power in my hands, dumping her, and getting her txt, but i lost the upper hand.

Guys i just want to get over this girl somehow, help me out. She's messing with my head.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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KontrollerX

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Here is how you get over her.

1. Do what you were doing before ie working out, going out with friends, talking to other chicks.

2. No contact. Eliminate every possible means of her communications with you. Block her from texting, from calling, from emailing, delete pictures of her, throw pictures and items away that remind you of her, get rid of all of the relationship crap that you shared together etc.

She has gotten her stupid little one up power trip over you because you didn't know any better and you can't be blamed for that but listen brother don't give her anymore, don't feed that ego of her's again.

Get back on course.

She only has the power over your mind that you allow her to have.

Break that pattern now and focus on other things.

You are in control.

You just didn't know it until I told you now.
 

Mr. Me

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You had a backslide for a moment, that's all. Pick yourself up and move yourself forward again. You were doing great. Ignore her from now on. Just remind yourself of why you broke it off in the first place.
 

ZenGodMod

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Bar her number, Email address and god knows what next time.

Man get off your knees and stand up!
 

sexy_kuta

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lol bro bro, i been in the extact situation as you. and funny thing is, you cant get anything out from it.
what happend was, you took the bait, when she texted you, you took that bait.
how to get over her? change your number, block her of all contacts on the internet. boom thats all it takes. because you got the other part already fixed, which is keeping yourself busy.
its hard because theres mixed signals every where. my ex kept calling me once a month, right after i kept cutting her off, finally i changed my number.
because it kills you as soon as they contact you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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drak_ool

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that s seriously all it took? one drunk text and she s got you right back in her web?

seriously you need to man up. Seems like you were doing fine before that happened so just get back to it, hanging out with your buddies, working out and start fvcking other girls, not just talking to them.

my last serious ex has been trying to contact me for 8 months now, her last text was over the weekend. so be ready to have to deal with this kind of **** for a while
 

ProDJ26

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GIVE YOURSELF SOME SELF RESPECT!!!! Why would you visit her at her school if YOU broke up with her?

Don't make the same mistake I made

Listen to Kontroller X and the others,

GET RID OF ALL MEMORIES: PICTURES, NUMBERS, TXT MESSAGES, ETC.

CUT ALL CONTACT AND BLOCK HER SORRY ASS FROM YOUR LIFE!!!

SHE'S DRAGGIN YOU DONE BRO!!! Trust me when I say this the moment you start gaming chicks it is hard but as sonn as you do You'll feel so much better!!!!

Listen to Jay-Z - " 99 Problems" , DMX - "What these B*tches Want", and

Tupac - "Skandalouz"


Don't be so hard on yourself, as Kontroller X said you have to go back to the way you were before she screwed with you and your DJ life. Workout, Talk to other chick, and move on

And that's to everybody, **** your Ex's and there new Boyfirends/problems, she (your ex/ex's) don't give a hoot about you. So move on and stop waisting your life.

Sometimes you guys make me angry lol

(turns green and starts hurling tanks)
 

DonJuanit0

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Well the best thing to do with txts from girls that might hurt your heart is not to read them at all! I just erased them before I would read them because I knew that from the time I would read I would do anything to go back! For example when I discuss with friends and maybe an ex will come as a subject of discussion I just request not to talk about her! Even if it is good for her/me irrelevant! Everything! I act like they don't even exist! It might take me up to 1 year to forget about a relationship at least that's how it came up with my last one, but since then since I have erased her out of my mind, I feel great! She doesn't exist for me! We had a really good time but it's over! Time to move on! Find new chicks! Meet more ppl! Do new things that will totally get her out of my mind! Just pretend that she doesn't exist for a while!! :D
 

penkitten

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change your phone number dude! dont let her play these games with you.
you are in charge .
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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