"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My ex GF had a car crash

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Obsidian said:
Unless you want to get back together with this girl who dumped you and who can't drive -- which you shouldn't -- then it really doesn't matter what you do.
Nah i dont want her back
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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How would this affect my actions, i still knew her as a person whether i want her back or not?
 

PectoralisMajor

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Send her a get well card...jeez its like £1 and doesnt involve any effort or emotional contact I (like the phone could). Send the card, knowing you've done the right thing, then forget about her until she makes contact with you.

This is so simple that its worrying a post has been made. The phone call out of the blue could be awkward, and judging that you've had to make a post out of this, you'd probably not shine...
 

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Sorry for hijacking your thread, but this reminds me of how people use the 'my chances of dying in a car accident are way higher than that' argument to make other things look out to be hardly dangerous.

When really they should think about the fact, that about 40,000 people die in car crashes in the US in 1 year. That is something like 1 in 7,500 people dying in a car crash each YEAR in the US. If you do the maths after figuring in how many years the average person lives - say 75 years, that means about 1 in 100 people will loose their life in a car crash. (leaving out the number of people left handicapped or crippled after bad car accidents).

Yet everybody considers driving cars relatively low-risk, mostly because we're just so used to driving.

Plus many people think 'I know how to drive so that wont happen to me'. I dont want to get technical, but I bet in a large percentage of those tens of thousands of serious car crashes that happen each year, there are 2 cars or more involved and you probably wouldnt be able to do anything about it.

But don't get me wrong, I'm not gonna say 'never set foot in a car again' or anything like this. Actually I drive myself and I know there are tons of other risks in life, but I just prefer living downtown in a city, where you can easily do most things without needing a car (other than going to the supermarket, the gym or the movies of course), that way driving isn't all that risky. Plus if I move to another city, which I plan on doing Ill definitely choose one, with a good public transport system.

I know thats far easier in Europe than in most US cities, but honestly think about it..people I know are scared to death, that they might have caught HIV from having unprotected sex once (yea they should be) and are worried about flying with bad unsafe airlines (I wouldnt fly with one of those either) which are risks of 1 in a few 100,000....yet they never really get scared of driving or consider using public transport more instead of driving (even if theyve had a car accident before in which they got injured), when it's really the biggest risk of all.

just something to think about...I know many ppl will want to flame me for typing this ;)
 

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Fained sympathy isn't worth the effort expended. If you truly care, let her know proportionately. If you don't, why fake it?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Oh for f*cks sakes.

Forget about flowers. Forget about calling her. You are her EX for god's sakes.

The only APPROPRIATE ways to handle this situation is one of two ways, you can either:

1. Ignore it entirely

OR

2. Send her a sympathy card

or secret option number 3:

You can GO SEE HER AT THE HOSPITAL. Just drop by, say you heard about the crash and wanted to see if she was all right and then go. Don't hang around, just make an appearance and go.

I'd go with number 2 for an EX.
 

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Leave Her Alone!!!!!!!!forget Her!!!!!!!!

djSlvt said:
Well, accident is different. Send her flowers with a message card, "hope you get better". .

NOO NOOO NOOOOOOOO

LEAVE HER ALONE.........not your problem....


(i.e. why not send cards to starving kids in zimbawardaliseea desert or something) lol
 
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