My EX and my FRIEND

[confuzzled1991]

I broke up with my boyfriend 4 months ago and he started dating one of my friends about a month and a half ago. They lied to me and didnt tell me about it because they didnt want to hurt me of something. But while my ex was dating her he was fooling around with me and telling me he wanted to get back with me, and that he doesnt actually care about her and he has feelings for me. Now he tells me they are in love and he was only saying that he wanted to get back with me was because they are going to break up because of her parents and he wanted someone to turn to and fool around with. He lies all the time and i dont kno wat to believe with him. it hurts that he lied to me about how he felt to and about me and about her. i dont want to date him again i dont even like him, but he acted like such an ass and thinks its fine to go right back to being friends. In one breath he cares in the next he doesnt and idk wat to think because we were actually very close friends after we broke up and now idk. as much as i dont like him it still bothers me that they are together. but they both have issuses so i guess they r good for each other. do i pretend like im not mad/upset by wat he said? should i just stop talking to them? i dont kno how to act around them.

 

[RFish]

To overcome, you must accept fully.

It may be harsh, but it is obvious you still care about him and you still have feelings for him. It is call jealousy. You take out your friend's contact list, there are those that are attached that are friends of yours and does it bothers you that they are together? Or that you were neutral or happy about them?

Simply put you have not come to terms with it totally.

Now he tells me they are in love and he was only saying that he wanted to get back with me was because they are going to break up because of her parents and he wanted someone to turn to and fool around with.

Yes he is a jerk. He lied. Welcome to the modern world. I may be harsh but this is how this culture is and that is part of adaptation. You may hate him for this but when you grow up (I assume your borned in 1991), you will meet many more of such people and you yourself may even lie.

What you need to see in him is perhaps, he was honest to you in what he did previously. At least appreciate the fact he bothered to tell you that he lied previously. If not for now you would not have known it is a lie and continue sinking into the quick sand.

Truth be told, I really felt you are too young to get into a relationship and you have much more to learn. I trust in you that you can accept this harsh post because you made the effort to do something about the situation you are facing. Many people will confide in friends which is fine as well but just don't keep it to yourself.

For your question, it will be the best if you can just come to terms with it. As I said in order to overcome you have to accept fully.

You can go no contact, you can stop talking to them, you can do whatever you want, but that doesn't solve the problem deep down that you must come to terms with it. Treat your relationship with him as a good experience, treasure it and learn from it. How you treat him ultimately comes from how you felt because I'm not going to judge your situation who is right who is wrong.

So if you felt he is not treating the way you felt you deserve (chances are you are feeling it), so you can drop the contact and move on.

 

[Scars]

Haha don't even bother RFish. Girl's don't use logic at all, that's why I'm not going to waste my time offering advice. This girl is going to act on her feelings and do whatever she wants, they always do. But if I were to offer advice and you were to listen, I'd say go find another guy, you obviously have feelings for your ex and it's only causing you pain, so go replace those feelings with somebody else.

 

[jeffthechef]

I'll make it simple.

He wants to bang you, while having a public relationship with her and banging her.

Basically, he wants everyone to know he's with her, for ego reasons, but he also finds you attractive and wants to be fwb's with you.

 

[Captain Harlock]

I'll make it simple.

He wants to bang you, while having a public relationship with her and banging her.

Basically, he wants everyone to know he's with her, for ego reasons, but he also finds you attractive and wants to be fwb's with you.

it's as simple as that. Don't believe anything that guy says because every single word of it is a simple lie which everyone who has a wang (and therefore not women) can see through.

 

[confuzzled1991]

Scars: I am listening to wat people are saying which is why i bothered asking, and i like ur advice so thank u.

 

[KontrollerX]

Oh hush.

You love it.

 

[eaglez1177]

Hahahaha looks like someone got PLAYED