"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hey guys just finished up my essay for writing class. Thought i'd share it with you guys.


HELLO


What does this word mean? Hello as a greeting, such as good morning, good evening, and good afternoon. Everyone from an early age is taught this word, but as we grow older, we use it more sparingly. Who would think such a simple word could open up so many doors?

In this day and age it’s hard to open up to anyone; most people nowadays walk by strangers without even saying “hello.” Thoughts of insecurity and other negative emotions creep into your mind. You’re your own worst critic. We give ourselves too many reasons to cop out. “They look busy.” “They probably won’t even notice me, or hear me.”

On the other hand we can spend hours on our cell phones. We talk on the internet through instant messaging applications. We’d rather watch reality T.V than live in our own reality. We’d rather stay close with the people we know instead of getting out and meeting new people. You can say hello to anyone, anytime, and anywhere. You’d be surprised how many friendly hellos’s and smiles that you’ll receive.

When I graduated high school, I received an award for representing my school and for being kind to those around me. The reason I won the award was because I always said “hello.” Of course some people are not outgoing. I wasn’t at first because of my speech impediment. I put that aside and decided that I would not let anything stand in my way of bring friendly.

The reason saying hello shows that your friendly is because your communicating to the other person, "Hey I'm friendly, I won't bite." Most people that are living in this world go around with an invisible shield up, also known as "shyness." This is one way of de-activating that shield. A good example is a lunch line. How many times have you stood in the lunch line with your hands in your pocket staring into space? Next time take a few minutes and start a conversation with someone. Ask them what they're having, ask them if you can join them for lunch. Never pass up your opportunity to make a new friend or acquaintance.

You reap what you sow, and the rewards are out there for the taking. The benefits are enormous; I should know. So the next time you see someone walking down the street, send a “hi,” their way or maybe a “howdy,” depending on where you’re from. There’s a saying that goes “love, friendship, and other things are right around the corner.” This is true if you always say “hello
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by JBizzle
When I graduated high school, I received an award for representing my school and for being kind to those around me. The reason I won the award was because I always said “hello.” Of course some people are not outgoing. I wasn’t at first because of my speech impediment. I put that aside and decided that I would not let anything stand in my way of bring friendly.
That's pretty inspiring that you overcame such an obstacle, I like that last sentence. Well done mate. :D I have a friend who also has a speech impediment, and you can hardly understand what he is saying most of the time, because he slurs his words. But the weirdest thing is, he is one of the easiest persons to talk to. I can never be in his company without continually talking. And I admire him because he doesn't let his impediment bother him, or stop him talking to other people, he probably knows more people than me!

I can tell some people talk to him just out of sympathy, but he is a truly inspirational person like you. If you and him can talk to people and say something as simple as 'hello' then there is no reason why everyone else here who is too afraid to just say 'hi' can't. :)
 

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That's Week 1 of the DJ bootcamp.

I like the lunch line example. When I'm in the lunch line, I try to talk to everyone, and a lot of them are very receptive.

"C'mon people, we all know that the harder we push, the faster the line will move."

"We can take her. I'll grab her, and you take the pizzas."

Great post.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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