My current situation...

[oakraiderz2]

Alright, im going to try to keep this short, so if theres not enough details...tell me.

I met this girl last semester, i got her number and all that good stuff but nothing ever happened. This semester the same girl is in my english class. I never planned to approach her cause i accepted what had happened before, but she approached me and i got her number. She basically asked me to hang out which was about the climax of the whole situtation. The first night we hung out we went to a movie. The convo was alright but could have been better on my part. We held hands blah blah blah, all that good sh*t. I walked her to her car, gave her a kiss and we made out for a little while. I called her 3 days later to hang out again. We chilled at my house, watched a movie and made out some more...all was well and good. When she left i knew she was interested when she copped a feel on my abs( i for some reason was still kinda concerned about it though). The next day in class it all when down hill when she sat next to me and i didnt have anything to say, and the fact that after class was over i kinda just got up and left and didnt say anything to her. This first started 3 weeks ago(the day we hung out). Fast foreward to now...she doesnt sit next to me or talk to me. I saw her talking to two guys one day i was going to smoke a cig and she looked over at me but i ignored her. Tuesday in class i noticed her looking at me so i was thinkin i still had a chance. After class she peaces out, but i see her as im waiting for my next class to start so i figure now is the time to talk to her. The convo wasnt very good in my eyes, i kinda got the vibe that she didnt want to be bothered with me. She was walking pretty fast and slowed down cause i was taking my sweet time(dunno if that means sh*t).

So where do yall think i stand? I was thinking she was being kinda cold to me because i was doing it to her, but i really have no fvcking clue. I dont know what i should do next; i kinda wanna not try and accept it but i dont wanna give up. I have no idea what i should do next,but i dont want things to get awkward like they were.

 

[ethnomethodologist]

If anybody's paying attention to my recent train of thought...

Oakraiderz this is NOT anything to be worried about. You ignored the girl, now she's ignoring you... I'd love to say that there is a connection and that you should wait for her to come and speak to you... but that's not going to happen

What you've got to do, is reintroduce yourself, don't care about her ignoring you... WHY SHOULD YOU?

 

[sexysuave]

She sits right next to you and you have NOTHING to say to her?! Dude, how about "hey sparky, wass up with the dress" she says "what about it?" you say "well,, I didn't wanna say anything..... but... it's kinda cute!" Anyways, you can BS about ANYTHING it really doesn't matter, and it's a class so you can say something and then pretend to be listening to the teacher. Why did you freeze up? Or just give her a look, until she says "what are you looking at me like that for" and then look her up and down suspiciously and look away. Flirt, tease, mess with her dude. Soon as she sat down right next to you, you should have said "can't get enough of me can you", with a slight smile on your face. Right now, you gotta go back to the confident ****y and funny mode.

Sit NEXT TO HER next time you have class. This will surprise her, and then flirt with her. Act very comfortable and confident, if you dont' think you can pull this off, mix a crown royal with red bull and drink it before you go to your class. Don't get drunk or nothing but just a little light headed to relax you. Joke around with her and act normal and take her out again that same night. Tell her "I have something important to tell you after the class". Then after the class is over mess around with her and tell her "well actually, I'll have to tell it to you tonight, I'll pick you up at ........ o'clock, be ready ok babe?".. Good luck, report back..

 

[oakraiderz2]

Originally posted by ethnomethodologist
If anybody's paying attention to my recent train of thought...

Oakraiderz this is NOT anything to be worried about. You ignored the girl, now she's ignoring you... I'd love to say that there is a connection and that you should wait for her to come and speak to you... but that's not going to happen

What you've got to do, is reintroduce yourself, don't care about her ignoring you... WHY SHOULD YOU?

How would i reintroduce myself to her?? I thought about calling her and asking her to chill, but im thinking the fact that i never really say much might have a negative impact. Im thinking that its done with cause i think she'd think it would happen again or some sh*t.

 

[Ace of Flames]

sounds like its your own fault. u ignored her straight up, what do u expect? when they're giving you attention and affection, u should be there to enjoy it. duh, isnt that the whole point in making a girl attracted to you?

remember guys, ignoring her is more along the lines of neg-hits: it gets her off her high-horse. it shows her that she isnt so amazingly hott that you are always ready and willing to hear what she has to say. u arent her lapdog, dont act like it. and if you work it out right, she'll be YOUR lapdog before long. hehe, i like that metaphor...

 

[ethnomethodologist]

Originally posted by oakraiderz2
How would i reintroduce myself to her?? I thought about calling her and asking her to chill, but im thinking the fact that i never really say much might have a negative impact. Im thinking that its done with cause i think she'd think it would happen again or some sh*t.

Oh, that's old hat

"Hi, my name is ...."

she says "you know my name, don't play daft with me" or whatever she says.

"I don't think so, I don't remember you"

Insert whichever damned compliments or comments you want into the conversation. It won't make a damned of a difference in the way she sees you if she was EVER attracted to you before. I do this ALL the time, even with the girls who make more money, have dated more people, have a better education, better job, better friends, or a better family. We are all humans, and we all play little cute games. No doubt about it, it happens, you can play whichever damned way you want as long as it's normal. If you go off insulting people, you run the chance of meeting somebody who thinks and wants the same way as you, but I don't cater to those kinds of people... neither should you, but whatever floats your boat, I'm just giving general advice.

When you come back with the AFC do I know you, things start to pop back into HER head, about how SHE is the one who's been ignoring YOU! It's like your the prize, and your pedestals are in the same place...

Read around some more, practice a bit more. Break your comfort barriers, and if you were within reason.... STOP thinking that your the person that is at fault. Girls hate to see guys with low self esteems. Know why?

Girls hate AFC's who think the world is against them, and them alone. GIrls hate it when a guy is so self depreciative that he can't pay attention to HER wants and needs.

GL buddy, and fvck you for being so ignorant

 

[AC/DC]

Way to sign off immediately after telling me about this thread.. lol

Did you add me to myspace yet? You beezy..

Anyways, go up to her, smile, and be like "hey, I miss you comin over, let's kick it this weekend."

Gauge her reaction. If it's good, disaster has been averted. If she's busy, then just say "oh okay, maybe some other time. Bye Lisa" or whatever her name is. If she gets seemingly upset or whatever, find out why. Ask her why she's mad at you. She'll definitely tell you if she's actually mad. Find out why. Whatever the reason may be, apologize, and then offer to kick it again.

If she still refuses, let me know and we'll work it out.

 

[oakraiderz2]

So i sent her a messege on myspace last night being that i was drunk...heres how it went...**** happens

ok so really I dont understand why guys wont take a hint so Im just gonna be totally honest with you...
I really am not feelin this whole thing at all. Im sorry if that hurts your feelings, but thats life. I'm not interested... there's really no specific reason except that the attraction just simply isnt there. You're a nice guy, and Im cool just being friends but other than that...

sorry if that was too blunt, but there was just no other way of saying it.



----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: El Presidente
Date: Feb 18, 2006 2:02 AM

hi jenn...i know we dont talk much...but we should talk more...and we shall...we should definately hang out sometime this weekend...if you dont want to that would totally hurt my feelings....so yea...holler back