"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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My current situation.

LinkinParkROX

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So I've had friends who are girls for over a year now, and I've been through the "let's just be friends" trap enough times to learn that being nice gets me nowhere. A few months ago, I started being a bit mean when I needed to, C&F, and surprisingly started the Kino bit as well, I've also used the push away thing, and must admit, it certainly does feel like I'm more attractive.

I recently met a girl and took her out. It was a ****ing amazing time, and the feeling was definitely mutual. We had a blast, pretty much one of the best times ever. The whole time, I was a total DJ. C&F + Kino at its best. The only Kino I wanted to do but didn't do was to breathe down her neck & playfully bite her ear lobe. :p But that would've probably been too much.

I also regret not kissing her goodbye a little bit. But it was the first time I ever took her out, so no worries I guess. Now the thing is, I'm not too sure if she likes me. I noticed she didn't touch me much the time we went out, although I managed to draw a smile on her face almost with every sentence I said. And it was a bigass smile too, her eyes lit up and everything.

I was just doing the "keep away" technique earlier today, and she had her friend call me & ask why I haven't spoken to her all day. Not too sure if it's working. Also, this other guy likes her & already asked her to be his girlfriend, to which she hasn't responded, she said she needs time to decide. I recently saw the both of them together, and the guy uses C&F and Kino too.

Any ideas on how I can get her & if she likes me?
-Norman.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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jeffthechef

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haha..i just answers your other post about the aim ****

As for the other guy...**** him...don't bother thinking about him...
don't do keepaway too much or at the wrong times...or else they think you're uninterested, which makes them less interested..

don't talk about the other guy with her...don't get emotional about her having to decide between you two guys....i've seen it twice in the past month...

how do you get her? keep taking her out, and every time you're out, escalate the kino...eventually leading to the kiss..once you get th ekiss...escalate further the next time...and if you guys are kissing and ****, and she never asks you if you guys are official...then she either isn't interested in a relationship...oir she wants to be your ****buddy..which i wouldn't mind haha
 

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The other guy asked her to be his gf= fail

He sounds like a total tool, don't worry about him, he wont get anyting.
 

LinkinParkROX

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Take her out more often? Exactly how should I take her out?
Because I thought of the keep-away, and these totally cancel each other out. So ...?
I last took her out 3 days ago. Any ideas when next? Also, how am I supposed to ask her to go out the DJ way?

How about "Dude, we totally need to go out again soon. "?
 

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don't over analyze...also..stop thinking the western way...
THERE IS NO ABSOLUTE...everything is usually a fusion of two or more things
THINK BALANCE

you dont want to constantly ask to hang out...cause then you're annoyin
you dont want to play keep away the hwole time...cause then she will get the wrong idea

gotta do both...for a period of time..hang otu a lot...then for another period...play keep away

then she'll be mind****ed...and you'll be good

but that's the thing...you dont want to be thinking about all this...so how do you do it?

YOU START DOING YOUR OWN THING...pursue your passions...hang out with pthe guys...hang out with girls you're somewhat interested in...dont focus on this one girl only...be so busy that she has to fight to get into your schedule..

but until then...THINK BALANCE.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I just read The Pook's 15 lessons. It says Rejection is better than Regret. I really think she's playing hard to get right now, and I want to ask her to go out soon, but I'm not sure if I should. Although Pook says to "default to action don't wait for the 'right time'"... What do I do?
 
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