My Conversation Tip: 'Nouning'

[silverwex]

I'm gonna keep this short but hopefully you'll all get the main jist of what I'm about to say!

Right some of you have been asking 'How do I keep a conversation with a girl goin?!' Fear not my friends, for I am about to tell you how I do it!

Im not sure if this has been covered already but Im gonna tell you all anyway! If it has been covered well then i take a bow to whoever has posted this before me!

NOUNING:

So you're on a date/chatting this girl up and you dont know if you'll be able to carry on the conversation and keep it interesting.

First of all, relax! Once you get the first 5 minutes out of the way you'll be cruising.

Right, so ask her a question:

You: So what do you do with yourself?

Her: Oh, Im in Trinity College in Dublin studying Law.

Right so take the nouns out of this reply... (Nouns - a person place or thing!)

3 Nouns in her reply:

1- Trinity College

2- Dublin

3- Law

Pick any of these and ask her a question about it! Let's just say you pick 'Dublin':

You: Dublin eh? So what do ya think of the place?

OR

You: So what's the nightlife like up there?

Or if you chose 'Law':

You: So what made you choose to do Law? Is it tough?

etc.. etc...

Then she'll answer with something like:

Her: (In regard to 'Dublin' nightlife) Yeah the nightlife's excellent, especially Club Spirit. Although it can be pretty rough after the clubs close, especially in Grafton Street!

Now repeat the process, taking out the nouns and asking her questions about them.

Nouns in the previous answer: Club Spirit, Grafton Street.

Hope this helps you all. Let me know if it's any use to you! Kept this short intentionally coz ive some Dj-ing to be done!

 

[seloifter]

Nice and simple way of mirroring conversation

 

[Trapspringer]

Sounds good but has been covered a lot here. But it is a good reminder since people are always asking "how do I keep up a good conversation?" This tip needs to be posted every now and again.

It really is the best way to be a good conversationalist. To me, there is no better method than this one. Also, watch David Letterman every night. Watch how this guy incorparates humor with good conversation. To me he is a great model of how to keep up a conversation. The only thing is that in practice, you will have to give alittle more of yourself rather than letting your interest reveal every thing. If you do this, it will sound like an interrogation and she will object to it.

 

[silverwex]

Thanks for the comments guys.

Let me know if it helps you out.

 

[SamePendo]

Its an easy thing for the newbies to remember though,, nouning.
Let's go do do some nouning!

 

[assasin]

I asked a girl at work if I could practice nouning with her and she slapped my face.



No really this is a good post, It is covered in the bible but this makes it sound really simple.

Should it be in the tips section?

 

[silverwex]

I asked a girl at work if I could practice nouning with her and she slapped my face.

Haha nice one man!

 

[Snatchmaster]

Since the topic is being reconsidered,

*BUMP*

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

This isn't exactly unique or new. It is a well known fact that using vocabulary another person uses helps build rapport, as someone mentioned the word "mirroring"

Its simple NLP.

Here's another good tip: Mention her name often. Example: "Hey Jane, how was Dublin?" or "So Jane, tell me, what did you do in Dublin?"

Mentioning her name every so often makes a conversation more personal and the other person will feel more comfortable with you and sense a good connection.

It also has the added bonus of you remembering her name so that you aren't found later in an embarrasing situation where you talk to this girl for an hour and you never mentioned her name after your introduction and thus you forgot it.

 

[snintel]

It's great to be a good conversationalist, but it's not going to get you chicks just talking about boring ****. you have to distinguish yourself from all the other bums that talk to these attractive girls. you have to show creativity, humor, unique thoughts, and incorporate emotions.

 

[Cheat_LBJ]

Originally posted by snintel
It's great to be a good conversationalist, but it's not going to get you chicks just talking about boring ****. you have to distinguish yourself from all the other bums that talk to these attractive girls. you have to show creativity, humor, unique thoughts, and incorporate emotions.

By moving the focus to her and what she's saying and not prattling on about yourself, you *will* differentiate yourself from all the other bums.

To build rapport, you have to go through different levels of communication: move from generalized factual discussion to motivational discussion:

FACTUAL DISCUSSION: So what do you like to do in Dublin?
MOTIVATIONAL DISCUSSION: Why did you choose Dublin to live?

By moving to motivational discussion, you get to use the concepts of "nouning" or "mirroring," but applied to feelings, emotions, and beliefs as opposed to persons places or things. This leads to better questions that drive deeper into understanding, thus making it appear that you have great rapport with someone despite only speaking to them for a short while.

During recruitment time with my fraternity when I was an undergrad, we used to teach our members to utilize these ideas to try and determine who was acceptable for membership. By making them talk about themselves in these ways, you got to know them better (to see if they were good people) and they felt like they had a connection with you and your group.

Same principle applies to women.

 

[Vulture]

bump