"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My Continuing Journey

Don Juan Wannabe

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Hey guys just wanted to take a moment and reflect. I was at the mall the other day and finally made my first approach ever lol. Not a pretty sight, my stomache was in my throat and I made a complete jackass out of myself. But hey I did it, told my best friend all about it and he thought it was funny $hit.

Going to the mall next week with him and gonna try to make a day of it. The plan is not to pick any girls up or get any numbers not that it wouldn't be nice. I just want to become better at first impressions and be able to talk to anyone girl, guy, old, beautiful or ugly comfortably. Be more confident and built a thick skin towards rejection.

Because I've noticed I do good around people, I mean usually pretty damn good as long as im comfortable. Hell its been a long road for me but looking back on this year, there have been alot of HB9s I've built good rapport with and im just very naturally good with C&F. Hell if I knew what I was doing and didn't loose my cool with these girls at one point or another when things escalated I got of made something out of it.

All and all, im slowly started to finally be the person I've always wanted to be with the help of you guys and some actual genuine friends. Last really big thing I have yet to tackle is getting more confident, not that the improvements I have made haven't helped, I just haven't attacked the problem directly. Let me tell you where I've gone from just one year ago

Physical improvements;

Weight: 160 >>> 190+ 10% bodyfat

Clothes: Over sized nasty ****, walmart wear lol >>> Stylish clothing, A&E, well fitted ****

Glasses: Nasty Geek frames >>> Stylish frames

Shoes: Cheap nasty ass nikes >>> Nice kicks

Face: Acne, horrible redness >>> cleared up my face, got lazer treatment to get rid of redness

Hair: Shaved Bald (looked like a penis) >>> Actually have hair and style it

Lifestyle crap;

Hobbies; Video games >>> Just picked up guitar, started being more serious about drawing (have talent never applied myself), should be starting jujitsu soon

Lovelife; went from being total AFC to being more real withmyself and got my first GF

School; Got As & Bs >>> planning on getting straight As my senor year

Work; None >>> Got a job

Friends; Hanged out with total dead beats >>> friends your not embarrassed to be around, actually have girl friends (not LJBF girls, actual friends, which I think is important to have)

Cars; couldn't drive >>> got my license/car

Anyways can't really think of more, but I hope this can lend a little inspiration to anyone thats in the same boat. I mean I feel like a totally different person and if you really think about it most of the things listed here arn't that hard to tackle. You just do it, like when I finally decided to play guitar. I just found a placed that gives lessons, bought a really ****ty basic guitar and started playing...and this **** helps, for getting girls...thats debatable but thats not my goal, that shouldn't be anyones. Just be happy with yourself and do what you've always wanted to do and look sharp as hell while doing it :up:

-peace-
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You should post your field reports here, man. :up: Congrats on the progress!

In regards to the gym, how did you increase muscle mass without gaining body fat? What routine did you have at the gym?
 

Don Juan Wannabe

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Getting Huge?!

How to get big huh?!

Hah, well its one thing I've always wanted to do, and been working on forever even as a total clueless AFC. Thing is the journey hasn't been easy. There is so much info, half of it BS...and even when you finally get a good thing going no matter how much you want it, keeping motivated is a *****...

I wish I could give good advice, but I've basically just experimented and worked on alot of different things, some worked some didn't, half of which I can't distinguish from but a few things...

I have a really FAST metabolism so for people like me hears advice...

EAT ..duh EAT and EAT and EAT...Diets so important and the thing I still struggle with, I mean eat clean and get good carbs and proteins but if your like me EATING anything is better then nothing. On a road trip with the parents and only gonna stop at Mcdonalds EAT IT, EAT ALOT...ANY food is better then nothing if you a skinny **** like me...I can LOOSE pounds in DAYS if I don't keep cramming **** in...

Work with free weights, I never made any real solid gains on machines

Join a gym!!! keeps my motivation up, less distractions, I used to train at home and I still could, I got all the stuff I need, but its hard. with people calling you, the computer and TV and blah blah blah...FOCUS!!! You go to the gym, your there for one reason, bust your ass!!! I got one thats right next to house ever since I started I miss MAYBE an occasional workout unlike before where I barely got threw a week without skipping a couple

Record your weight and size measurements. If your not gaining weight per week your most likely not eating enough/got your **** together at the gym most likely it is just your diet...shoot for 1-2lbs+ a week

When your at the gym a thing I see people doing, even huge strong ****ers thats so dumb is they don't record ANYTHING. Man I got a notebook I know if im slacking, I know if improving and it keeps me motivated. I know what I did last week so I know what to work with...

I Could go on but im already sounding like a broken record, read disels **** he knows what hes talking about also

www.teenbodybuilding.com

has some good **** too

right now im working on something quite a bit different then the split I had before its this 8week strength challenge program called maximum growth, got everything in it, sounds interesting im only on the 1st week, its hard, maybe to the point of overtraining, I will let you guys know how it turns out

-peace-
 

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looks like you are really improving yourself, keep it up buddy!
Great to start playing guitar, i did it too and chicks really like it!
Don´t forget to learn to sing along with the songs!

Greetz from Holland
 

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Going to bring in some field reports soon, help me out!!!

About cold approaches

Was gonna ask, any personal advice on how to work with a wingman and best places to do pickups in malls or pickups period for a couple of soon to be senors? Like I said not really interested in getting a GF or hooked up right now, I just want to be able to approach a girl anywhere if I happen to think shes cute instead of being a *****. Im also thinking this should just help me be better with first impressions by being more outgoing and confident with just about anyone.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Rata Blanca

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Congratulations man, that's the attitude. You are the top 1 priority in your life, always. How long you've been on the gym btw?
 

Don Juan Wannabe

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Well just got back from the mall, haha bad. I chickened out, I really did. I mean I just can't do it with another guy. Its one thing if were just hanging out but we went to the mall with the only intent to hit on chicks, too much pressure...which is another thing, it was a priority, so I ended up being too self concious...Ah well. Going to the Mall probably wasn't the best idea, especially in the afternoon on a week day. Every remotely cute girl we saw there was with there mom....ahhh

I did do one retarted ass thing though. We were filling out those stupid slips. Where they have like a car in the middle of the mall, and by filling out some info by yourself you get a chance to win it. Anyway this chick walks up, not too bad looking, so I fill one out, put my name and number and under spouse I put "maybe if your lucky"...I walked right up to her gave her my slip, winked and said, "I hope I win"...lol, worst part was I walked away but my buddys still filling his out so im just standing by him like a jackass while she shows her chubby girl friends and there all like AHHH thats cute...so yup, I feel alpha ........NOT

oh as for working out at the gym. I've been lifting since like the 7th grade at my house...only recently have I really started to take it seriously though so hard to say...

-peace-
 
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