I dont know guys. Ive really improved a lot since going on this thing, but im always put in these f****ing situations that just kill my confidence to become a true DJ. I mean I can get the hottest girls to talk to me and I can get their numbers in two minutes. But heres the stupid part, Ill have about 15 girls who want me and ill try and go for a girl who is not one of those 15 and I just get killed. Mainly because I just dont like any of those 15. Well now ive got no confidence, no girl, and I feel like s**t. It seems like any girl I go for just ends up thinking im a friend... its terrible. And then damn sad music comes on the radio when im driving home from work. No confidence guys...absolutely no confidence.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
My confidence is at an all time low :(
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Where'd it go?
Clearly you have some confidence. You can pick up 15 chicks no problem, but then you lose your confidence because you get rejected once?? It's just one lady, just forget about her and move on. I'd say 15-1 are good odds.
Clearly you have some confidence. You can pick up 15 chicks no problem, but then you lose your confidence because you get rejected once?? It's just one lady, just forget about her and move on. I'd say 15-1 are good odds.
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Craig Reeves
Master Don Juan
Hm.
Are you just picking up girls for the sake of picking up girls?
And plus one other thing....
Why are you upset just because you're single?
If you're not happy WITHOUT a girlfriend, you won't be happy WITH one. It's apparent to me that you'll be jet-set once the right girl comes along (seeing as to how you seem to be pretty good with women, especially if you can pick up 15 of them). Just hang in there and keep dating girls, you'll find the right one.
Are you just picking up girls for the sake of picking up girls?
And plus one other thing....
Why are you upset just because you're single?
If you're not happy WITHOUT a girlfriend, you won't be happy WITH one. It's apparent to me that you'll be jet-set once the right girl comes along (seeing as to how you seem to be pretty good with women, especially if you can pick up 15 of them). Just hang in there and keep dating girls, you'll find the right one.
Mate, I sometimes have the same problem.
First up, you need to focus. You're still a part-AFC, part-DJ, you're getting muddled.
The AFC part is the 2nd part, low confidence, no girl, sad music, oh-my-god-my-life-sucks. The DJ part is the getting 15 girls numbers.
What I suggest doing, and this is what I do, just be charming/cool to girls you don't really like but don't want to offend, or just random game-bait, but be the proper DJ to the chicks you do really like. Focus, and be positive, half the whole DJ thing is about yourself, the other half is getting the girls.
And first and foremost, don't get down/sad if you don't score with this one girl you like. This will just go on for the rest of your life maybe, so start to get over it, if you catch my drift, I'm not saying set yourself up for rejection, the opposite, don't think about rejection, and just play it out, if it doesn't work out, or you're the "friend", read up on some other recent similar posts, use kino / change your attitude, if it doesn't work, sorry mate, it's not going to happen, but, a true DJ will think thus: what does not kill you, makes you stronger.
I'm rubbish at posting, but I hope my meaning get's across, mate
First up, you need to focus. You're still a part-AFC, part-DJ, you're getting muddled.
The AFC part is the 2nd part, low confidence, no girl, sad music, oh-my-god-my-life-sucks. The DJ part is the getting 15 girls numbers.
What I suggest doing, and this is what I do, just be charming/cool to girls you don't really like but don't want to offend, or just random game-bait, but be the proper DJ to the chicks you do really like. Focus, and be positive, half the whole DJ thing is about yourself, the other half is getting the girls.
And first and foremost, don't get down/sad if you don't score with this one girl you like. This will just go on for the rest of your life maybe, so start to get over it, if you catch my drift, I'm not saying set yourself up for rejection, the opposite, don't think about rejection, and just play it out, if it doesn't work out, or you're the "friend", read up on some other recent similar posts, use kino / change your attitude, if it doesn't work, sorry mate, it's not going to happen, but, a true DJ will think thus: what does not kill you, makes you stronger.
I'm rubbish at posting, but I hope my meaning get's across, mate
Thanks alot you guys. No I dont pick up girls just for the sake of picking them up. Actually what happens is I just talk to them a couple of times and be charming and all of that and before I know it, their number is in my hands. But MrS put it well, I hate getting rejected by the girl I like so much. And I do need to get over it, I just hate how everyone of the girls that I have liked for the past half a year have not liked me. Thats the part that gets me. But ill get over this.. Thanks again
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.