I dont know guys. Ive really improved a lot since going on this thing, but im always put in these f****ing situations that just kill my confidence to become a true DJ. I mean I can get the hottest girls to talk to me and I can get their numbers in two minutes. But heres the stupid part, Ill have about 15 girls who want me and ill try and go for a girl who is not one of those 15 and I just get killed. Mainly because I just dont like any of those 15. Well now ive got no confidence, no girl, and I feel like s**t. It seems like any girl I go for just ends up thinking im a friend... its terrible. And then damn sad music comes on the radio when im driving home from work. No confidence guys...absolutely no confidence.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
My confidence is at an all time low :(
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Where'd it go?
Clearly you have some confidence. You can pick up 15 chicks no problem, but then you lose your confidence because you get rejected once?? It's just one lady, just forget about her and move on. I'd say 15-1 are good odds.
Clearly you have some confidence. You can pick up 15 chicks no problem, but then you lose your confidence because you get rejected once?? It's just one lady, just forget about her and move on. I'd say 15-1 are good odds.
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Craig Reeves
Master Don Juan
Hm.
Are you just picking up girls for the sake of picking up girls?
And plus one other thing....
Why are you upset just because you're single?
If you're not happy WITHOUT a girlfriend, you won't be happy WITH one. It's apparent to me that you'll be jet-set once the right girl comes along (seeing as to how you seem to be pretty good with women, especially if you can pick up 15 of them). Just hang in there and keep dating girls, you'll find the right one.
Are you just picking up girls for the sake of picking up girls?
And plus one other thing....
Why are you upset just because you're single?
If you're not happy WITHOUT a girlfriend, you won't be happy WITH one. It's apparent to me that you'll be jet-set once the right girl comes along (seeing as to how you seem to be pretty good with women, especially if you can pick up 15 of them). Just hang in there and keep dating girls, you'll find the right one.
Mate, I sometimes have the same problem.
First up, you need to focus. You're still a part-AFC, part-DJ, you're getting muddled.
The AFC part is the 2nd part, low confidence, no girl, sad music, oh-my-god-my-life-sucks. The DJ part is the getting 15 girls numbers.
What I suggest doing, and this is what I do, just be charming/cool to girls you don't really like but don't want to offend, or just random game-bait, but be the proper DJ to the chicks you do really like. Focus, and be positive, half the whole DJ thing is about yourself, the other half is getting the girls.
And first and foremost, don't get down/sad if you don't score with this one girl you like. This will just go on for the rest of your life maybe, so start to get over it, if you catch my drift, I'm not saying set yourself up for rejection, the opposite, don't think about rejection, and just play it out, if it doesn't work out, or you're the "friend", read up on some other recent similar posts, use kino / change your attitude, if it doesn't work, sorry mate, it's not going to happen, but, a true DJ will think thus: what does not kill you, makes you stronger.
I'm rubbish at posting, but I hope my meaning get's across, mate
First up, you need to focus. You're still a part-AFC, part-DJ, you're getting muddled.
The AFC part is the 2nd part, low confidence, no girl, sad music, oh-my-god-my-life-sucks. The DJ part is the getting 15 girls numbers.
What I suggest doing, and this is what I do, just be charming/cool to girls you don't really like but don't want to offend, or just random game-bait, but be the proper DJ to the chicks you do really like. Focus, and be positive, half the whole DJ thing is about yourself, the other half is getting the girls.
And first and foremost, don't get down/sad if you don't score with this one girl you like. This will just go on for the rest of your life maybe, so start to get over it, if you catch my drift, I'm not saying set yourself up for rejection, the opposite, don't think about rejection, and just play it out, if it doesn't work out, or you're the "friend", read up on some other recent similar posts, use kino / change your attitude, if it doesn't work, sorry mate, it's not going to happen, but, a true DJ will think thus: what does not kill you, makes you stronger.
I'm rubbish at posting, but I hope my meaning get's across, mate
Thanks alot you guys. No I dont pick up girls just for the sake of picking them up. Actually what happens is I just talk to them a couple of times and be charming and all of that and before I know it, their number is in my hands. But MrS put it well, I hate getting rejected by the girl I like so much. And I do need to get over it, I just hate how everyone of the girls that I have liked for the past half a year have not liked me. Thats the part that gets me. But ill get over this.. Thanks again
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.