"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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BPH

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Women are still playing games I see. ;-)
Oh yeah...and some of them don't even make sense...like the woman who thought I might secretly be gay, even though I offered to come over the night we matched, since the conversation was moving in an explicit direction.

I always wondered how the online dating advice would effect your chances with women.
Yeah...I'm probably going to stop doing that, actually. I've been at it for a little more than a year, and I haven't had a client outside of the forum. I've had guys want to fight me, women decide not to see me, and probably some stuff behind the scenes that I'm not aware of. I'm not a fan of the space, with how many guys fake their results, fake their clips, fake their pictures...all to get somebody to buy into the fantasy that this could be them in a few months.

I'm happy to continue helping guys who listen, but attaching my name and face to it outside of this forum has not been productive, and I think I have to be realistic, given my results thus far.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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That 'seems to have unmatched' happened a LOT, or they just went cold. Post 2020 I never met anyone face to face off of an APP. If I'd have done cold approaches night and day game with as many attempts as swipes on those time vampires, I'd probably be sick of fvcking. lol
 
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Oh yeah...and some of them don't even make sense...like the woman who thought I might secretly be gay, even though I offered to come over the night we matched, since the conversation was moving in an explicit direction.
Well, that was a sh1t test obvs?

Hey did you delete your Insta & Tiktok already? I cant access your stuff...
 

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Well, that was a sh1t test obvs?
I'd have agreed if she only did it once...but then it became an excuse for why she was becoming less responsive.

Hey did you delete your Insta & Tiktok already? I cant access your stuff...
Everything's been deactivated or hidden, though not deleted. Like I said earlier, I was getting tired of having it affect my personal life when it was barely getting me paid.
 

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I'd have agreed if she only did it once...but then it became an excuse for why she was becoming less responsive.



Everything's been deactivated or hidden, though not deleted. Like I said earlier, I was getting tired of having it affect my personal life when it was barely getting me paid.
yes . I would have keep all of that well hidden from any ch1ck tbh. It’s not hard for them to make the leap to googling your intials and finding LRs on SoSuave….

I guess you will have to wait now for google to drop the results out of a search for your name as it’s still showing me thumbnails of your Insta videos etc

and Dating Coach is a side hustle or hobby job at best afaics.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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