A few months ago I was pretty pathetic over my ex, I stumbled across this board and it along with a few other sources have changed my whole attitude. I guess it really helps to know that I was the worst kind of nice guy. The most pathetic you will ever see, "the puppy".
I have realized that the real death of any interest a woman has in you is infatuation, if you are just so "much in love" with her it will mess you up. Always operate from the position of control. Women should be sweating you, not the other way around. If you start to feel that infatuation feeling around a woman, that is good, that means that she has passed YOUR physical attraction test, but realize that is all it is, it is not "being in love". Remember the nature of love, "it is something that you do"
I do not believe in playing games, but that is not really what you are doing when you are being a true challenge, you are a true challenge when the woman knows that you are interested, but she feels in her gut that at any moment you will not hesitate to walk away and not turn back.
This new attitude has helped me immensely, I did something I thought I would never do, I approached a woman on the street and within 30 seconds I got her number. Now we have been out a couple of times and she is sweating me, why because I have been courteous and showed interest, but not infatuation.
All the advice on smiling and eye contact really work, if you have problems with shyness start with people you know, look them in the eye and smile when you are talking to them, for me within a couple of weeks it became second nature to look people in the eye and smile, people respond to this very well. I quickly went from being "that weird guy" to "that charming guy"
peace out and keep the great advice coming.
I have realized that the real death of any interest a woman has in you is infatuation, if you are just so "much in love" with her it will mess you up. Always operate from the position of control. Women should be sweating you, not the other way around. If you start to feel that infatuation feeling around a woman, that is good, that means that she has passed YOUR physical attraction test, but realize that is all it is, it is not "being in love". Remember the nature of love, "it is something that you do"
I do not believe in playing games, but that is not really what you are doing when you are being a true challenge, you are a true challenge when the woman knows that you are interested, but she feels in her gut that at any moment you will not hesitate to walk away and not turn back.
This new attitude has helped me immensely, I did something I thought I would never do, I approached a woman on the street and within 30 seconds I got her number. Now we have been out a couple of times and she is sweating me, why because I have been courteous and showed interest, but not infatuation.
All the advice on smiling and eye contact really work, if you have problems with shyness start with people you know, look them in the eye and smile when you are talking to them, for me within a couple of weeks it became second nature to look people in the eye and smile, people respond to this very well. I quickly went from being "that weird guy" to "that charming guy"
peace out and keep the great advice coming.
