"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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My bunghole hurts :(

Dawson Hewes

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OK listen guys, so I approach girls right, but whenever I do it has to be exactly the right circumstances. I can talk to any girl I want to, just as long as she's by herself and there's no one around to hear me try to pick her up.

Here are my other sticking points:

1. Ugly chicks. Since I'm near-sighted (which blows by the way) I can't tell if a girl is hot or not. Ironically, ugly girls are the least receptive to cold approaches ... one time I talked to this one girl and she was ugly, I mean dog **** ugly. Starting tomorrow this is no longer going to be a problem, because I've decided that I care for quantity over quality, and I figure that if I **** enough fat/ugly chicks eventually the smell of their ***** juice will attract hotter females.

2. Older chicks. I'm 21 and I look really young (I could pass for 16 or 17 I guess). I do my approaches on campus and I'm always scared I'll pick up faculty or something.

Both of these come down to being near-sighted I guess. Maybe I should go to campus tomorrow in my glasses, then whip them off whenever I talk to a hot chick or else I'll look like a nerd.

My biggest sticking point is these other tools on campus hearing me talk to these *****es ... ****, I get paranoid about this ****. I know nothing will happen, no one is going to call me out on it, and no one cares, but I just can't get over this.

OK so here's my game plan. I'm going to go out tomorrow and talk to multiple chicks within a certain time frame. By then I'll be so confident that I'll be less fearful of others hearing me, and so on and so forth. I really think the key is capitalizing on that surge of self-confidence and happiness that follows approaching multiple girls in rapid succession ...

My ultimate goal is to go to any public place, ANYWHERE, and pick up girls whenever I feel like it. Right now I have this security bubble where I can only talk to girls 1) on campus, 2) hot, 3) don't look older than me, 4) alone, 5) with no one else around. As you can tell that really narrows down the number of girls I can talk to. I also did an approach last month at a grocery store, so that helps. The mall is another story though.

Anyway thanks to anyone for taking the time to read this, sorry if anyone read the title and thought it would be about something more interesting.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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horaholic

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You're off to a good start. Just make it a point to go out of your comfort zone here and there, and you'll be fine. Just remember, a girl is a girl, whether she meets your criteria or not.
 

search1ng

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I slept with a girl I didn't really want to once. Never again. Fu.ck that sh.it.

Seems like your main problem is a lack of balls. Go get into a fight and get the sh.it kicked out of you or w/e. Learn to not give such a fu.ck.

Also what horaholic says. But what he stated depends entirely on your will-power and courage and those two are hard to come by when you care so much about how you're perceived.
 

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Get a buddy and go hogging. Whoever is talking to a fatter woman, the other guy has to buy his drinks. :eek:

I'm kidding, but I'm not. Hogging is great as a learning exercise, because there are fat chicks everywhere. It teaches you to have a good time above all, and to not value the end result with any one woman. The problem with only approaching hot chicks, especially when learning, is that you care too much about the outcome. They don't want you to care; even the hot ones want to be regarded as just another hog.
 

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Get a nice pair of glasses. I get loads of compliments on mine. Girls start talking to me about it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dawson Hewes

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Thanks for the advice guys, but I've decided I'm pretty much done with this whole 'girl' thing. From now on, I only date hot, mature women with a little extra. They are incredibly sexy, plentiful on online dating sites, and there's no need to waste time doing "cold approaches".
 
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