my bpd is trying to suck me back in as "friends"

[Jean Valjean]

I have followed the No Contact advse I received here for over 2 weeks after being told that her shrink said no to any sex until she is ready (been over 6 months - we never did it) although she found time to fuuck a guy on first date and even told me about it ... all upset because he did not call her back

two weeks ago she dumped me again with these words LEAVE ME ALONE .....yada yada GO AWAY

Some of he emails today:I will not accept her phone calls

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…you’re still my Angel
oxoxox

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I understand if you don’t want to talk…have a good night. Suzy and I are going to see Donna Summers tonight in Coney Island…free concerts during the summer. Just felt like telling you what I’m up too.
Good Night my used to be Angel

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Why you don’t want to hear my voice. I decided to move will be looking in SI for now.

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Why are your emails so short and blunt? What is the matter with you?

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I don’t understand, you’ve been so distant

 

[Bible_Belt]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1605748#post1605748


It's all a test. Handle it how you want. Continue no contact if you feel weak at all.

I live in a small town and can't really get away from my bpd girl, so she and I basically have a contest of who can patronize who the most. I tell her I love her all the time and how special she is. Then I get her to cry over not having me, and I go home with my girlfriend. That is brutal and cold, but she taught me how to act this way. She needs to feel the pain of abandonment, and I give her what she needs. You are learning to give your bpd girl what she needs as well.

If you understand the disorder and you can remain emotionally detached, it is easy to have a bpd girl stay with you forever...just not all in one continuous stretch. She will intermittently run off with another guy every now and then. You would have to go fvck other girls and not care, and then take her back...and pretty much no guy is willing to take that deal. I know I wasn't.

 

[Julian]

Sounds toxic. What part of NO contact is lost with you my man? Change your email, number, whatever it takes. You obviously have a need for her attention to fill some kind of void in your life. I see where backbreaker is coming from and he is handling it his way and its working...However Jean, you say she dumped you "AGAIN". This is what causes me to question your balls.

Why would you even give someone the time of day that would do this to you, let alone being part of an email communication exchange with said person? It makes no sense to me.

 

[trent81]

This is what you say to a woman who dumped you;

JEALOUSY IS THE NUMBER ONE AND THE MOST IMPORTANT EMOTION IN A WOMAN"S BODY AND SOUL.

"I am seeing someone, I'm sorry but, you have to do a little better than that. She is really nice, and I feel like we are getting closer everyday."


THEN AFTER THAT, SIT BACK, DO SOME COKE, AND WATCH THE PUPPY FOLLOW YOU AROUND.

 

[jophil28]

This is what you say to a woman who dumped you;

JEALOUSY IS THE NUMBER ONE AND THE MOST IMPORTANT EMOTION IN A WOMAN"S BODY AND SOUL.

"I am seeing someone, I'm sorry but, you have to do a little better than that. She is really nice, and I feel like we are getting closer everyday."


THEN AFTER THAT, SIT BACK, DO SOME COKE, AND WATCH THE PUPPY FOLLOW YOU AROUND.

You are an active and willing participant in this crappy drama.
WE can help you only WHEN you decide that you want higher standards for yourself and are willing to swim out of this muck.

BTW, your coke habit is not going to work for you. Going NO Contact in a fog of chemicals is a hollow victory.

 

[realsmoothie]

I live in a small town and can't really get away from my bpd girl, so she and I basically have a contest of who can patronize who the most. I tell her I love her all the time and how special she is. Then I get her to cry over not having me, and I go home with my girlfriend. That is brutal and cold, but she taught me how to act this way. She needs to feel the pain of abandonment, and I give her what she needs. You are learning to give your bpd girl what she needs as well.

This isn't helping anyone. Yuck. Yeah, take advantage of someone who's clearly clinically sick. It's akin to sleeping with retarded girls.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

I live in a small town and can't really get away from my bpd girl, so she and I basically have a contest of who can patronize who the most. I tell her I love her all the time and how special she is.

I'm doing this too. I told her I love her last night.

Then I get her to cry over not having me, and I go home with my girlfriend. That is brutal and cold, but she taught me how to act this way. She needs to feel the pain of abandonment, and I give her what she needs. You are learning to give your bpd girl what she needs as well.

I'm going to do this now.

If you understand the disorder and you can remain emotionally detached, it is easy to have a bpd girl stay with you forever...just not all in one continuous stretch. She will intermittently run off with another guy every now and then. You would have to go fvck other girls and not care, and then take her back...and pretty much no guy is willing to take that deal. I know I wasn't.

This is what she does. Great post Bible! I can either let her go forever, or keep tapping it and play the game.

I want to play the damn game.