my boyfriend will be there...

[Omen]

So a girl I work with is going to a party I am going to cause its a work party, and she is bringing her boyfriend she just told me. We talk quite a bit, and she knows I like her, but she said this....

I hope u dont mind, my boyfriend is going to be there Sat.

I responded with... Why would I mind? He's your boyfriend, i'm not.

Do I really mind? Yeah I do some, but I didnt say I did. I could have said... No, that's gonna suck, so dont bring him, or i'm not gonna go if he goes, but I look at it this way...

If I say.. I dont give a flying fvck then she'll know i'm not bothered by him being there.

Only reason I mind some is that I was going to be able to talk to her lots without him around and in a fun setting with work people. Kind of ruins it now.

I just told her I dont want any trouble from him cause he's never met me, but knows a lot about me from I guess what she has told him. Girl talks to him about me, and I have never heard a word about him from her.

I'm just hoping he doesn't go to look for a fight cause it wont be in his best interest.

I've never really been in this situation as to where I go to a work party, with some girl I like, then her boyfriend comes along, all while asking if I am ok with him going. I sent her a txt today saying I missed her pretty face at work since I hadn't worked with her in 2 weeks, and he ended up with her phone txting me back, then he got lippy with me, and that was about it till she found out.

Anyone else been in this situation?

I think she just wants to show him who I am. I think she speaks about me so much to him that he probably told her that he's going to the party too if I am going to be there.

Oh well, there is another girl going to be there, and I can just talk to her. Then the other one will notice i'm talking to her, and I could care less if she is there with boyfriend or not.

Just kind of ruined my chances of being around her in a fun way outside of work since he is going to be there.

 

[TheMaestro87]

Not going to lie. I didn't read much of your thread. You did give the perfect response to her telling you though. Nice job. I'll read the rest later.

 

[Bvbidd]

Your winning the battle buddy, gj.

 

[Omen]

I guess i just have to use my surroundings so I come out on top. I can say to her when she is with her bf... hey nice to see you x. I'll be right back. I'm gonna go buy x her drink cup for tonight. Its $3 for a bottomless cup, so just by telling her I offered to buy another girl her drink for the night when I would have bought hers might make her surprised. She'll think to herself... wait he likes me yet he just bought x a drink.

 

[sav]

*sigh*

game other girls infront of her.. its obvious...

just dont make it obvious that youa re doing it to spite her...

 

[Omen]

*sigh*

game other girls infront of her.. its obvious...

just dont make it obvious that youa re doing it to spite her...

Yeah that's my plan. I know girls hate it when they expect you to be talking to them the whole night or paying attention to them, but then you're off doing it to another girl.

And I can do it so its not obvious, no problem.

Hey its her fault for bringing the guy to the party. This was a work party, so that's a little more upsetting. I think he feels threatened with me there with her, so he decided to come along. And I KNOW she didnt say do you want to come. I'm sure he made it clear he was coming, and told her.

And I think his reason for this also too is to go... Ha ha, look I have her and you dont.

When he ended up with her phone and sent me a txt earlier on yesterday he said... Looks like you lost again.

WTF I dont even know the guy and he runs his mouth like that. And what did I lose at? Getting her? Dumb ass.

I takes a lot for me not to put this jerk in his place, but I just have to be the smarter, and better one out of the whole deal, especially Sat.

 

[bigshot]

Stop going for a "taken" girl.....next her!

 

[TheMaestro87]

I cosign bigshot's post. Why are you going for a girl who has a boyfriend? Have some morals and ethics. You've planted the seed, now just leave her alone until she's available. Until then, game and sleep with other girls.

 

[Hullothere]

I also agree with bigshot. Why are you obsessing so much over a girl who has a guy already? Usually these girls are just in it for the attention. If she can get this friendly with you when she already has a boyfriend... she would also do it to you as a boyfriend. It just appears she enjoys the attention and who can really blame her as a woman.

 

[DJDamage]

Stop going for a "taken" girl.....next her!

I agree not because its a moral thing to do (i would tap girls with boyfriends) but because you are placing too much stock and energy in this girl who is already taken while not trying as hard to sarge other girls.

From reading your post, the only thing I could tell is that so far you got nothing. So what if this girl knows you like her? she knows alot of guys that like her. All the bullsh1t about her giving you IOI is because that is what girls do to get attention from guys even though they may not be interested in them sexually. Women crave attention and will lead you on even if they are not interested.

Another thing why are you going after a chick that is taken and works with you? thats bad on both accounts.

I sent her a txt today saying I missed her pretty face at work since I hadn't worked with her in 2 weeks

A) that was counterproductive - text message like that is the most anti-challange thing you could have done especially since she already knows you like her.

B) TEXT MESSAGING IS EVIDANCE - this message will sit in her little phone mail box waiting until her boyfriend's snoop to find it or she will flash it to his face during an arugment. That was a bad move there on your part. NEVER TEXT A B1TCH WITH A BOYFRIEND.

 

[Omen]

I agree not because its a moral thing to do (i would tap girls with boyfriends) but because you are placing too much stock and energy in this girl who is already taken while not trying as hard to sarge other girls.

From reading your post, the only thing I could tell is that so far you got nothing. So what if this girl knows you like her? she knows alot of guys that like her. All the bullsh1t about her giving you IOI is because that is what girls do to get attention from guys even though they may not be interested in them sexually. Women crave attention and will lead you on even if they are not interested.

Another thing why are you going after a chick that is taken and works with you? thats bad on both accounts.



A) that was counterproductive - text message like that is the most anti-challange thing you could have done especially since she already knows you like her.

B) TEXT MESSAGING IS EVIDANCE - this message will sit in her little phone mail box waiting until her boyfriend's snoop to find it or she will flash it to his face during an arugment. That was a bad move there on your part. NEVER TEXT A B1TCH WITH A BOYFRIEND.

He did find the txt. lol. And I told her after that, I couldn't say hi to her anymore that way, and since I wont know if it is her, I can only do it at work.

But anyway, I am sure it will work itself out, and if she is that interested, then she'll come after me, and say.. Hey, my bf and I aren't together anymore.

What sucked is I had no idea after all this time she had a boyfriend. She never told me about him till last week, and i've spoken to her for over a month.

Oh well, girls come and go, no big deal really.

I wish she would have mentioned him though like when she knew at first I liked her, and in fact I only found out cause I saw her take her lunch one day and leave with him.

Most woman usually mention something about... Oh yeah, my boyfriend, and then its a sign, but I never knew she had one cause she didnt tell me she did. :kick:

 

[DJDamage]

I wish she would have mentioned him though like when she knew at first I liked her, and in fact I only found out cause I saw her take her lunch one day and leave with him.

You still don't understand her motive. The reason she didn't mention him to you is because if she did, you might have withdrawn your attetnion and effort away from her and that would have made her job a little bit more boring. The fact that you give her attention all this time and she doesn't even have to fvck you for it, is what makes it all good for her but not for you.

But anyway, I am sure it will work itself out, and if she is that interested, then she'll come after me, and say.. Hey, my bf and I aren't together anymore.

She won't. She will use the same tactics as she did before and that is to keep it a secret. When you stumble upon it she will say " oh me and my boyfriend broke up but now I am seeing someone else".

Women don't come after men, they expect you to do most of the work in that department. If you don't step up to the plate and risk rejection then someone else will.

Most woman usually mention something about... Oh yeah, my boyfriend, and then its a sign, but I never knew she had one cause she didnt tell me she did. :kick:

Some do and some don't. Neither is important really. It is your actions that determines the final outcome.

 

[Omen]

You still don't understand her motive. The reason she didn't mention him to you is because if she did, you might have withdrawn your attetnion and effort away from her and that would have made her job a little bit more boring. The fact that you give her attention all this time and she doesn't even have to fvck you for it, is what makes it all good for her but not for you.

I hate the attention deal, and I have to work on that cause not that I do it 24/7, but I feel sometimes by not being who I am, it sends a bad vibe. I'm always happy and full of energy, and i'll talk to all the girls, and maybe some more than others.

But when I am the opposite, people seem to know, and wonder and ask if i'm ok. Especially women. Why aren't you yourself is what she'll say, or why dont you talk to me anymore like you did?

I mean she's a nice girl really, and I dont want to be mean or rude, so I have to not give her attention but at the same time do it so she doesn't think I hate her, or dont want to talk to her anymore.

You see what i'm saying? I have NO PROBLEM moving on, but when I do, i'm sure she'll notice and start asking a bunch of questions. And so what if she does, but my main thing is I dont want to get into that HATE zone or anything.

I still want to be able to see her at work and go... Hey what's up, hows life, or hows the boyfriend, then get on with my business. Hopefully I can still do that and she'll be cool.

Whatever, like I said... Girls come and go.

 

[saber]

I didn't read all the replies but it sounds like your in the friend zone.

The boyfriend doesn't like you and she knows this. however he acts will be what she expected and wanted to see happen.

Personally I would bring a girl if you can (any chance she is hotter would be great) then just avoid talking about it with her that night + leave early= big DHV.

When you see her at work she will ask about the girl if she likes you. But you shouldn't bring it up. If she doesn't you must never ever mention it.
Tell her that of course she not your girlfriend and your just dating.
Add BF destroyer based on something stupid he did at party and make your move.

This would make you an equall in the sense that you are not the desperate pervert she assumed you were and she was foolish to mention her boyfriend and assume you liked her.

 

[Omen]

I didn't read all the replies but it sounds like your in the friend zone.

The boyfriend doesn't like you and she knows this. however he acts will be what she expected and wanted to see happen.

Personally I would bring a girl if you can (any chance she is hotter would be great) then just avoid talking about it with her that night + leave early= big DHV.

When you see her at work she will ask about the girl if she likes you. But you shouldn't bring it up. If she doesn't you must never ever mention it.
Tell her that of course she not your girlfriend and your just dating.
Add BF destroyer based on something stupid he did at party and make your move.

This would make you an equall in the sense that you are not the desperate pervert she assumed you were and she was foolish to mention her boyfriend and assume you liked her.

No chance on bringing a woman cause its tomorrow or should I say.. Today. I guess the boyfriend came into work today with her, but I was in back so never saw him.

Here is the biggest thing. While I like her, and I think she's cute and funny and all of that, she is WAY too young for me, so I wouldn't date her. I mean I talk to her yeah, and joke with her, but even if she turned single tomorrow, it still wouldn't work. I mean yeah, i'm not going to deny I like her, but I think the boyfriend feels like i'm gonna try and take her from him.

This is why I said... Why do I care if you bring him to the party? He's your boyfriend, and i'm not.

Yeah I was trying to get to know her, and see if she could be something I would be interested in, and I was like... On your 18th b-day i'll take you out to dinner. And she was like... You're taking me out right? Never knew she had a boyfriend and that was like 2 months ago. I was mainly getting a feel for the girl.

Anyway, i'm sure he just feels threatened, and so be it, but he doesn't understand I am not set out to steal her. I could really care less. So he's going to go to this part tomorrow thinking... Ha ha, look what I have and you dont, and try to make me jealous and prob kiss her, or try to rub it in. Again...Who gives a fvck. :yawn: Guess its just going to be an interesting night.

We joke back and forth all the time, and I just always enjoyed being around her, and got attracted to her, till I found out she wasn't that old, and no matter what would happen I still cant date her, though she is legal in my state, its not something I do.

I've dated many great women, and i'm not about to date a high school chick. I'll leave that to him. She's cute, so be it. And unless she's 18 its no deal.

And if he tries to get funny at all with me, or give me ****...

Me... So let me ask you something? Why are you dating a 16yr old girl? Cant you find anyone out on campus your age? And let me get this straight... You are... 21 (something around there) and you've been dating 2yrs....So... you were 19 and she was 14? Shouldn't you be on dateline with Chris Hanson on to catch a predator? :crackup:

I'd only say all of that if he SERIOUSLY pissed me off. I'm sure she'd hate me after that

 

[Weak_Game]

game other girls, ****ing a taken girl isnt an issue... its if your in contact or will meet the boyfriend... your setting yourself up for problems... there are so many single and avil women out there

i cant say i havent done it but in my sistuation if a guy gave that much attention to my girlfriend and i found a text message and he was going to be at such and such party and i was going to be there

your setting yourself up for a beating

years ago when i was dating some cute little college nurse there was some guy that was friends with her brother. We were all in the same age catagory early 20's at the time

he would go over there hang out with him i was at work and she would tell me online how he would "take her shoes and run away with them" aka getting her to tackle him etc and find an excuse to rub his body all over her.

in arguments she would bring him up to throw it in my face, i wish i nexted her when i had the chance

he was at some party we all went to and kept coming onto her and showing more attention then was necessary and i met him, was introduced

he said i heard alot about you i said i have about you as well then he playfully slapped my girlfriend in the ass

i broke his nose, split it down the center he had to have reconstructive surgery on his face due to the tear

i dont regret it

be careful man, youve planted a seed walk away bang other *****es she will be available at some point and you ll get your chance

 

[Omen]

game other girls, ****ing a taken girl isnt an issue... its if your in contact or will meet the boyfriend... your setting yourself up for problems... there are so many single and avil women out there

i cant say i havent done it but in my sistuation if a guy gave that much attention to my girlfriend and i found a text message and he was going to be at such and such party and i was going to be there

your setting yourself up for a beating

years ago when i was dating some cute little college nurse there was some guy that was friends with her brother. We were all in the same age catagory early 20's at the time

he would go over there hang out with him i was at work and she would tell me online how he would "take her shoes and run away with them" aka getting her to tackle him etc and find an excuse to rub his body all over her.

in arguments she would bring him up to throw it in my face, i wish i nexted her when i had the chance

he was at some party we all went to and kept coming onto her and showing more attention then was necessary and i met him, was introduced

he said i heard alot about you i said i have about you as well then he playfully slapped my girlfriend in the ass

i broke his nose, split it down the center he had to have reconstructive surgery on his face due to the tear

i dont regret it

be careful man, youve planted a seed walk away bang other *****es she will be available at some point and you ll get your chance

And that's basically all I really had in mind was planting a seed. No more than that. And if I have to clear up i'm not after stealing her, I will.

In fact there will be another girl there who I will probably be talking to. I want to get to know her a bit, so I will probably be ignoring the girl with her guy.

I just told her... if you bring him, i'm not looking for a fight, so make sure he knows that. And she's knows its not in HIS best interest to go to a party where he is the black sheep and try and start something. He'll be outnumbered BIG time.

I mean it should only be a... Hey your so and so huh? Nice to meet you, and on with the night. But if he is there to cause trouble he chose the wrong place to go.

Here is what I will probably do....

I'll introduce myself, him to me, then i'll go...you know what X... Let me cover your drink tonight. (Its only $3 so I dont lose much at all, and something like that will shock him.) Then tell him to enjoy his night with his girlfriend and then bounce to other people.

That will totally mind boggle the guy since he is going to go in expecting to probably just show off his girl and make me jealous. So by offering to get his drink... it will be a long night of... Why did he do that? Her.. I honestly dont know.

I'll be doing what he isn't expecting me to do.

But yeah, i'll be after the other girls who have no guy there And though I dont have time to bring a girl, as mentioned in an earlier post if you can find one better looking all the better. Well there will be one there who has that covered

 

[Being_the_Don]

So a girl I work with is going to a party I am going to cause its a work party, and she is bringing her boyfriend she just told me. We talk quite a bit, and she knows I like her, but she said this....

I hope u dont mind, my boyfriend is going to be there Sat.

I responded with... Why would I mind? He's your boyfriend, i'm not.

Do I really mind? Yeah I do some, but I didnt say I did. I could have said... No, that's gonna suck, so dont bring him, or i'm not gonna go if he goes, but I look at it this way...

If I say.. I dont give a flying fvck then she'll know i'm not bothered by him being there.

Only reason I mind some is that I was going to be able to talk to her lots without him around and in a fun setting with work people. Kind of ruins it now.

I just told her I dont want any trouble from him cause he's never met me, but knows a lot about me from I guess what she has told him. Girl talks to him about me, and I have never heard a word about him from her.

I'm just hoping he doesn't go to look for a fight cause it wont be in his best interest.

I've never really been in this situation as to where I go to a work party, with some girl I like, then her boyfriend comes along, all while asking if I am ok with him going. I sent her a txt today saying I missed her pretty face at work since I hadn't worked with her in 2 weeks, and he ended up with her phone txting me back, then he got lippy with me, and that was about it till she found out.

Anyone else been in this situation?

I think she just wants to show him who I am. I think she speaks about me so much to him that he probably told her that he's going to the party too if I am going to be there.

Oh well, there is another girl going to be there, and I can just talk to her. Then the other one will notice i'm talking to her, and I could care less if she is there with boyfriend or not.

Just kind of ruined my chances of being around her in a fun way outside of work since he is going to be there.

Is this the girl you mentioned in the other thread? The one your co-worker bet you $100 that you wouldn't get a date w/ her?

 

[Omen]

Is this the girl you mentioned in the other thread? The one your co-worker bet you $100 that you wouldn't get a date w/ her?

No, the $100 girl is another one, and told me she would be there, and that's who I have in mind talking too tonight. But we made a joke out of it, and now the guys girlfriend at work goes... So I hear you have a bet going on with my boyfriend over X. I laughed and go yeah. He then said.. i'll give you $20 if you go on a date. I think $100 was more than he planned, but I know he'll pay the $20. He spends that on pizza here and there at work.

But I haven't talked to her tons, so i'd like to actually spend time talking to her, and not the other girl who is bringing the boyfriend. And yes, she is the one that gives all of the girls the competition so to speak at work. Again this is just in general, but again, some of us know that looks is only a part of it. And as much as I have spoken to her, she knows that with me.