"My boyfriend might be bothered..."

[Korzyn]

I read somewhere long ago about what to say when a prospect tells you that her boyfriend might be bothered if you contact her when he's around. For instance:

I'm not sure that you should call me because it might bother my boyfriend... if he's over at my house or something. Well, I mean... He knows I have guy friends, but he'll think it's wierd if all of a sudden I'm chit-chatting on the phone everyday with someone... especially because he knows I don't like to talk on the phone.

He'll think it's wierd and I don't want him to get suspicious because he can be like that sometimes. I mean, girls call him sometimes, but usually just to say 'wassup' every now and then, but not very often.

I just know it won't be good. We can always talk somewhere else, like online or something because I'm usually online y'know. I hope you understand. It's really nothing personal. I just don't need any problems in my relationship.

I just asked why would he be bothered and told her that I understand. But there was something you could say... something that helps remove a boyfriend from pedestal in the prospect's mind... what is that?

There was a post or entry in the DJ Bible sometime ago (or maybe it was on FS, I don't remember) about this very situation. I'm not asking for your advice. I don't want your advice. I just want a reference to that article.

 

[squirrels]

Sounds like you got put in the "friend zone" there...have you been getting any signs of interest from this girl??

 

[Korzyn]

Originally posted by squirrels


Sounds like you got put in the "friend zone" there...have you been getting any signs of interest from this girl??

Don't answer a question with a question.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Korzyn
Don't answer a question with a question.

I did answer your question, jackass. You just didnt' like the answer.

If you want specific patterns or something, go to http://www.fastseduction.com/guide/ and just do a CTRL-F search for "boyfriend". But it sounds like this is her way of telling you that she's not romantically interested in you. The reason I asked you a question is because if she's been giving you SOME serious signs of interest, you may not be lost yet.

So the question,again, is: how far have you gotten with this girl and what kinds of interest signals has she been giving?

 

[dietzcoi]

WTF do you want to call this girl for anyway?

This is silly. All of you AFCs are pretending to be "friends" with girls you really want to date. Don't be a chump. Find somebody without a girlfriend. You are wasting your time.

I agree with Squirrels.

DIetzcoi

 

[Korzyn]

Originally posted by squirrels
I did answer your question, jackass. You just didnt' like the answer.

If you want specific patterns or something, go to http://www.fastseduction.com/guide/ and just do a CTRL-F search for "boyfriend". But it sounds like this is her way of telling you that she's not romantically interested in you. The reason I asked you a question is because if she's been giving you SOME serious signs of interest, you may not be lost yet.

So the question,again, is: how far have you gotten with this girl and what kinds of interest signals has she been giving?

1. You didn't answer my question. ("How do you reply to the 'my boyfriend is insecure' statement?")
2. I really don't need your advice. I didn't ask for it either.

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by Korzyn

I just asked why would he be bothered and told her that I understand. But there was something you could say... something that helps remove a boyfriend from pedestal in the prospect's mind... what is that?

How about....

"Yeah, I don't want to hear about your problems...."

followed by....

"Pleasure to meet you aquaintance...."

 

[WaterTiger]

Her: I'm not sure that you should call me because it might bother my boyfriend.
YOU: No worries! I'll just show up at the door this Friday and we can fvck all weekend. Say, do you think that might bother him? Or is he cool about that sort of thing?

 

[Gold Heart]

Trying to mack a girl who already has a boyfriend is like trying to adapt a kid who already has parents. IT'S POINTLESS. And stupid. How many times I had to tell these horny kids that?

You really can't just find a single girl?

You know she'll never like you as long as he's around. And she told you that herself. She just did you the favor of saying it in the nicest way possible when she said about her boyfriend getting bothered.

Don't go for taken girls. It's wasted effort on p-ssy and it's not even that special. Believe me.

 

[MindOverMatter]

"I'm not interested in your boyfriend, I'm interested in you. Just so we don't waste each other's time, give me a call when you're done toying with that kid."

Trying to mack a girl who already has a boyfriend is like trying to adapt a kid who already has parents. IT'S POINTLESS. And stupid. How many times I had to tell these horny kids that?

You really can't just find a single girl?

You know she'll never like you as long as he's around. And she told you that herself. She just did you the favor of saying it in the nicest way possible when she said about her boyfriend getting bothered.

Don't go for taken girls. It's wasted effort on p-ssy and it's not even that special. Believe me.

I disagree with your mentality. Hear me out.

Almost every attractive girl nowdays is in a relationship of some sorts. And you know what? Most of the time the guy she's with, is half the man you are, and only got her through sheer luck. You wont find single HB8+, at least not where I live. You have to learn to deal with it. If you back down everytime a girl lets you know she's not single, you will be alone for a long long time. So what can you do?

1.) Keep looking for a single HB8
2.) Have her sleep with you behind her boyfriends back. This only works if you don't have a moral problem with being a player. And I say that because if you do this, you do it knowing you can never trust or have a relationship with this girl. You can only use her for sex.
3.) Tell her to get rid of the guy and get back to you, and date other girls in the meantime.

 

[Gold Heart]

Eh...

^ I see a lot of HB 8's and up every single day. But maybe it's because I'm from New York.

I guess you will have to adjust to your environment, but from what I am hearing from the original poster, the girl doesn't seem to be feeling him much. It would be a different story if she was throwing herself on him. But she appears to be a loyal girlfriend, afraid of upsetting her boyfriend. He is asking how to remove the boyfriend from her pedestal and instead putting HIM on it. Your advice wouldn't help him much because he doesn't have her in his GRASP.

 

[rgeere]

Re: Eh...

Originally posted by Gold Heart
He is asking how to remove the boyfriend from her pedestal and instead putting HIM on it. Your advice wouldn't help him much because he doesn't have her in his GRASP.

Exactly, he needs to take control and make her do a little work.

This might sound a little mean when taken at face value, but if you want to take control of the relationship you can try this.

If she wants to be your friend then treat her like an aquaintance; it puts the power back into your hands, since you are the person who cares less. Even better when you get the girl supplicating to try to earn you back to her.

Atleast this has worked for me; I can't speak from anything other than my own experiences.

 

[Surfboard]

Korzyn,

Do a search for "BOYFRIEND DESTROYER."

I think that's what you're looking for.