"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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My boy is going asexual!

Q-Pid

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Ok emergency! One of my homies is super **** with women. He's all over them (and it's reciprocated) but he never takes it to the next level. (Doesn't date em).

So he's swearing off women for ever!

WTF!

The guy has NO BALLS. and NO GAME. How do I *****slap him? Hire a hooker?

Seriously though he was an...RAFC - now he's all doom and gloom.

Guy needs a boost - should i hit a strip club with him?

Help needed! :) I can't do hitch for ****!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Here's what you do. Explain to him some of the principles of the DJ bible and TELL HIM HOW TO CLOSE. Being that you're on this site I'm sure I have no need how to tell you this. Explain this to your friend. Go to the bars and make sure you have some kind of signal set up so you can take your friend aside if you need to. When your out let your friend do your thing and talk to the girls (with a little liquid encouragement if needed). Then when he starts to screw up take him aside and remind him of some of the DJ teniques and HOW TO CLOSE. I'm sure he'll do fine once you explain things to him.
 

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"asexual" really means "homosexual" in this case. Wait until he starts grabbin' your bum!
 

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I know what u mean dude ... my amigo just started giving up lately with the chicklets too and wont go clubbing or do much of anything except work and school anymore. He keeps saying his time will come some day with a girl , and that he's just not "feeling it" lately. I pointed out numerous chicks in the dancehall the other night to talk to and game , but he just wussed out.

It gets to the point where u just say "fvck it ! , your not gonna drag me down too" and just leave him behind and find new friends
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Originally posted by italostud
"asexual" really means "homosexual" in this case. Wait until he starts grabbin' your bum!
Haha i told him he'd go gay. And he said he'd then be scared of men and live in a bungalow.

I'm hittin the pubs tomorow with him. See if I can get him some poontai!
 

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this is kinda like me- Im at that plateau where I've got some of the mindset and I can get chicks talking and everything, but I'm finding it hard to have some balls and just close. Sometimes, yeah, it feels like I'm useless and I should just swear off chicks. It's like one day everything's going great, the next I have no clue WTF I'm doing. Encourage the guy - he's probably teetering between returning to AFC or breaking into DJism.

But what do I know, I'm just a RAFC
 

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You can't really take the decision to pursue women form him, he has to actually want to be succesful himself. Just let him know that if and when he wants to change his attitude about it, you got some tricks for him.
 

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So you good folk will drop a friend because he won't wing you.

You sick bastards.

Bro's before ho's. You KNOW this.

The guy has other ****ing priorities in his life and loses interest in picking up women on nights out. Big ****ing deal. Are you so empty that you push him aside? What the hell are your guys there for, someone to rate the ass with and nothing else? What bores.

For the original poster: the guy needs a success. Strippers or *****s won't do it. He needs an honest to goodness hit. You'd be doing him a big favour if you gave him some help. If you can't do anything else, just sit him down at the bar and tell him how it works, and tell him he HAS to do it. If what you say is right, all the guy needs is 1 success under his belt.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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