my boss is a little concerned about his wife going to Amsterdam with two of her friends, they had a little rough patch a few months ago when they fought, i'm thinking its not a good idea myself, might be a way for her to cheat without him knowing i told him to be on alert, what do you guys think?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
my boss is concerned about his wife going on a trip with friends
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
No.Danny
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A train will be rode!
All aboard that dudes wife
All aboard that dudes wife
If you can't trust your wife to be away from you for 24 hours you shouldn't be married to her. If you don't trust her to be away from you for 24 hours she shouldn't be married to you.
Healthy relationships mean time apart to grow and decompress. Clingy *****es need to understand that and so do jealous dudes.
Healthy relationships mean time apart to grow and decompress. Clingy *****es need to understand that and so do jealous dudes.
he's been bugging me for advice on what to do, every few minutes he changes what he wants, first he wasn't going to let her go, he said it was ok for her to go, now he isn't sure.
his wife is very attractive, younger than him, i dont think his behavior is helping him any, going to a sex place like Amsterdam isn't good for a marriage, thats for damn sure, i would hate to see him get fvcked over, i told him to be on alert.
his wife is very attractive, younger than him, i dont think his behavior is helping him any, going to a sex place like Amsterdam isn't good for a marriage, thats for damn sure, i would hate to see him get fvcked over, i told him to be on alert.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Correct. If you pick yourself a woman to be your wife who you feel could cheat one day, or would not be 100% loyal then your life will be a living hell. Living in jealousy or insecurity is not fun, it's not healthy and it really makes your life hell (i been through it). It's not that difficult to figure out the type of woman you are with and whether she is the loyal type or one who could cheat.
Finding a good woman is not an easy task. One piece of simple advice is don't expect to turn a ho into a house wife. Don't expect to turn a former party girl/club girl into a loyal housewife.
This is also correct.
No woman should be tied to you in chains 24/7. You really have to man up and just learn to trust your woman. For the good of both of you, the relationship, but specially your mental health.
I speak from experience. I was in a relationship where for months everyday I would worry about her loyalty/faithfulness. It was literally on my mind every single day. When I met up with her everything was great and i forgot all about my insecurities. But when we were apart my insecurities came back. It was all my mind playing tricks on me and keeping me in this hell. It's all in your thoughts and you have to take control of them.
It took me a long time to man up and realize I couldn't watch her 24/7 nor shouldn't I. If something were to happen then something would happen I can't control destiny or her. The only thing I could do was to make the relationship the best I could when together and just be happy.
It is easier said than done. It all comes with experience. Some guys need to experience being clingy and jealousy in order to feel how horrible it is to finally decide to man up. That's what had to happen to me. I decided one day that I just needed to stop having these thoughts in my head which weren't true.
It's all in our minds it really is. To stop being clingy/insecure/jealous I truly recommend meditation. You have to learn to meditate and just clear your thoughts for a few minutes every day. You don't have to be a buddist to meditate. Anyone can do it.
Do you believe it is a man's duty to prevent his wife from cheating by either allowing or forbidding her to go places with people? No matter what he does, if she wants to cheat, she will. If he doesn't let her go, it means he's building a wall around her and women will want to break free when the tension builds up.asa_don said:
The question is, why does she think it's okay to do this?
I'm a bit split on this as I did go for a short trip with a female friend to an event, slept in virtually the same bed. While it's true that I never tried anything, I'm very sure she was not going to go for it if I did. As for age, we're talking 40's rather than 20's. Her boyfriend was sitting at home, working, and taking care of her dog which got sick the day of the departure. Seems AFC move, but seen from a perspective, trust me, it isn't. Which brings me to point:
-your boss must bring the situation into focus by deciding what kind of relationship this is, what kind of a woman she is, how she sees the relationship and how she's behaved in the past, what the rough patch in the past was and did anything change after that.
tl;dr: let her go, but shed some light on the whole thing
also: espi, maybe, but that's like trying to cheat karma
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Tell him to start gaming every attractive woman he meets. Right away.
Would she go if she was CERTAIN he'd be effin some other chick as soon as she leaves the house? I don't think so.
The trip is not the problem. Her faded attraction (to him) is. He should seriously start acting like the bachelor he really is, because this man has already lost his woman. Be well-dressed, hit the gym and game other women as much as possible. Either she'll run right back to him (to keep him from effin other women) or find replacement in case it's really unsalvable.
Would she go if she was CERTAIN he'd be effin some other chick as soon as she leaves the house? I don't think so.
The trip is not the problem. Her faded attraction (to him) is. He should seriously start acting like the bachelor he really is, because this man has already lost his woman. Be well-dressed, hit the gym and game other women as much as possible. Either she'll run right back to him (to keep him from effin other women) or find replacement in case it's really unsalvable.
the_stig
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Exactly, difference being that women feel entitled to do what they want with impunity. I'd bet dollars to doughnuts if he tried to say anything about her trip she'd feed him the standard "you're just insecure" nonsenseEspi said:
I've had bad girlfriends, and I've had good girlfriends. The difference between the two being that a loyal woman who values your feelings would never put herself in this situation.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
No.Danny
Master Don Juan
He has nothing to worry about.
She'll be cumming back in no time
She'll be cumming back in no time
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
That biznitch is gonna be smokin doobs and dix in Amsterbang! His paranoia is justified.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
I added that little part in bold, Your definitely right about that. His wife is most likely going to cheat on him im betting or at the very least fvck around a bit. This whole trip has disaster written all over it.the_stig said:Exactly, difference being that women feel entitled to do what they want with impunity. I'd bet dollars to doughnuts if he tried to say anything about her trip she'd feed him the standard "you're just insecure and controlling trying to tell me what to do" nonsense
I've had bad girlfriends, and I've had good girlfriends. The difference between the two being that a loyal woman who values your feelings would never put herself in this situation.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Plus one.The_411 said:
Wouldn't say it's a certainty that she'll cheat. But there is a good chance. It's happened to me, and that chick was only away with her family (all of whom I knew very well, worked with and even lived with for a time!).
Bet she booked that trip right when they were fighting too. Reminds me though, I must get back to Amsterdam one of these days!
he's trying to dump all his sh!t on me, wanting me to make decisions for him, i told him he needs to do that on his own.
i guess she's going for 3 1/2 weeks, different countries with 2 of her friends.
he told me she started acting different when she started hanging out with those women, i guess they are college friends from her old sorority, one is single, the other divorced, he said she wants to act like she is single again.
they were talking about having kids, now she wants to put it off, he's upset by that, i told him that's good, if she cheats and he divorces her he won't have a kid to pay for.
i told him to start living his life, she is doing that, i also said he should think about getting a lawyer, i dont want to make decisions for him, he wants me to, i think a lawyer would be good to get.
good comments guys thanks.
i guess she's going for 3 1/2 weeks, different countries with 2 of her friends.
he told me she started acting different when she started hanging out with those women, i guess they are college friends from her old sorority, one is single, the other divorced, he said she wants to act like she is single again.
they were talking about having kids, now she wants to put it off, he's upset by that, i told him that's good, if she cheats and he divorces her he won't have a kid to pay for.
i told him to start living his life, she is doing that, i also said he should think about getting a lawyer, i dont want to make decisions for him, he wants me to, i think a lawyer would be good to get.
good comments guys thanks.
Tell your boss he already lost her.
No woman that likes her husbands weewee in her vajayjay, is going to spend her vacation with three friends in some other country for a full month. He should use that time to get the divorce papers ready.
No woman that likes her husbands weewee in her vajayjay, is going to spend her vacation with three friends in some other country for a full month. He should use that time to get the divorce papers ready.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
Gentlemen, Place your bets on her cheating or not in those 3 1/2 weeks.asa_don said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.