"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I have recently decided to start boot camp, I am a first year university student, I do hook up, but don't find that much fun anymore. I want to work on improving my social skills more then anything.

Day 1 -

I started on Christmas eve, went to chuch and seen a lot of girls I had known for a while. I am back home from the holidays so I don't see these people much anymore. Said hey to nearly everyone I ran into contact with, and made a lot of eye contact with people well I waited around for the service to start. I love the reactions I get when I look around and smile at a girl and they smile back, regardless I think it was a good day.

Day 2 -
Christmas Day, I was in my house until I went out to supper with my parents to their friends. Knew most of the people their, but they people I ddin't know I was sure to introduce myself quickly (though they already knew who I was).

Day 3 - Visited family and stayed in.

Day 4 - Went to the movie Avatar today. I was pretty awesome. Seen tons of HB's. Made a lot of eye contact and would say hey to people I seen alone to try and give them a boost. Regardless, when I drive I wave to everyone, I find it is a good way to build confidence. Chances are you will never see the people again or they just would not recognize you so it's not awkward or weird at all. Tomorow should be interesting I am going to a party. Just going to role with it.

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Day 5 - yesterday I went to a party. It was a different party a lot of people I had never seen in my life but also a lot of people I went to high school with. I went directly to the part where their was most ladies. Started talking to the ones I already knew and got introduced to the ones I didn't. Worked a little small talk with a couple got them interested and wanting to continue the conversation and I made excuses to why I couldn't continue. After that we went and ate at a restaurant thats open 24/7. say this 9 and she was a waiter. Made small talk, complementing our waiter, but kept my eyes on the other waiter. Made a lot of eye contact with her, could tell she wanted me to strike up a conversation. on my way out I asked her if it was a slow night, she giggled, replied and asked me the same lol. Made small talk then said I had to run but hopefully I would catch her around.

Today I have slept all day haha, but tonight might be interesting.

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Day 6 - I finally awoke and had some friends over for some beers. A lot of my old friends from high school. I worked my charm on them all, even my friends girlfriends haha, and made them want more. It's really interesting seeing how people react when you begin to think a certain way. An example was yesterday mourning I was talking to my friends mom, and when I left she told me I wsa a really getlemen. Funny how things change quickly.

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Day 7 - You know it's funny how eye unopening people are to eye contact. Most people when they make eye contact tend to look away, but if you manage to attempt to keep a lock on their eyes long enough the will look back haha. Today I went out on the field to practise. Went to the mall, did some shopping but worked on eye contact and social engagement by saying hey to anyone with distance. Lot of HBs with boyfriends their. I found eye contact to easy, so I would work on making eye contact with an HB then her boyfriend. I love the dirty looks its like a challenge. And then when they get close enough say hey. thrill lol. Did that a few times today. I also bought the book "Rules of the game" and start day one of that tomorow. I will keep an update on both.

Week 2 begins tomorow and I am glad to say I've made it through the first week of bootcamp.

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Day 8/Day 1 - New Years eve was the perfect night to begin week two and day one of "the rules of the game". So at the party I engaged in 6/10 conversations with strangers. Out of the 6 of them I played the 5 question game with 3 of them and now they all owe me a date to the bars. haha. Worked like a charm, if anyone doesn't know the 5 question game google it. So I am 6/10 for exercises this week but I also completed day one for the rules of the game, I only had to engage in 5 conversations with strangers.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Day 9 - went to my friends house for a new years supper. Had a good time, socialized a lot and worked on my whitty humour. Nothing to spectacular.

Day 10 - worked all day concealed in a shop haha.

I have decided to wait until tomorow or monday, depending on when I go back to university to continue my 30 days project.

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Day 9 - went to my friends house for a new years supper. Had a good time, socialized a lot and worked on my whitty humour. Nothing to spectacular.

Day 10 - worked all day concealed in a shop haha.

I have decided to wait until tomorow or monday, depending on when I go back to university to continue my 30 days project.

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Day 11 - I finally got back to university. It was a snow storm. I approached one girl who ws carrying her baggages, asked her if she needed help, then insisted that I give her help. She denied as I tried to help her, it was storming out and she had to stop every 10 feet. I could tell she wanted to carry it herself so when she got their she could tell her friends about how bad her walk was from the bus stop. It's amazing what some people will do to make people feel bad for them. I also struck up a conversation with a girls about a shirt I wsa wearing.

8/10 two more to go.
 

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Day 12 - talked to a person as I was waiting in line to get sometinhg prossesed. started it by saying sometihng along the lines as "Good thing we got here when we did the line got huge." Then continued into conversation. As well went to the airport and got into a conversation with a stranger about luggage. haha I find another thing that works is just by being a gentelmen, holding the doors for girls and what not.

10/10

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Day 13 - A pretty relaxing day. Lots of small talk, and practising eye contact etc.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Day 14 - forgot to mention that on Day 13 I got asked by a girl to go to the movies. said no, trying to see if attraction continues if they get rejected. Yesterday worked some small talk, drove with a girl to the airport and had a good conversation. Found out a few small things like one nights stands shes had and stuff, kept bringing up her ex, as in to make it clear she was single.

Started week 3 today, tomorow night I could rack up 10.

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