My Biggest Problem

[steve_erkle]

I'm not really a big fan of approaching and **** because I'm still in high school and there's already a lot of hotties there and I know most of them. So the whole cold approaching ascept is unimportant to me.

What is important to me is inner game, just being confident and natural. I believe that if you are completely confident and natural, everything comes to you easily and there's no need for techniques or stuff like that. My problem is that I am a bit shy, and don't really have that confidence. And I don't just mean around girls, I mean everyone, including friends and family. I constantly subconciously feel like I'm holding back from being myself and can't let go of my inhibitions.

I know that I have a awesome personality because back when I wasn't shy like this and was confident I attracted some awesome people and I was just a lot of fun. I want to be like this again, but idk how.

 

[theobserver]

I still struggle with this same problem, this post helped me out a lot w/ my inner game:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=155950&highlight=myth+confidence

enjoy. good luck man i'm there right with you

 

[PrettyBoyA]

I was shy my whole life but now people tell me they do not believe that I was ever shy. I suffered badly from social anxiety.

The only cure: put yourself out there. There is no shortcut for social experience, although I will say that using techniques can speed this up tremendously. (Simply because learning how to act confident will make you seem confident to others. Others will want to be around you because you seem confident. Because others are around you, you end up ACTUALLY being confident... pretty much I'm saying fake it 'til you make it)

Just a tip, learn not to give a ****. That changed my life. Just don't care about what people think, or the result (obviously to an extent). I used to say nothing in group conversations, now I run the conversations. How? I just say whatever the **** is on my mind.