My Biggest Problem (Semi - FR)

[amazingswayze]

I'll start with an anecdote which leads up to my biggest problem. I would've posted this almost a week ago, but the site was down. All good. The end is the most important part.

I went to a high school party last Saturday. I'm in college now so it feels a bit different. Had a good time, even though I didn't know very many people. Approached some girls, nothing major, no escalation. Had a beer and a few rips off a bowl.
The cops crash the party. I run out to my car, a little earlier than I would have liked to. I wasn't wasted or even too high for that matter but it was rushed. I avoid the cops on the way out. I hop in my car and right before I'm about to leave, I see HB7 (Trinidadian) Mackenzie. Ask her if she needs a ride. She doesn't wanna leave without her friends so screw it, she lives closest to me anyway.
It took a year and a half for them to get into the car and by the time they do, the cops walk up to my window. "Are you leaving?" Yes officer. I stall 30 seconds... He shines his flashlight directly into my probably bloodshot eyes. "IS THERE A PROBLEM?" No officer. I left ASAP! I had beer on my breath too.

Ok, adrenaline racing, let's get into the story now. I drop the two other girls off now its me and drunk HB7 in the whip. I'm feeling up on her thigh with her in the passenger seat. I pull up by my old house and after some fluff, she rejects my kiss attempt. Ok. Keep moving. I stop at the store to grab a drink real quick (cottonmouth). I drive closer to my place and park. Music is good, I go in again. She doesn't really wanna kiss. She says, "I vowed that I wouldn't make out with you" Ok? I ignore that. Keep moving.

She lets me take her top off and suck her titties. I nibble them and I nibble her ear. She lets me finger her. She's melting. Still in the frontseat. She suggests we move to the backseat. Why didn't I think to do that?

Back seat now.... Almost instantly she hops on me and starts giving me a lap dance. This never happened before. I was getting more aggressive with my touch. My **** started getting hard. As I go to unzip my pants, she hops off.

...

So confused. All the tension basically evaporates. She says that she was going to suck my ****, but I don't know how to act. I was too pushy. There's a 'give and take'. She says I turned her off. "I don't listen"

So, everything basically stopped there. I couldn't even get a drunk girl to suck my ****.

I get her number before I drop her off and we part ways.

I text her the next night and she ignores me. A few days later, I find out she stole the Aux cord from my car. She finally responded to me today, 5 days later. "I'm sorry, I just saw this message now".

I still didn't respond because it took her 5 ****ing days. I don't even know if and when I should. She's a *****. Now, I just want my aux cord back. I ruined the escalation. I understand that now I have to act differently during hookups and I need to keep my frame.

MY BIGGEST PROBLEM:
I lose my frame when hooking up. At least 3 girls have told me, "I'm a dog", "I have no self-control", and "they get turned off". When I meet resistance when trying to finger, I push it too much. I kiss too much. I grab too much.

This story kind've proves it.

My biggest problem is that I lose my cool when I escalate. I can feel up, suck titties, and then the passion is gone. I need to play my cards right. I can fuk way sooner if I change my behavior and stop being a needy little bvtch.

There's a lot of places I went wrong:
Lessons from that night

1. Get her in the backseat

2. Don't push so much

3. Be more graceful (gentle and assertive at the same time)

4. Be ready to walk away

5. Make her come to me

6. Seduce better (voice tone)

7. Good breath at all times

8. Good cologne at all times

9. Make the first kiss good

10. Pull away

11. Read signals better

12. Keep that ***** wet

12. Get it while she's hot

Anyways, that's what happened. The girl finally texts me back 5 days later, after taking my aux cord home with her, and leaving me with blue balls.

True story.

What can I do to change, and what should I do about this girl in particular?

P.S. I know I already lost my frame, I just want to get my shvt back.

Edit:
At the end, when I dropped her off, she goes, "You should be proud. I was only gonna let you drop me off"

Bvtch.

 

[Mr Wright]

Well this is a good thing because now you know where the limit it. If you're consistently having girls say these sort of things to you, the next time you get in that position try something different, you're young so you will fück more than you get it right at first. Just take basic human dynamics into account, if you're pushing for something she is naturally going to try to force you back even if she wants it herself. It's counterproductive but it's just how people work, we slot into roles. This is where "game" comes into it, you're getting to these situations, which is good but to finish it off you need to make small adjustments. You need to reign it back in a little, use a little push-pull, just remember for her the tension is all in the takeaways, it's the absence of your touch and attention which makes her like you more. If you're just battering at the gate for ages, what is there for her to get excited about?

 

[amazingswayze]

good advice so far, except i haven't responded to her text yet. i don't know what to do about that. she made me wait for a week to get back to me and she still has my aux cord. so obviously, a major lesson was learned, but i don't think this is finished yet. any thoughts, anybody?