My biggest issue: Oneitis + Relationship trust

[TheManMasenko]

Every time I gave one of my ex girlfriends exclusively, they ALWAYS talk/entertain some other men which causes me to be jealous (I know it’s an issue, but how the **** should I feel?, Some lame **** wants my girl and my girl didn’t tell me so I cant confront?)

They ask for my phone, I give it. But I honestly don’t want too. They see I’m loyal but that doesn’t change ****. They still entertain.

The worst part is that other women want to talk with me too, but I have a gf at the time. So I don’t entertain nothing (since my girlfriend is going to check my phone).

I posted something similar to this and you guys said I should be loyal. But I feel, I should always have another girl on the side (Even Pook the goat recommend this).

What are your thoughts? I’m just tired of having options, being loyal to one. Then our relationship falls apart. And now I’m left with nothing.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

They ask for my phone, I give it.

Their mistake and the other one is on you bro.

 

[pipeman84]

You have to preselect carefully...don't just put the GF label on the first good looking girl that gives you some attention. Remember: can't polish a turd, can't expect loyalty from hoes.

 

[Gamisch]

Every time I gave one of my ex girlfriends exclusively, they ALWAYS talk/entertain some other men which causes me to be jealous (I know it’s an issue, but how the **** should I feel?, Some lame **** wants my girl and my girl didn’t tell me so I cant confront?)

They ask for my phone, I give it. But I honestly don’t want too. They see I’m loyal but that doesn’t change ****. They still entertain.

The worst part is that other women want to talk with me too, but I have a gf at the time. So I don’t entertain nothing (since my girlfriend is going to check my phone).

I posted something similar to this and you guys said I should be loyal. But I feel, I should always have another girl on the side (Even Pook the goat recommend this).

What are your thoughts? I’m just tired of having options, being loyal to one. Then our relationship falls apart. And now I’m left with nothing.

First of all you NEVER give you exclusivity to a woman, she must EARN it, and next "fish" for it. It should be her idea. If a woman doesn't bring it up, assume she doesnt want it.

Secondly you dont show your phone to anybody. Mobile phone should be named PM ; personal mobile, like the personal computer. You dont ask for hers and if they ask to see tohe phone you simply show her that's your boundary. Period.

My personal new philosophy is to NEVER fully trust a woman. And I've lived with several women, shared income and tax, I am a father. So this not something I came up with after reading some dating guru. Its personal experience.

The less you care, the less stress you'll have and the more she'll gravitate towards you.

 

[soulforge]

First of all you NEVER give you exclusivity to a woman, she must EARN it, and next "fish" for it. It should be her idea. If a woman doesn't bring it up, assume she doesnt want it.

Secondly you dont show your phone to anybody. Mobile phone should be named PM ; personal mobile, like the personal computer. You dont ask for hers and if they ask to see tohe phone you simply show her that's your boundary. Period.

My personal new philosophy is to NEVER fully trust a woman. And I've lived with several women, shared income and tax, I am a father. So this not something I came up with after reading some dating guru. Its personal experience.

The less you care, the less stress you'll have and the more she'll gravitate towards you.

This is great advice... Never ask a girl to be in a relationship with you. Make her earn the title, or let her chase you for the LTR.

Once she brings up the LTR conversation, then you have the leverage and can dictate some terms. Don't be afraid to let her know what your expectations are, and what you won't tolerate. She will either comply or fuk off.. Both are win win situations.

I think in this day and age, most Woman cannot be trusted. Just be quick ready to eject if she messes up.

 

[2Rocky]

I think a slightly different mindset is needed. Before you enter into an exclusive relationship:
1) feel like you could easily go out and seduce an equally attractive and sexually stimulating woman. You have faith in your abilities
2) Feel like this woman is "The one to beat" She treats you well, she makes your **** hard, she is not holding you back from anything in your life.
3) this woman encourages you to grow and improve in ways you WANT to. She is not trying to change you, in fact she encourages you to be you. The more genuine you are, the more attracted she is.
4) People who matter to you notice you are changed for the better. More happy, more accomplished.

When you feel this way , you seldom feel like you risk "losing" her. Instead you feel like what you ARE has attracted her and you keep being yourself. You know that if she were to leave, plenty of other women would KILL to be in your life. That confidence is sexy and is the best cure for FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)