"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My best girl friend asked me if i liked her -_-

Kev07

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backround: I used to like her last year and i made it known to her(she said she wasn't interested yadadada), but she ended up getting with another guy, so i was like fvck that. but she kept talking to me and stuff so she kind of became my best girl friend.

then a month or so ago she breaks up with her bf and i don't know, i started liking her again, wtf?. and then i ask her to homecoming but then the day i asked her was the day she got back with her boyfriend, har har -_-. so on and on i'm not really sure if i like her or not, i think it's like i kind of do, but i tell myself to just stay away because i've kind of fallen into the "Just friends" hole.

ok so that's the backround, now for now.
a day or 2 ago, we were chatting on AIM and then out of nowhere shes like.
her: hey i have a question
me: wat?
her: do you still like me?
-ok at first i was like whoa what would make me stop liking you( i thought she was talking about just as friends not like crush) then i realized she was talking about liking liking her.
me: lol conceited much?, jk nah, i'm past that
blhab albhalbhalbhlabh
her: blahhlbahblahblahbl
-then after that shes like
her: ok i have a problem.
me: what?
her: i woke up this morning and realized that me and my bf aren't working out (her relationship is pretty much nonexistent, they barely pay attention to each other blah blah all that stuff)
me: ok then break up with him
her: all this stuff i forgot, but i didn't really give her any solid advice.

then she g2g to church and signs off, and like 15 minutes later she sends me a text message saying something about she really enjoys talking and spending time with me and doesn't want me to get the wrong impression, but she just doesn't know what to do with her bf.

I just feltl ike typing that out.:confused:


PS: can someone explain the HB rating to me, i really have no clue what it means, except i guess higher the number=hotter the chick!??! iono
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Mmhmm....

I highly doubt she's breaking up with him for you....so don't look too far into it.

HB1=Ugly
HB10+=Perfection.
 

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So what the hell do you want? Do you want to be friends with her or do you want to fVck her?
 

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It's obvious he wants her.

This is tough territory. Personally I'd guess she's not really that into you and is just having a tough time with her BF. I'd think that she's just using you as an emotional tennis partner to get her "friend" rocks off.

But I could be wrong.

The thing is... if you're interested... the worst thing for you to do would do show a bunch of interest here. Go out with other girls, let her know that, but make yourself available to "hang out" with her. She'll get jealous, assume that you're the shiznit (lol), and maybe, just maybe, she'll make a move on you.

I'm assuming you're quite young, and am basing my analysis of her on that.
 

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strange, for the past few months i've always been trying to hold in my emotions for her cause i realize that shes not interested, but after this conversation, i duno, i've started to lose interest in her. i'm not sure what i wanted from her or this thread i just felt like typing it out.

i've been trying to tell myself not to like her for so long that i'm not even sure where i stand on her anymore, but now i'm definetely losing interest.

and yes she is using me as an emotional tennis partner or w/e it actually happened before the first time she broke up with her bf, but that time i was a complete chump and tried to help her the best i could thinking it would get me somewhere, this time i just w/e it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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first of all, if he didn't like her, he wouldn't have posted it here.

secondly, she woudln't have asked you unless she known without a shadow of a doubt what the real answer is. and you probably said you didn't, which failed her **** test.

on a seperate note, why does EVERY post like this, end up with the guy trying to describe the girl and her BF's relationship as a horrible one... well.. he is ****ing her and you aren't, ovbiously he is doing something you aren't and you were that great she would be humming you right now. not just this post, but every other girl talked aobut here is dating some insensitve jerk who is never around (execpt at night when he is bashing her head in the bedpost) and doesn't "understand her" like you do.

when I was I think 18, my oneitis was single didn't want to date me becuase I was well.. a chump.

all guys were these jerks who didn't understand her, she couldn't find the right guy, blah blah blah, and here I am screaming "look *****, i will drink your bathwater". One night, as she called me literalry every night, she was talking to me and her "mom had do ask her something". okay, she called back about 30 mintues later like nothing happend.. and it happens all the time. no big deal.

i found out about a year ago, on that particular night, a guy climbed though the window and ****ed her brains out and called me back when he left... not around huh?
 

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i found out about a year ago, on that particular night, a guy climbed though the window and ****ed her brains out and called me back when he left... not around huh?
Nice....just nice (in that, that's pretty right on, midnight random sex)
 

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lol... you don't have to tell me about the whole bf ****ing(well not really shes religious and won't do it before marriage, or so she says) her and i'm not cause i already know that and i knwo where i went wrong, it happened like last year when i was a COMPLETE chump. i was just saying what she told me and she told me she wanted my opinion on if she should break up with him or not, i just told her she answered her own question by asking me that.
 

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and you have to ask yourself why are you still communicating with her in the first place
 

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Kev07 said:
her: hey i have a question
me: wat?
her: do you still like me?
She could just be looking for an ego rub at this point

her: i woke up this morning and realized that me and my bf aren't working out (her relationship is pretty much nonexistent, they barely pay attention to each other blah blah all that stuff)
me: ok then break up with him
her: all this stuff i forgot, but i didn't really give her any solid advice.
She's either -
a) indicating for you to make your move
b) looking for sympathy/advice

then she g2g to church and signs off, and like 15 minutes later she sends me a text message saying something about she really enjoys talking and spending time with me and doesn't want me to get the wrong impression, but she just doesn't know what to do with her bf.
She's made it clear with this statement...almost. either she's sh!t testing you or she's serious about just staying friends. IMO, she's serious.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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