my best friend flaked on me

[pyros]

So my best friend told me to go with him to a party cause he thought it was gonna be a bit boring and he wanted my company...ok.

He was gonna have dinner with some of her cousin's friends and then go to party. I said that I would text him after dinner so he could tell me where they were headed and then I would meet them there.
So I texted him after dinner to ask where they were and he replied:

him: We're going to some girl's apartment
me: ok, so where is that?
him: I dont know, I dont know her
me: what? so? ask the address you dumbass
(20 mins later)
him: we're already in her apartment. I dont know anybody here so maybe you can join us later on when we get to the club?
me: what???? I'm already dressed, groomed, and waiting for you. Im not gonna wait a couple of hours until you get in the club, wtf??
him: but I dont know anybody here! (he knew his cousin, it was his cousin's party! and I know him too!)
me: what are you talking about?? are you stupid? you told me to go to this damn party. You dont know anybody??? you know your cousin! I know him too! are you stupid? its midnight and Im dressed and waiting
him: you dont understand, this is not my party
me: ARE YOU FUC-KING KIDDING ME??? I just had a coffee and a shot and Im waiting at home, and its 01:00 am!
him: its not my fault

So, he flaked on me. I dont know the reason, he did not give me any. I knew him, I knew his cousin, and they were around 12 people. I dont know why I could not join them at this girl's apartment, why not? Besides, he stood me up and did not seem to care.

Now its been two weeks, and he texted me as if nothing happend to go to grab a coffee and I refused and told him I was angry with him. He did not want to understand that he did anything wrong, and again he did not seem to care at all.


So, Im pretty furious because 1) he's suposed to be my best friend for the last 10 years. 2) he stood me up 3) he did not seem to care, and he did not apologise or something.
I have to add that he stood me up the same way a few years ago, among other minor issues but this time it really made me angry cause I was already dressed, well groomed etc waiting for him to go to party, but for some reason he did not want me there.


Opinions?

P.S.

I would not like to ditch him cause he's my best friend, or he is suposed to be, but the way he behaved...just says he's too damn selfish.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Hmmm

"Best friends," don't flake on their best friends.

 

[backbreaker]

you don't invite people to other people's house.


if i go to your house, it's not appropriate for me to invite someone that you did not specifically invite. that's pretty much general common curiosity regardless of if you know that person or not that has nothing to do with it

you are the one out of line here IMHO. the dude made plans, a monkey wrench got thrown into the plans when they went over the cousins house or whatever and you got the shaft but that's not his fault. The dude could have either invited you to the party even though you were not ivited or he could have stood you up, he did the socially appropriate thing


cause i can tell you no one comes to my house and invites anyone i have not invited myself or my wife has invited i don't' care if i know you or not. if a dude cae over my house and invited some other random ass dude both of them would be kicked out. that's like the one time about what, 2 years ago when i made the post about the girl leaving the BF for 4 years or what not for a new dude. We threw a party a month or 2 later for i think labor day a cookout or what not and someone told the ex we were having a party and he shows up even though i knew the dude for 3-4 years id idnt' want him there i knew what was about to transpire and within 30 mins it went nucular ****ed up everyone's time.

 

[Bokanovsky]

You come across as a pretty intense and angry dude. I'm guessing that's at least part of the reason you weren't invited.

 

[speed dawg]

Sounds like he's a pretty self-centered type guy to me. And you sound like a b*tch. This guy straight up tells you that he just wants you there just in case he gets in an uncomfortable position.

I think the mirror is probably where you need to look. Are you a needy b*tch nor not? If you are, EVERYBODY is going to take advantage of you, not just the *******s. So honestly I cannot tell if your pal is an ******* or not.

I guess I still don't see why you didn't just meet them at the club.

 

[pyros]

Maybe I have not made myself totally clear. In this party there were my best friend, his cousin, and his female cousing too, and I know all of them, amont 6 more people.
Besides, I do not see what's wrong if he asks if his best buddie (ie me) can join them after dinner to go to this girl's place.

As I said it was 00:30 am I was dressed, awake (cause I had a coffee) and waiting for him to tell me where I had to meet them, but he just told me that he was going to this girl's place and basically, I could not join them. So he stood me up and I had to go to bed.

I did not want to join them after the house party because I did not want to wait from 00:30 am to 02:00 am or more when they were going to the club.

In my opinion he should have at least asked if I could join them, and...and...if the owner of the place told him NO, he cant, alright then...but he did not even ask. Besides, he could also have gone for a drink with me instead of going to that girl's place and dumping me, and then we could have joined them in the club.
See? two good options, he chose none.

 

[mangotot]

Its the opening posters fault. He should have other options rather then relying on just one person. Go and make lots if friends so this does not happen in the future.

As for his friend, honestly there is no such thing as best friends. He highlighted exactly what human beings as like. People are generally *******s.

 

[Desdinova]

So, he flaked on me. I dont know the reason

Men will flake on other men when there's a woman involved. Remember that.

When was the last time you had a friend flake on you because he was hanging out with other dudes? Probably never. Men generally see things as "the more men, the bigger the party!"

Your friend wanted to spend time with a chick, plain and simple. Men protect their investment in their prospects, and that includes keeping their male friends away. Many times it will inflate to a point where he can't hang out with you because time with her is more important, and he doesn't want to piss her off.

When they break up, he will be eager to hang out with you again.